damn. sorry, Dri. thats fucked up.

 

I'm actually anti-war now. Lost too many friends already.

I've never said the sentence "Would you like to go on a date with me" or any variation of it before, but I see what you're generally trying to tell me. I've got these shields up for too long, and it's time for me to lower them. In fact, I'm currently going through a process of trying to reinvent myself, breaking my old habits and whatnot, trying to make myself more "presentable", being a 20 year old who has way too much plastic figures compared to muscles. Besides, she and I have been hanging around together for almost four years now, I'm certain she's comfortable with who I currently am. Question is, is she comfortable enough to the point of being in an actual relationship with me? That's what I want to know.

I'm cool as a cucumber. See?

My generation is the tipping point between calls and texts. If she was okay with calls, I would.

Bro. Get over here.

 

Well that was weird. GF came over tonight and everything is fine. We go to bed about midnight. An hour later she says she can't sleep and she's going home. So I ask if I did or said something wrong and she says no, but she was clearly angry or irritated or something. So then she leaves, no explanation or anything. This has never happened before so it's completely out of left field and baffling. So here I am, thinking I've obviously done or said something wrong, but fuck if I know what it is and probably good luck ever finding out.

Cliffjumper: You wanted to know if anyone ever feels like dating isn't worth it? Yeah, right now I'm feeling it. And ladies, if you wanna know why men treat women like they're aliens from another planet, see above. Pulling batshit crazy stunts like that and not bothering to give us any clue.

Wrecker: Don't bother. Enjoy your friendship. After four years, I can't help thinking that if it was meant to be or she was interested it would have happened by now. And besides, even if you two do hook, eventually she'll just do something batshit crazy that will make no sense and leaving you wondering what the hell is wrong with you. Besides, it sounds like it would mostly be a long distance relationship and that VERY rarely ever works out.

Dating is like trying to pet a black widow spider: You have go really slow, be really careful and even if you succeed, you still wind up getting hurt.

Sorry guys, I'm just confused and venting. She still has several things that she left here which, I think if it was over she would have taken them with her. So maybe everything is ok, but at this point, I really don't think so. And here it is, once again, three months into the relationship and NOW the problems are going to start. Yep, right on schedule. I swear I must be cursed or something.

 

You and me both. So sorry to hear about your turn of events. Hopefully, she's just dealing with something outside the relationship but that's something I'd discuss with my partner. At least they'd know what's going on with any attitude displayed. It's hard not to let the negativity get to you when things are left in limbo like this. Just don't let her take you for a ride you won't enjoy.

 

Ok so me and my son's mother got married on jan 12th, things are just the way they should be, no more joint custody/child support/court stuff, and she is taking my name and i am now living with her and her parents again(oy vey) but i'll be keeping my eyes and ears better open this time, with the instincts of a wolf but anyway, i am finally happy again.

 

Thank you. That's the weird part is we talked about everything that was going on in our lives and she didn't mention anything that would have explained this. It's just so out of nowhere that I really just don't know what to make of it. Fortunately I'm at a place in my life where I'm happy with who I am and how I live and I don't need a relationship to be happy. Regardless of what happens, I will go on with my life and be happy no matter what. She can come along for the ride or not, and in that respect it won't matter either way.

 

Then after tea and cake and ices, push the moment to its crisis, or resign yourself to being a pair of ragged claws, scuttling across the floors of silent seas.

It's been four years you've known this girl, you claim she knows you well, and SHE'S never tried to escalate the relationship to something romantic. Does she make the same efforts that you're talking about to try and spend time with you? If not, you might already have your answer.

 

I fixed it so the most important part of what u said was quoted. This gets repeated ad nauseam. Sadly it is also the largest part of personal happiness that people cannot get into their heads because "he" or "she" completes me crap.

 

I'm going to Sac City right now. I used to go there, since I began taking classes while doing college work. The plan was for me to transfer to Sac State, so I worked on GE requirements and music. So that was for four years, with my mother passing away in the Summer of 2012. It was at the end of that year I told my girlfriend (then friend) that I was interested in pursuing a deeper relationship. The next year I transferred to Sac State and spent the past year and a half there majoring in Music Education. However, I believe that going full time was not very productive, and I felt embarrassed to only being doing school and not working, which I what I really want to be doing now.
Now I'm taking a break from Sac State for right now and working on an AA in Songwriting at Sac City part-time (I'm very close to finishing, and I'm looking for work right now), so as to at least have a degree. Then I'll see where things will go from there, since I plan to propose in the near future (fingers crossed  ).

So, yeah, it's not entirely off-topic, and I don't mind sharing. I find it a real shame at how this whole "system" of education is set up, I just want to work and earn an honest living. Apparently that's too much to ask.   Maybe I'm feeling anxious as well about beginning a new life with someone and really looking forward to it, but it seems that's only part of the reason.

 

I don't usually glance at this thread but I had an experience recently that I think I just want to get off my chest.

So I work primarily at a college bookstore. Earlier this week I get a friend request on facebook. A chick had gotten my name from her receipt and sent me a message and request saying I was really cute. I looked around and calmed the red flags enough to accept her friend request.

Since that point we chatted non-stop. Literally 2 and a half days with the only silence being sleep or work taking our attention for a bit. Yesterday after I get out of work we have a date. Work had tried to call her in and she lied just to see me. We were totally into each other and almost constantly kissing. It took me about 10 minutes of goodbyes to finally leave her car to get into my own.

Unknown to me, after our date she gets a text from her ex boyfriend. She had broken up with him because of her own insecurities with herself. He had apparently recently been dumped by his new girlfriend not long ago and wanted to give her another shot to see what happens.

Now she and I were into each other like crazy but actually have almost nothing in common. I was willing to give the relationship a shot as well to see where it went. But she was so conflicted and had said she had considered marrying her ex. So I backed off. I wanted to leave her a better person than I found her and this fits the bill.

So yay for getting a chick for A date and loosing her. Haha, life man.

 

Good luck with the proposal, hope it works out for you two. And don't give up on school/work front, I have a fairly decent job at the State and I only have an AA in GE from CRC, so it can be done.

 

Pretty much. There's only one way for you to find out Wrecker. Ask her.

So what? She doesn't like to talk?

 

I used to get like this with a guy I didn't really know, he'd ask me for my number and I'd say I was really shy on the phone. After I get comfortable with someone, you can't get me to stop talking.

 

  Well, as long as you weren't doing the one worded replies. That's annoying as all hell.

 

No, never. I always have to explain myself or go into detail.  

 

What is the nicest way to say to a woman that her vag stinks?

 

I don't really think there is.

 

yo baby, i don't want to be rude but your p***y be stankin'!

 

Too late, I told her she smelled really bad...down there. Best I could do. Help a girl out?