i'm trying to prove a point to someone. If you had to choose between A) a physically unattractive person who is confident. Or B) a physically attractive person with no self confidence Who would you choose?
Sorry, but that's too black and white. There are widely varying degrees of attractiveness and confidence. I'm pretty sure the woman who was trying to be the worlds fattest woman was confident she wanted to do that, but no amount of confidence would make me want to be with her.
A, usually. But I also can't stand people I'm interested in being totally not confident in themselves. It's kind of a turn-off. Really, looks aren't the determining factor in why I'm attracted to someone. I've had a girlfriend express horror at how "ugly" my husband is, before she knew who he was, and I couldn't stop giggling at her remarks because his looks weren't the reason I was attracted to him in the first place, his personality was the number one reason why I fell in love with him. It was quite funny when she figured out who he was though and I will forever keep her mortified look in my cherished memories. As long as someone is confident in who they are as a person (NOT just their looks), I'm a-okay. Too much ego is a turn-off, and the "woe is me" crowd is a turn-off as well. I always wanted someone comfortable with themselves, flaws and all, confident in who they are as a person (mentally, physically, etc), and who would be comfortable with me, flaws and all. And I was very lucky that I found such a person. Anyway... My answer is A. For sure - but it does depend on the "confidence" level. Egotistical jerkoffs are just as unattractive as the "I'm so ewwww, nobody loves me, I'm an emo kid" types to me, personally.
A for me as well. My friend puts himself down all the time and I try to tell him that no one wants to be with someone who lacks so much confidence. My girl too! Hot as hell but she doesn't see it.
I agree with "liege prime" there are different levels of attractiveness. a beautiful face on a girl doesn't mean she's totally attractive. she could also have a extremly skinny body that make here un-attractive. Personally i'd prefer a smoking hot curvy body & a somewhat decent pretty face.
(A) the guy could be confident because he's filty rich. doesn't necessarily make him a kind guy with a heart of gold. He could be a guy who cheats on his wife all the time. (B) People grow & gain confidence within themselves as they succeed in their goals in life. So marrying a beautiful women with no selfconfidence isn't as bad as it seems. not everyone is comfortable in their skin right away,it takes time.
B, always B. They're super hot and lack confidence so they'll be desperate to please. I can't see why you would want some ugly heifer that thinks they are hot shit.
I agree. And I can't really answer this how I'm supposed to because physical attractiveness doesn't bother me in the slightest - so I guess out of the two I would have to pick B, because people who are overly assertive or confident put me off.
Same. Confidence too often spills over into arrogance. There's nothing wrong with being humble about yourself and letting other people make a judgement on your looks (although it doesn't mean you have to care what they think!).
A, all the way. If you have a girl who's self confident, she's gonna put her twist on whatever you say, so you sound like the bad person. She's also gonna misinterprate every word you say.
Both can be attractive. It depends on the degree, and a lot of other factors. I'm always suspicious of confidence. Don't be fooled by it. Confidence paired with ignorance can be a lethal combination. What I like is a certain quiet confidence. The kind of confidence that's merely an accurate reflection of a person who knows their own strengths and weaknesses. Not some slick façade of a personality with nothing interesting underneath. The unconfident person strives to make themselves invisible. For whatever reason, they're just unsure of themselves on some level. Doesn't necessarily mean they're any stupider or less capable than anyone else. It does mean you have to put in a little more effort to get to know who they really are, but they can be some of the best people worth knowing. The person who is both confident, and attractive? Wow, what an asshole!
I'd go with B as well. Hot is hot no matter what. That should be on a PSA somoewhere. However, there is always the plastic surgery option.
There's a fine line between those two. I love beautiful woman, but I hate those hot chicks that are overconfident and full of smug. You know who I mean, those that think their hotter than everyone else. Those plastic-people who think everyone else is no good for them. Yet, ugliness doesn't attract me no matter how confidant they are. But between beauty and confidence, personality makes it or brakes it.
