When someone should leave negative feedback or just let things go....

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  1. MeGrimlock1976

    MeGrimlock1976 Wrecker

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    Just had a bad experience with a member I was working out a trade with. Said he was committed to dealing with me for 2 specific figures. I was in a deal at the time with another member and one of the figures was involved in that deal. I altered that deal with him with his total consent and understanding since I had found a better deal with the problem user which was trade vs. cash. Needless to say after going out of my way to take extra pictures and waste lots of valuable time working this all out the user backs out on me and tells me he decided to keep his figures instead. Meanwhile I had altered my previous deal to exclude the figure so now I am without the figure and to make things worse, I had another opportunity to get the first figure in the raw deal and passed on it since I was committed already. Now I have 0 figures I wanted and no chance right now of getting them!! This guy had these posted in his Buy Sell Trade and had clear prices on what he wanted for them! I had originall offered the cash price or trade in which case he chose the trade option.. So mad right now since I have wanted these figures for longer then I can remember! I finally get the chance to get them and this happens!! Do I just let it go as a lesson learned or should I garnish this guys feedback for such crappy behavior?? :( 
     
  2. Aernaroth

    Aernaroth <b><font color=blue>I voted for Super_Megatron and Veteran

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    If you didn't have a written, confirmed agreement that the deal was going to happen, and money/toys hadn't changed hands, the other party was free to walk away at that point. This is an inconvenience, but not something worth leaving negative feedback over unless they've done it more than once. At least, that's how I see it. Deals fall apart, shit happens. Your negative feedback amounts to "wouldn't give me what I wanted", unfortunately.
     
  3. transtrekkie

    transtrekkie On the level.

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    Yeah I'm a little hazy on this too, did you actually send figures and they've now essentially been stolen from you or did the deal just fall through?
     
  4. MeGrimlock1976

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    The thing is I was willing to give the guy the $18 a piece for the two figures he had advertised in his sales thread! It isn't like he wasn't offered everything he wanted. I offered to trade instead and he was the one making the deal. I just think it is pretty sad when He advertised a price and I was going to pay that price and he backs out on me when I think things are fine and we communicated back and fourth over this for a few days. Very misleading bullshit and not a way to deal with someone!
     
  5. MeGrimlock1976

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    If you post something for sale then you should be ready to sell it especially when someone is willing to pay exactly what you want for it!
     
  6. smkspy

    smkspy Remember true fans

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    Like others have said, deals fall apart, people have changes of the heart. Get over it and move-on, you'll find what you want somewhere else. It's not that big of a deal.
     
  7. Aernaroth

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    Doesn't matter. If he didn't want to make the deal, it was his right to walk away, for whatever reason, at that point. He is under no obligation to provide you with what you want, even if you meet the price he asks.
     
  8. MeGrimlock1976

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    It is man when you waste lots of time you don't have and you look forward to something so much and put so much effort into it just to have someone back out at the last minute when you are willing to do just what they wanted and asked for in the first place! I spent a few hours digging out packaging alone for a figure this member wanted that doesn't count all the email and photos I took and the days of communication! I work hard and long and my free time is limited. I have a right to be really upset here wether you think so or not!
     
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    Like everybody else said, it's not a big deal. You didn't get swindled in any way.

    I find it hard to believe you wasted "a few hours" digging out the packaging for a single figure. Seems a tad dramatic.
     
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  10. transtrekkie

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    Ok, just so I'm clear: You're not actually out any money or figures? Yeah, I'd let that go. Yeah, it's frustrating, but dude, these are mass produced items, you can get whatever it was somewhere else.
     
  11. MeGrimlock1976

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    I actually am out one of the figures. I already had a deal for it but backed out because I thought I had a deal here. I also passed on a great deal on the other figure since I was already negotiating with this guy! I obviously will get no sympathy here! I guess everyone here thinks it is ok to post things for sale then decide it isn't anymore when you go to make the deal after putting all kinds of effort and time into it! Oh and yes, I did spend a few ours. I had to hunt through my entire apartment to find the packaging!!
     
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    To be honest you are coming off as a bit of a baby here. Yeah, it sucks. But it's his right to back out for whatever reason just like it's your right to back out as well.

    Does it suck? Yeah but no one was swindled. You are not out any money or figures in your hand.

    You're just out the figures you wanted.

    There will be other deals. Just breath. Calm down, have a cookie and get back at it. It's not the end of the world.
     
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    smkspy Remember true fans

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    Dude, we've all had it happen to us. I had the same poster, twice promise to buy all my Marvel Legends. I too spent hours digging through all my packing bins for every ML that I owned just to never heard from him again.

    It sucks, but all you can do is get over it and move the fuck on.
     
  14. MeGrimlock1976

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    Exactly, it does suck and I plan on moving on. I just wish people were accountable for this kind of shit somehow. Honestly, I would rather not deal with this shit again so that was the reason I posted in the first place. Feedback should reflect this kind of shit. I certainly don't want to deal with it ever again and would appreciate reading it so I know before I have to.
     
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    some members hurt my feelings some times - they not know i am special ed person
     
  16. Haloid1177

    Haloid1177 Hey, That's Pretty Good

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    Has nothing to do with the OP's question.

    I'd say let it go. If the deal went through and that behavior persisted, you put that in feedback. But because nothing was paid for, just let it go.
     
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    firehawc_69 cloppers = ignore list

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    Even ebay has an option to back out of a sale, "item no longer available." You're just whining because you didn't get what you want. You didn't exchange money for figures so the deal never happened. Get over it, nobody owes you anything. There's no "accountability" that needs to be enforced on anyone here.
     
  18. MeGrimlock1976

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    It's gone. Just was frustrated and wanted to vent I guess I chose the wrong spot to do so......
     
  19. transtrekkie

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    Wait, so you sent the guy one of your figures and never heard from him again? Cause if that's the case, then yeah, I'd post feedback.
     
  20. MeGrimlock1976

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    No, nothing was sent.

    Thanks Haloid1177. Finally someone that had some decent, non degrading input and feedback and actually understood what was posted in the first place.
     
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