Fuck man, sorry to hear it. I have no other advice, cept for that you should be proud that you are the one in the relationship that is rock for the kids. Good on you. Move on, you will find another girl, another Job and another life. This could be the life event that you look back on in the future and say, I am so glad that dumb bitch left... Also don't feel bad about the 25 year old collector...there is nothing wrong with having a passion for somthing other than sleeping around and asking other internet users if she is "HOT OR NOT" Good luck buddy.
Wow, that is crazy. I would have never talked to her again after the first time she cheated, but ah well. I'm sorry to hear that there are two kids involved in this, but I applaud you for stepping up to the plate and doing the right thing. Good luck with everything! I'm sure it will all work out in the end. BTW, don't make the same mistake a 3rd time. I know that she is your children's mother, but I would get them as far away from her as I could. It's only a matter of time before she "comes crawling back" again. Good luck again.
what a bitch man, excuse the language, i am here for ya bro, all of tfw2005 is here for ya when needed, we are one big, crazy, family
Trust me bro.... It has nothing to do with you not being "manly". The same thing happend to me after 13 years (that´s how long it took me to find out about her cheating on me..), and I play football myself and work as a bouncher in a big nightclub.... Somethings wrong with her bro, not you!!
Where did that picture on hotornot come from? If she posted it herself then she's an attention freak. After her cheating on you once I'm surprised you took her back. All I think you can do is shore up your life, go back to your old work (depending on how amicable your leaving was) and move on. Bear in mind, she'll come crawling back to you at some point, you're permanently attached to her via your 1 kid (and this is going to sound cold, but the other one isn't yours, no matter your emotional attachment). If she sees you with your shit together I'm sure she'll want to join in, but then the moment someone else gives her some attention, off she'll go to cheat again.
The fact you're a collector is irrelevant. You have a tough road ahead, but you can do it. But you really do need to concentrate on getting custody of the kids, both of them, and supporting them - you don't know what kind of crazy shit she might pull in a few years when suddenly she feels 'guilty', or thinks she's found 'Mr. Right' (again), or revenge, or any other stupid excuse to snatch the kids away for her own purposes and screw up their lives further. You also shouldn't date anyone until you get all this straightened out (and get fully checked out by the doctor!). The kids are the most important. --Moony
Please don't take offense, but, give her the bastard and try and squeeze as much child support out of her as you can. Unfortunately you're a male so the system is bias against you, but keep working it at. Also, never take her back. No, wait, take her back, convince her to quit her job and then leave her.
why quit..I would never quit my woprk for a girl no mather what she made. because the small chance of the relashinship failiur is ALWAYS there. I am sorry for you but of the story you have written you have mostly your own to blame because you took back a girl that hade already cheated on you and you continue to trust her and quiting a work for a girl is just insane. But good luck to you
Man sucks that she ditched you like that man.... honestly I would have never went back for seconds maybe for a fuck and thats it. Once a cheater always a cheater, sorry to say it but thats how it is
Shit..... #1- Go to the doctor, find out if your kid is your kid and get tested for any sexually transmitted diseases. #2- Go and try to gt your old job back if you can, maybe explain what happened, grovel a little, and you never know right? #3- Consult a lawyer and start figuring out the custody thing, before she strikes first later on down the road. #4- Flick yourself really hard in the balls if she ever trys to come crawling back. She looks like she can be very persuasive, but you know you have to say no. It is going to be okay man. If it makes you feel better, I hugged my computer monitor (seriously). You are the same age as me, you still have your whole life ahead of you and you do not need to deal with shit like this from anyone. Good luck and take care. Jesse
I guess all I can do is repeat what others have stated. 1 - See a doctor to see if you have any STD's from her, and to see if the other kid is yours. 2 - See a lawyer - drain her dry with child support. 3 - Try to get your old job back - you need it to support the kids. 4 - Be strong for the kids, even if they may not be your own. 5 - Under NO circumstances get back with her. Find a good porno if you feel the desire to get back with her. 6 - Be careful what you post here about the situation with her. If it comes to legal action things you say here about her could be used against you.
The moral of this story. ONCE A CHEAT ALWAYS A CHEAT!!! It is one thing to be nice another to be stupid. Not calling you stupid but a heart in love makes you down right ******ed. I don't get why you left a position of utter bliss to go back into hell. You're choice I guess. In the end the damage is done so good luck. ANd get child support from her which shouldn't be hard. Thanx Transbot90210
Whenever these kinda threads pop up, everyone often offers sound advice. Does anyone listen? Hardly. Trust me, this is not the woman for you- don't confuse good looks and experiences together for true love or companionship. It sounds like she was never a real companion at all. You want to know about Karma? The game she's playing is only going to work for her a few more years- when she gets in her 30's, she won't be able to f**k every guy she gets attention from, and it will probably be far less attention since the guys she's playing around with probably won't be interested as soon as she has a wrinkle, and she will long for that guy that treated her right. NOT the guys who tell her she's hot, NOT the jerks that approach her for a "good time", but the guy who was willing to take in a non blood child and be a good Father. By that time I can only hope you'll have someone, and won't throw that poor someone aside for this tramp.
Wow, total lack of respect for you from that silly tart. You're definitely better off without someone who constantly cheats on you. And that's got nowt to do with being a toy collector or comic geek or anything, women who aren't bitches don't care about that stuff.
Yup yup it's true, After reading this story, I wonder did you only stay with this chick and want her because of her looks? You even posted a pic of her? Maybe there is something you should look for in a woman beyond looks. Like some loyalty and non-whore-like qualities. Move on, just move on, One of the kids is your own? You get visiting rights, you'll see your kid. But just forget this girl.
all good comments to hear. far too many good comments to quote and respond too, but ill try and address some. here are some facts that i KNOW to be true. 1. im dumb sometimes and i trust everyone. 2. she is a bad person, but when things were good, they were great! not worth all this but still... 3. i have 2 kids! end of story! blood does not make you a father! 4. i dont have any STDs. i checked right away! 5. the people that post here at tfw are the greatest people in the world. i mean that. thanks for all the great comments! i never thought so many people would be willing to listen.
Tell the courts that she is a dirty F$@KING whore and her actions place your children in danger with the violent men she hangs out with. Collect child support and allimony. Cut your losses and file for divorse. Cheat on you once, shame on her. Cheat on you twice, shame on you. Hang in there.
It's better than you don't do that. Act composed in court. Seriously, it'll show you are the stronger one.