My parents and I spent November abroad visiting relatives, so we came back in December. Since then my mother had been complaining of her arm/leg joints aching, and weariness. Finally the weariness got too serious so she saw a doctor yesterday. He diagnosed a swollen liver and pleural emission, along with high blood pressure and sugar and prescribed a hospital stay. I saw her after work and she seemed a bit weak, but on the road to recovery. Two hours after my visit she suffered a heart attack. It turns out that her heart had been damaged from strain, and if she'd gone to the hospital earlier it may have been seen and attended to. Nobody knew anything, but hindsight is painful. My father is broken-hearted. I'm holding up better, but I'm also stunned, and feeling grief, regret, and rage. Thankfully I have a sister (working abroad, but who's coming back) and friends, who will help out any way they can. My mother was a sweet and homely woman, and she was remarkably strong and I loved her very much. That's all I can say.
I’m really sorry! Try to not let the regret and anger get the best of you. It will take time...just be there for your family. I lost my Mom a couple years ago and went through many of the same emotions...I think most people probably do. One of the thoughts that helped me the most was when I asked myself how my Mom would want for me to feel and react to her passing. It has always had a calming effect on me and continues to do so to this day. Be patient. I wish you and your family peace and solidarity.
Sorry for your loss. That stinks. Hope things get better down the road, at least regarding how your father feels. It is never easy to lose a loved one. At least you got to see her before she passed. My dad didn’t get that with his mom when she passed. He had been on his way to see her when he got the news she had passed away. Take comfort you saw her before then at least. Again, I am sorry for your loss, from one TF fan to another.
Sorry to hear about this, friend. The only thing I can tell you that I think will help is to stay strong. If you are handling this better than your dad, then be his rock. At some point, it's going to hit you hard, and then he will be there for you. God rest her soul and comfort you and your family.
I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my grandmother not even two months ago and am still hurting from it. It will get better, and some days will be better than others. I agree with the above on being each other's rock when needed. I had to help my Mom get through a couple days because she wasn't taking it so well and the stress and the loss was really hard on her.
