Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Rodimus74, Aug 27, 2022.
Very sorry to hear, man.
I'm sorry for your loss, had a lot of recent scares with mine so this is always a fear of mine, hope your okay dude.
Man... so funny enough I was just looking for a thread to post about annoying shit, my mom being one of them. Of course, I see your post and immediately think to myself, "Well that was some petty shit I was about to post." Brother, I'm sorry to hear about your mom. My mom and I are very different people, and though we don't see eye to eye on a lot of things, she has supported me, helped me through a lot, and has done more for me than I can possibly repay. I hope my mom is around for many years to come, and I'll try to think about this very moment seeing this post, that if I lose my patience, or get angry or annoyed, to calm all that. May your ma fly high my dude.
Thank you to everyone for your continuing support and well wishes. This weekend has basically been a fog and now I'm just getting ready for tomorrow as we begin all the logistical stuff that goes with losing someone. My sisters are taking on most of it since they have power of attorney. I'm going to help when needed and I'm going right back to work tomorrow. Work said to take as much time as I need but for me working keeps me busy and my mind off things. I'll ask for time off when the memorial service gets closer as it won't be for a few weeks. Thank you everybody for posting here and to the ones who have privately messaged me.
I offer my condolences. So sorry for your loss.
I'm truly sorry to hear that. Wish that I had something useful to suggest. Hopefully keeping busy will help somewhat.
It's finally starting to hit me. My sister has been away at my other sisters house the last 2 days taking care of business. I've been here alone in the house and today I found myself going into my moms room a couple times and crying. Just part of the process I guess. Thank you everyone.
May your mother's soul rest in peace. And may you come out of this tragedy all right.
Oh wow, I'm so sorry, my condolences.
Losing a parent is tough.
Sorry about your mom. She sounded way cool to take you to the opening of Star Wars.
I don't like my mom, at all, but I am still scared she will pass soon bc of her age. I don't think your mean, brutally honest, and the type of guy who thinks they are right when they aren't. Pretty average person.
I'm really sorry to hear this. You have my deepest condolences. Take solace in the fact that she lived a pretty full life at 88.
Thank you all. I went back to work today, but probably shouldn't have. Work doesn't even offer bereavement time off for us, not even the higher ups. But my boss told me take whatever days off I need to. I just don't even know what to do now. The last decade has been nothing but taking care of others. My dad passed from cancer at the start of 2012, then taking care of my girlfriend when she battled breast cancer until she passed in 2019 and taking care of my mom since dad passed. I have no idea where I go from here. It's all foreign territory for me now.
You get to try taking care of yourself now. It won't be easy. Life is pain. But it can also be filled with joy. I'll reframe from talking about cheesy motivational crap, and just say I hope you can find some real meaning to your life.
You had mentioned elsewhere that there is a void you're dealing with. I hope that your sisters can provide you with some emotional support. Try not to fall too deep in that void.
The tears show how special she was.
sorry for your loss, if you ever need to reach out, please do so, I can only begin to imagine how you are feeling
You're going to have to find yourself again. That's going to be tough, I'm not going to soften it for you. Self-reflection, humility, honesty, and probably a lot of trial and error. It was good of you to be the caretaker for so many people who needed help, but it could be that time for you is closing, and now you'll need to take care of yourself. The good news is that even the pursuit of that new self can be a time for growth, enlightenment, and at times, joy, and the reward at the end is becoming a person you truly want to be.
These are likely to be hard days ahead for you, remind yourself that it is natural to grieve, human to hurt in your own way, and that it is ok to not be ok. There's likely support out there for you, if you reach for it, sometimes in places you never expected. Being open and honest about your feelings like you have been in this thread is good way to be, and you deserve to be recognized for it.
Sorry for your lost. I know how it is, my mother passed away 4 years ago. They say you have move on with your life, but you will never get over it.
Thank you all for your honest words and thoughts. Yeah, it feels weird and scary at the same time. I've never gone through the 5 stages of grief. But I am starting to feel anger about the usual platitudes that come along with the death of a parent. I have been getting so many texts and calls from people I haven't seen or spoken to in years. I get the "we're here for you" and "you need anything let us know". I'm reminded of when my girlfriend died and got the same messages from people. And when the time came to where I needed them they were nowhere to be found. They didn't even come to support me at her memorial service. I'm afraid it's going to repeat itself. I hope I'm wrong this time. I know my family will be there for support and that should be enough for me.
I know. My uncle told me that I have to live my life now and do whatever I want to do.
Sorry, man. I’m not any good at this stuff, so I’ll just leave this here.
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