Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by ILoveDinobot, Feb 22, 2022.
How is it illegal?
It's almost certain he's not going to come back and that "2 weeks" is going to turn into "until he dies."
There must be some kind of legal compulsory measure that forces him to come back if not simply be prevented from leaving in this situation.
I am not a lawyer, I left that track back in the early 90's, but, when it comes to custody issues, there is no way that one parent can order something without the consent of the other parent (unless there's been sole custody ordered). Custody issues with mini ILD are still up in the air.
I think you misunderstood. I have full custody as of right now. He said he will miss his visits. He doesn't have custody, as he left her i assume. He isn't being forced to visit.
Dang, that's cold.
Wait he hasn't met her before? WTF
You are correct. I misread your post.
Nope. I mentioned that in the beginning. He's dumb, she's dumber.
Is it too much to hope that he's been catfished?
I checked his twitter last night, just curious to see who he follows and it's all sex bots. One of them says they are 18, and he's 40. cringe.
All I know about this girl is he was chatting with her on IG, but he's not following her on IG, and she's not following him. Her user pic was 2 cats with the tails intertwined, that's all I know about her. Maybe she's one of the sex bots. I'm so hoping he gets to the airport and she ghosts him. it'd make this all worth while.
I know folks that have had that happen to them, so it's a real possibility here.
For real? How many people? I'd seriously be so happy, I'd ascend to another level of existing.
One deserved it and learned a lesson, but the other didn't, and lost everything. The internet can be an evil place sometimes.
So he threw away everything for what could easily be a set up for To Catch a Predator.
If this backfires, watch him desperately try to crawl back to you. Don't let him back.
I was really confused when his mom was not wanting me in the house the 1st time I came over when we were dating. Apparently she thought I was a high schooler. Idiot explained to her that I was in grad school and I was like why would she think brought home an underage girl? When we started dating I was 27, he was 30. So I was like that's weird she thought her 30 yr old son would bring home someone underage. It's like all making sense now.
Alright, so this was already reported to my lawyer, who was like "we'll just send a letter". I guess there's nothing that can be done if he hasn't made a move.
About 30 minutes before her school started I hear baby ILD talking to ex's mom on her messenger. And ex's mom asked specifically, what is baby ILD doing today. Asking what time was hockey, what time we will be back for hockey, how long it takes to get undressed from hockey. What ice cream shop we go to after hockey, and even WHERE do we eat the ice cream?!!!! What the fuck, I made baby ILD hang up and told her never to disclose to them or ex where she will be at what times. What fucking creepy assholes. Oh, I did ask her if she knew why they were asking and she said because they said daddy wanted to know. Like, what the fuck?
Just to add my 1st ever social work job was being the person in the room overseeing court mandated supervised custody visits. So, yes, I know how dangerous these questions are. If I was in a supervised visit, those questions are grounds for losing visitation rights.
Yeah, that's suspicious as fuck. I hope you've informed the school that Baby ILD is under no circumstances to be picked up by her biological father, because I can only figure if they're trying to get that information, they might try to make a move on your kid when you're not in a position to stop them.
I also would suggest switching up the schedule to make it harder for them to follow you around - you mention an ice cream shop after hockey, maybe don't go to THAT shop all the time but go somewhere else.
She's does virtual classes, but the school knows everything for when she goes in for tests.
And nooo, I love that ice cream. We do curbside pick up, and it's in a huge shopping center. It's like a strip mall, but it's several circles of stores that make up the strips. It's always crowded and hard to find parking because of the way it's set up in circles. I'm pretty sure we are safe there.
Damn. This whole thing sounds scary. I hope for the best for you, ILD.
did he really leave you for a girl he met online but never physically met who could be a underage sexbot?
I've never been in your shoes specifically, but I've had some terrible breakups and I know they feel terrible. You are wrong about one thing. You can be alone. Everyone can. It isn't pleasant, and it isn't always fun, but it beats being with someone who doesn't appreciate you. I didn't get married for the first time until I was 37. Had my first kid at 42. I believe there's somebody out there for everybody, not just a person to occupy your time but a person to love who loves you back. If I could find somebody, anybody can. But don't go looking now. Make a friend first. A real friend. It's good relationship practice and helps you refine what you're looking for in a significant other. Set your sites higher than someone who opens pickle jars and dusts on top of the shelves.
I wish you well, however things work out. If you need assistance, go to a local Human Services department. You can nail the guy for child support in the process. If he doesn't pay, he can find his soulmate in prison, perhaps.
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