I will never understand normal people even though I mixed with some of them for 4 yrs I will never understand why my sister would not want me wherein shorts to her wedding if it was a hot day (if it was a hot day I would miss the wedding) I will never understand why people where trousers on hot days and drink big pints of beer till 2am I will never understand men’s obsession with sex, football, blondes, everything in black I will never understand woman’s obsession with absolute perfection you must not do this you must not do that And why celebrity are paid millions to star in a movie As an autistic 25 yr old man it would take a genius to understand normal people
Understanding others is subjective. I myself am perplexed by what others may do, just as they may be perplexed by what I do. Sometimes you get a good idea on how their minds roll, sometimes you don't. Just the way humanity works. Nothing's ever quite the same.
Understanding others can be as difficult and broad as trying to understand oneself, in part to normalcy being so subjective.
Humanity is a mixture of learned and inferred conventions, some of which make sense from a pragmatic perspective, and some of which don't, and are instead based in more irrational foundations such as tradition, superstition/belief structures, or historical anachronism. These standards may vary wildly from group to group, and even person to person, and are often among the defining characteristics for those entities. Your sister wants you to not wear shorts to her wedding because she sees it as a formal occassion, and shorts are not considered suitable formal dress (comfortable though they may be in hot weather). Even though its uncomfortable, we wear suits and trousers to show visually that we're recognizing the event as important and worth dressing in "our best" for, as part of the wedding ritual. We also all follow the same fashion conventions (even if we don't all dress alike) at such an event as a show of unified approval and recognition of the importance of the marriage. At the very least, you'll be making your sister happy on her wedding day by dressing the way she wants you to, and that's a nice thing to do for her. People wear trousers on the hot days because of the above reasons (fashion conventions, group identity), and also because some people just don't like shorts. The same people drink beer until 2am because getting intoxicated makes them feel good and is something they enjoy (even if they might not enjoy the consequences), and is an action they associate with celebrations such as a wedding. Alcohol and celebrations are linked in a lot of global customs, and drinking (and toasts) are used as another action to recognize and accentuate the perceived importance of the event (much like formal dress). Black is a slimming color that's associated with expensive fabrics and upper-class dress (especially black linens and silks and fabrics other than wool). More importantly, black and white and both colors/shades that go with basically any other color, which allows a man to easily coordinate his dress with whatever color his female company is wearing (I'm as completely lost as you on women's fashion, however). In the modern era, black formal wear for men is just another convention, based in tradition. Guys are obsessed with sex because it feels good, there's a certain biological drive towards that obsession, and because western culture pressures them to be obsessed with it. Similar with footy. As for women's seeming obsession with perfection, that may just be the ones you're exposed to on a regular basis, as many are more laid back. If you're referring to your sister, she probably wants everything for her wedding to be perfect because she wants to enjoy the event as much as possible, and also because there's a social pressure on women to expect a "perfect" wedding day, and more than a little pressure in terms of their perceived status in the eyes of their peers, in many cases. Celebrities are paid millions of dollars to star in a movie because movies will make hundreds of millions of dollars, and because audiences are interested in seeing certain celebrities onscreen or on the pitch or whatever. This interest creates a market demand, which means that celebrities are able to command higher pay to appear (as there may be multiple parties that want them to appear in their projects). It seems ridiculous, I know, but its the nature of entertainment, and an arrangement where all involved parties are satisfied.
Aernaroth, when you look in the mirror, does your reflection lean forward and whisper: You're awesome? Because if not, your reflection is severely misinformed.
Obsession of sex is easy: Normal people are much easier controlled by their hormones, instead of their free will. And pretty much everything comes down to this, if you watch people around you carefully.
...but I like black :| Also, there isn't really such a thing as a 'normal' person. Everyone is different in their own way, no one is exactly the same as another, so, um yeah. No such thing as a 'normal' person really.
There are lots of things I don't like about "normal" people too. I despise the obsession many people (primarily, but not only, men) have with sex (note that I'm not asexual, I'm simply not driven purely by a motivation to get laid as soon and as frequently as is humanly possible), although I will admit that it does make sense form an evolutionary point of view, since continuation of the species is supposed to be every being's primary reason for existence. I don't like the obsession lots of people have with getting super drunk either. Getting a little drunk is okay, but I'll never understand why people like doing something that makes them do incredibly stupid things, causes them to lose their memory for a few hours (which would be an extremely terrifying experience for me), and then makes them feel sick for a while afterwards. I do love black, however. And I understand why your sister wanted you to wear shorts to her wedding. I'd have made the same request. I don't like wearing shorts period, but especially whenever I'm supposed to be at all formal. I SO hate feeling underdressed.
Can I just add in that I don't drink to get drunk? I actually hate being drunk (it's a control thing). But I enjoy the taste of beer. Good beers. Not Bud Light. And having a good meal with good company while enjoying a good beer is the best.
