im sorry for dumping this on you guys, but i love the feeling of brotherhood at this site.... this is long and maybe boring, but i want to say it anyways! i was born in 1983. im not a bad looking guy, but i had pretty low self-esteem (but what "dork" dosent). i was pretty open about my love of transformers, comics, and other "dorky" stuff through elementary, but like most kids, when i entered highschool, i tried to move those sort of things to the back burner. i would rush home after school to catch beast wars, but tell my "cool" friends i was going to work or whatever. late into highschool i just decided to stop being something im not, and let my inner dork run wild. i had never been so happy. then "she" happend. i was working part-time at mcdonalds. becky was and is the hottest girl i have ever seen. not just okay! a 10! super hot! after two or three months i somehow worked up the balls to ask her out, maybe she was just being nice, or maybe it was pitty, but she said yes! some how we hit it off. she had no problems with my DBZ and Matrix posters, and thought my transformers were kind of cool. jackpot! a super hot girl that will put up with my hobbies!! then i hit the first bump in the road. after about 2 months of dating i found out that she was cheating on me. it was like a punch in the gut from Rumble! we broke up of course, but somehow we worked it out and a highschool fling turned into a long-term relashionship. things went well for about 2 or 3 maybe even 4 years (i cant remember) but then it happend again. she cheated on me, and got pregnant, no less! this was it! WE WERE DONE! i moved on. this guy who knocked her up was about twice her age (late 40's) and a huge jerk, and becky was very un-happy. i however, was living it up! i was happy as could be. i had a great job and a new girlfriend. then this new guy of her's died! HE DIED! how funny is that(not really funny..but a little!) she comes crawling back to me, and like a jack-ass, i take her back, still pregnant and all!! the thing is, i fall in love with this kid of hers. i was there the day he was born and i knew i was going to be this kids dad from that day on. things become great. we turn into this happy family and forget about the past. we move on, and everyone is happy. flash-forward another 3 years, i now have a child with her (making us a faimly of 4). i have quit my great job, because she makes more then enough money for all of us. things are perfect! we are living the "american dream" right? WRONG!!! i find out that she is cheating on me again, and has cheated on my many many more times then i ever knew! she wants nothing to do with me or our kids, and now i am un-employed, single father of two! this is a very very short version of the last 8 or 9 years of my life, and i have left out alot of the details. there is no moral to this story, but i just wanted to get that out of my system!
Wow...and I thought the loss of my girlfriend of 3 years was bad. I'm still not completely over it (she left me ages ago). I know I'm a douche for saying this, but reading stuff like this helps me gain a more positive outlook on my own life. At the same time, it gives me a horrible outlook on life in general. How is it even possible for anyone to desire what this woman did to you? It doesn't seem like it should be humanly possible to be so despicable. I can empathize, I may not have the share the same magnitude of the pain, but I still know it. It's incredibly hard to let long, important periods of your life go to waste and while they say time heals all wounds, it takes too damn long. I unfortunately don't know what to offer in terms of advice but just remember people are always willing to let you vent to them and offer their perspective.
You have my ear braddah, you have my ear. Dunno about the rest of you guys, but I shed tears reading your post and whatever undertaking that you trust yourself to do, you have my absolute support and respect.
the biggest kick in the nuts is that she talked me into quiting my job just a few weeks before this happened!
That is cold man. So did you move out or did she? I hope that you are able to find a good paying job to get back on your feet.She will reap what she sows at some point, Karma always gets you in the end,(or front or side or however it can get you, Karma isn't picky).
It's cool man, she's nothing. Karma will come knocking and thing's will look up for you big time. Can't say the same for her, would stay away from her and just let her be. You don't want to be around when she goes down in flames. Hope the best for you and the family. It takes a good strong dude to do that on his own, but another chick will come by to help out. This girl sounds like she'll bring it all down Hang in there bud, good things should be heading your way
First things first, you have to make sure this doesn't happen again....you have to forget her and never look back. She played you brah, and I hope this experience has in the very least opened your eyes. You deserve someone who is not cheating on you. Also, you should go and BEG for your job back. Try to salvage at least part of what you have lost. It may hurt your pride, but it's worth a shot. I wish you the best
another detail that i left out...i love transformes, star wars, comics, and so on, and proud of it. this guy she left me for is all about fixing cars, sports, and other "manly" stuff. im starting to feel like i should be embarrassed that im 25 years old and know more about battlestar galactica then i do about how to drive a tractor or whatever. i love wathing football, and drinking beer, but thats about a "manly" as i get. i would rather read the new issue of captain america, then watch the world series. do you get what im trying to say here?
Life is tough, as in hard to figure out, and I know there are no easy answers for you but there is one rule of thumb never to forget: Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. Also, get your wang checked she could've given you something.
Sorry dude...that girl was trouble from day 1. If you were married, I suggest talking to the best 5 divorce lawyers in town. You don't have to hire them- just present your case. That prevents them from being hired by her. Fight for as much alimony and child support as you can, as find whatever documentation you can that verifies she had you quit your job. Yeah, and see a doctor, just in case. -Tony!
Damn man...that sucks. One suggestion: Child support. If single teenage moms can get it, I think you can get it too. In fact, you deserve it. Maybe not for the first kid legally, since you aren't blood, but the second is a strong one. Lawyer up and attack cause it's not easy being a single dad. It might cost for a lawyer though. But whatever you do, don't just leave it alone. She might come back and try to take the kids or something, maybe not anytime soon but be prepared. She's a loose cannon and you got kids (and yourself) to take care of. I don't think you are asking for help or anything and is just ranting and not my place to talk but...still, I don't want you to be f*ck over again.
Geerave, I get what you are trying to say, but don't think that way. There is nothing wrong with being 25 and caring more about Battlestar Galactica that how to drive a tractor or watching the world series. She knew this about you and was okay with it. Her cheating isn't about you, it's about her. She cheats. She is a cheater. That is who she chooses to be. She is selfish and stupid. If she was unhappy, she could have brought it up, confronted you, left you, but never cheat. Cheating is the coward's way out. Forget her, move on and find someone that loves you for who you are. Find someone that values what you value and make sure that both of you value you.
Step 1) Go back to the employer and just see if they still have an opening, maybe tell them the crap you've been through. Jut to see if they'll give you a second chance. Step 2). NEVER TALK TO HER AGAIN! Step 3). Get sole custody! Step 4). ????? Step 5). Happiness and Profit. Also, what did you do with that new girlfriend you had before you took her back? Kick her to the curb?
