That's pretty hard to do when the damn lunatic won't stay away, and your wife doesn't have the spine to cut off communication with them. Her moving to FL WAS the best solution- not just for me, but for everyone. You think I enjoy seeing my wife constantly upset because of her? It's because my wife constantly feels obligated to watch over her mother that she's often unhappy- and I've told her multiple times: Bertha is a 50 yr old woman! You shouldn't have to keep tabs on your 50 yr old mother! Plus, nobody ever said you had to- so why do you keep doing this to yourself?! It's self-torture! And she always tells me, "Because SOMEBODY has to."- THAT'S WHAT THE POLICE ARE FOR HONEY! IT'S NOT YOUR JOB TO WATCH OVER YOUR WACKJOB MOM! So to answer your solution: I can't completely cut her off because my wife won't let her go. I've done everything I personally can to separate myself from wackjob Bertha, but as long as my wife still continues to text, chat, and meet up with her outside the house: I'll never fully be rid of Bertha. And I've reached the point where I'm ready to violently yell at Bertha- I will scare her away- if that's what it takes. Whatever it takes for her to stay away from me for long periods of time. Because again: She's so mentally sick, that if I were yell at her, and got aggressive, like started flipping tables and throwing shit at the walls: She'd have the idiotic nerve to run out of the room, and the first person she spoke to, she'd honestly ask, "Why did he do that? What's his problem?"- because again: She STILL doesn't get it. She still doesn't understand the wrongs she's committed and why all of us are upset with her. She just doesn't get it. Her mental illness prevents her from seeing how her actions impact other people- so she honestly doesn't understand WHY the rest of us are so incredibly upset with her these days/want nothing to do her anymore. So I'm basically stuck punching a brick f-ing wall with this mentally sick pain in the ass woman- and legally there's nothing I can do. I can ban her from my home, but I can't commit her- and that's what she definitely needs.