Really surprised no one has created a thread for this. (If they have, I can't find it.) Willing to bet that there are a lot of stepdads and stepmoms here on this site. I know being a "regular" mom or dad can be a struggle, but being a step parent can be just as hard, if not harder. I am currently the step-dad to my wife's 14yo son. I knew my wife in high school, but we didn't date until 2010, at that time he was 8. We bonded a bit over Legos and TFs, but not a solid bond. He is an only child was the only child his family, (including aunts and uncles) had for a while. So he got spoiled, like a lot. He was never really made to understand consequences or disciplined much, and from what I know of my wife, she was raised in a similar fashion. I, on the other hand, had a more......structured upbringing, with groundings and spankings. TL R version, he was (and somewhat still is a spoiled child), both me and wife have been raised differently and thus have different views on how to raise him. I love the kid, his name is Tyler, but a lot of times, I don't like him. He's more into YouTube, hunting and fishing, whereas I'm more into Lego, TFs, (of course) and reading. We connect here and there but not a whole lot. His dad is still somewhat in the picture, Tyler just doesn't want anything to do with him, which is awesome. I am more of a dad to him then anyone else has been. I don't have a parenting bone in my body. I don't know how to be a good dad. I don't how to do the punish and praise thing. He doesn't call me dad, I won't make him, when he wants to, he can. Sometimes he refers to me as his dad to other people or his friends. Me and my wife and son are all going to have a family talk soon. I need and want us to be a better family and communicate with each other more. I know there are other step-parents here. Let's make this a support area for us. Sorry if my post sounds like rambling, hard to really type out feelings. Share your stories on being a step-parent, give advice, let's help each other.