My mom passed away.

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  1. Ambrojh

    Ambrojh Well-Known Member

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    My condolences and sympathy to you and your family. It is natural to grieve and nothing to feel ashamed of.
     
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  2. Mudslide

    Mudslide Eyes rolled so hard they fell out of my head.

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    Well, it's been one week. I miss her like I've never missed anything.
     
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    God of course you will. You’re in the very early stages of grief. You’ll always miss your mum but you just get used to it and life goes on .. if a bit differently. Do you have siblings or relatives to help you with things? On a practical level get a pad and paper and when you think of something that needs to be done...write it down. Priorise and just do one thing at a time. Hopefully your mum left a will. I’m happy to listen if you need an ear. I volunteered at a hospice and did a bereavement counselling course. Just don’t expect too much from yourself. If you want to cry then bloody cry. You’ll get through it.
     
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  4. Mudslide

    Mudslide Eyes rolled so hard they fell out of my head.

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    I have people I can lean on. A co-worker has been invaluable. She talked me out of a dark place last Monday, and I will be forever grateful to her. One of Mom's former co-workers reached out to me to let me know if I need help, estate-wise or anything, just ask. I've already made a list of stuff that needs taken care of. She had no will. It was another of those things that she just never got around to.
     
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    Well I’m glad to hear that. They sound very nice. I just keep a pad as things shoot in my mind and then go lol. Orrr in my mind and I worry incase I forget so pad solves it! I’m halfway through my will I really should finish it. Hope as time goes on you feel a bit brighter. You’ll get through it.
     
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  6. Doug

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    Sorry for your loss. I know how it is, my mother passed away two years ago.
     
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  7. QLRformer

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    I think a great many people on this board, myself included, have lost their mothers over the years. So don't worry about sharing your feelings here, we all know how painful it is.

    I give you my condolences and I hope your dark times will let in some light eventually.
     
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  8. pilot00

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    My mother was 56 at the time we lost gran and even today after all these years she cries like a little girl about it....There is no age into which you are ready to lose loved ones especially when your life is build with them as a focal point. Its not pathetic at all.

    Just remember two things: You will never forget her, but you will (and must) overcome the pain and move on. Thats what she would want.

    My condolences.
     
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  9. Prime Wylde

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    We are your community, we are here for you. I am soooo sorry for your loss.
     
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  10. heltskelt

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    My condolences. You’re not pathetic. I’m 41 and I’m dreading the day I’ll lose my parents. My wife lost her dad 10 years ago. It hit her hard, but she got through it. It’ll be harder when it’s my mother-in-law’s turn.
    I hope you’ve stabilized your life a bit by now and found inner strength.
     
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  11. sevenlima

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    Dude, welcome to the club.
     
  12. Novaburnhilde

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    Jesus christ, I'm so sorry to hear that my friend. :( 

    Seriously, I'm deeply sorry for your loss and I give my condolences to you and your remaining family.
     
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