Let me give you some examples..I used to be friend with this guy and we were friends for 8 years. The last year of our friendship, he became unemployed and I helped him out. The problem was he wasn't trying to help himself and then he took the advantage of my help. I even saved his life from Hurricane Ivan. I used to have several close friends at a church I used to be a member of. When I left that church due to corruption and favortism, they did'nt want anything to do with me. I used to friends with another guy for almost 5 years. Last year, I realized he did'nt have time for friendship, because he was too busy being a happy home maker, trying to keep his wife happy. But I was accused of being the bad guy.