Mental Illness

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  1. Laser_Optimus

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    For some reason mental health issues don't seem to be taken as seriously as they should be. There is a lot of misinformation going around and even among the medical community. Unfortunately the thing with your sister isn't uncommon among lay people that don't have to deal with it directly/regularly... there's this stigma that as long as your physically fine you should just "get over it" or "work through it". The comment about your mom reminded me of the first doctor my wife started seeing for her depression... This lady claimed that after awhile my wife wouldn't need medication anymore to deal with her mental illness and, to this end, would take her off them from time to time to "see if she still needed them". Eventually, after watching my wife go from normal while on the medication to damn near suicidal while off... and doing some basic research to find out this isn't normal... I convinced her that she was seeing a quack that was doing her more harm than good. Depression and other mental illnesses don't just go away because you took a few pills... it'd be like my doctor telling me I've been on my heart medication for a year and now he's going to take me off them for a month to see if my heart disease is gone. If that sounds absurd with a physical illness it should also sound absurd with a mental illness.
     
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    A big part of the problem is that people feel medication and therapy make themselves/others weak and that's simply not the case. No one seems to want to admit they're weak, and I'd even argue that admitting that is brave and honest which is actually the opposite of weakness, but I digress... And there's a difference between momentary weakness and inaction. Momentary weakness is needing to build one's self up or back up, either with therapy or medication, inaction is knowing or not caring that something's wrong and letting it fester/get worse.

    I've fallen into the second camp, before. It's not a pretty place to be, trust me.

    If the world cannot accept you for who you are, damages and all, find others in the world who will. Even if it's a parent. (Honestly? Especially if it's a parent.) There's nothing wrong with needing a lifeline when you're drowning, just remember that when you're back to swimming, a different ocean is sometimes all that's needed to keep your head above water.
     
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    @SaberPrime

    The thing about Aspergers is that its not exactly a learning disability, its more like an intellectual on an emotional and learning curve in slight regard. Basically, you just lack the correct method of socialising and fitting in with "normal" society. People with Aspergers or Autism like to have routine in their lives, but they also like to focus on certain interests. For my example, my interests these days (originally it was just horses) involve mainly dinosaurs, dragons, robots, and writing. A lot of them are usually interested in something like cars, trains (watching Thomas the Tank Engine when I was little helped me pick up things), ect.

    They can be good at a lot of things that involve their interests. Some famous people are believed to even have ASD (some reckon Einstein or Bill Gates had it!). They're very intelligent on a variety of levels, but some just don't know how to even express their feelings, and yet they still find ways of communicating in their own unique ways.

    Neither Aspergers nor Autism should be treated as a burden, a curse or even a hindrance, it should be treated as part of you, to be understood and live with. Not one person has the same condition, but it still makes you who you are.

    Sadly, I've seen people pretend to have it and saying its a trashy thing to have and that they think it can be... removed or... fixed.

    You know what I mean.

    I once went to see a psychologist, and together we worked out a variety of strategies to help me deal with some issues, especially if I become overwhelmed by crowds or if my hypersensitivity kicks into overdrive. I'm also on medication that helps me treat my depression as well as my bad temper. I've never felt better!

    I also put headphones on and turn thw music up to a notch so make loud sounds more bearable. My hearing is really sensitive, absolutely hate it.

    One last thing.

    ASD is more of a genetic kind of thing. My dad's side of the family reckons my uncle (my dad's brother) has it, but he never got the official diagnosis, but no one on my mum's side does. My mum was nothing but a carrier for me and my brother. Even my step father's ending up passing genes of high functioning Aspergers to my half brother.
     
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    That's the problem with the Autism Spectrum, even those in the know mislabel it and it causes confusion and leads to offensive labeling even when the person saying it doesn't mean to. They can't intentionally offend (usually, though some do) when speaking of it because the people who figured it out don't even get it right. =\ And the people who are Autistic have to hear the utter worst and can't always correct someone because of it. (And my words aren't aimed at you or SaberPrime, I'm genuinely angry at the "specialists" who muck it up.)

    Asperger's is the high-functioning "Can't tell there's anything wrong..." end of the spectrum with cases like Dan Akroyd and the kids who consider themselves a bit "off-kilter" but otherwise function normally. There's the group that are more outspoken and verbal and have a harder time with social graces and interactions and it's clear there's an issue, while not a great example but closer to what I'm talking about, Sheldon from TBBT. There's yet another, like my brother in law, who's very intelligent (finished HS and most of college in the same four years) but is afraid to speak/interact and focuses on video games to escape the world around him. (Poor kid. He's got a big heart but he's so scared.) And then you have the other end of the spectrum where they're clearly developmentally debilitated and there's an actual name for it (I don't know it) and because of that, when someone hears "they're on the spectrum!" people automatically assume the worst and use some of the worst labels, ever.

    And to make it even worse, there are children who are born with developmental disabilities (AKA what they used to refer to as "Mental ******ation") and people conflate the two (MRDD and Autism Spectrum) and think it's all the same and it isn't. On top of that, there's also Down's Syndrome as well and it all just becomes a mess. I really, really wish the powers that be who actually know what's going on would get it figured out and really explain it to people as to what's really going on with a child or family member or friend, rather than using a blanket label. There's so much more to a person than what afflictions or... "quirks" if you will, than what a label might imply. So much more beyond the surface, there's a real person there. They hurt just as much as you and I do.

    And then, finally, there are people who are just simply mean-spirited or @$$holes (and we know it) and they claim Asperger's as an excuse, which really makes it bad. Sometimes a jerk really is just a jerk. (Those people WILL get what's coming to them. You and I both know it. It's just a matter of time.)
     
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    Just to clear something up... just because I said it was a learning disability or thought it was doesn't mean you can't still be a highly intelligent person. It just means it might be a little harder for you to learn things or that you learn in a different way than most other people. I'm pretty sure Einstein did have some type of learning disability but he's still one of the smartest people who have ever lived. Past tense as he's no longer living obviously.

    A lot of people have the misconception that learning disability = stupid but that simply is not the case. In all honestly having been in special ed from 3rd grade all the way through high school... except I was put back into a regular ed class for part of my Junior year but I was so far behind by that point I couldn't keep up with the rest of the class. They were reviewing stuff they had learned previously before I joined the class and it was never taught to me so I had no clue what was going on. Anyway for being supposedly so smart I also noticed the kids in that class were way more immature than the kids in my special ed class. Maybe it's because a lot of them had to try harder to focus on what they were doing while the "normal" kids just goofed off and costed by. I ended up failing the regular ed class and going back to special ed after about 2 weeks.
     
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    I mentioned earlier that I am Bi Polar II. I found out the hard way that a fair amount (not the majority) actually get worse where Bi Polar I gets better towards 40. The hardest part is the not knowing. Before the new year, my cycles were actually really regular. Around the 3rd week of the month for 4-6 days I would feel crappy. Now, my cycles are coming more often and more severe and my doctor has had to up my meds twice in the last 40 days and next week will probably have to increase them again. I've developed intense anxiety and it is really hard to just get out of bed in the morning. Where I had 4-6 bad days a month, now, I have 5-8 good days a month. I'm on more meds and it doesnt seem to work. Also, a lot of really dark thoughts.

    but on the good side, I am only 8 pounds away from my weight loss goal, 3 from my doctors. My meds made me gain more weight than I would like to consider, and since AUg of 2017, I've lost about 53 pounds.

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    Excellent, excellent! Battling your "demons" and coming out the victor is what I like to see! Bravo from this internet anon. :) 
     
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    Its actually easier battling actual demons sometimes
     
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    My wife and I are 100% convinced that my mother in-law is severely mentally ill.
    She possesses a majority of the traits between a sociopath or psychopath.

    Things have gotten...she's gotten completely out of control.

    She has a boyfriend, plans to divorce the father in the next month or so, and she's basically disowned her entire extended family- including her mother, who is currently dying from cancer (and probably doesn't have long- she's hanging on for some reason).

    She's become colder than an icebox man...

    Her boyfriend has a criminal record- mainly revolving around drugs- and we're shocked: She picked a super-shady/super-bad trade up compared to the father. The father might be an asshole, but at least he's not a criminal.

    It's like: Do you realize where you're going with this new fella? He might be making and distributing drugs too- you don't know. He might have a meth lab in his garage- or KNOW somebody who has one- you need to be careful.

    And she's not being super careful- at all....she's being reckless, impulsive, immature, illogical, brash, naive- she has the mind of a child.

    This woman is so eager for love, so eager for a new man, that she'll take one from just about anywhere- and THAT'S dangerous.

    She doesn't care though....right now, at this pinnacle in her life, she is operating 100% on emotion and impulse- she is not thinking ANYTHING through. Just like a child.

    I asked her the other day:
    So let's say you proceed with your plan- you divorce your husband, run off with this new guy, and things don't work out with this new guy- then what will you do?
    Do you have a place to stay?
    Do you have a job to pay for said place?
    How will you pay for health insurance, car insurance, dental work, optical care, or anything else outside of bills?
    Do you have a nest egg of security money in case something happens?
    How will you survive if you're left all on your own?

    Her response: Nervous laughter - That's what I thought....you might want to figure that out first. -_-
    She's basically a human parasite with the regressed mind of a child- she doesn't know how to fully 100% support herself and live completely on her own. She's just hopping from 1 man to another. She's manipulative.

    This is all going to blow up in her face at some point, because she doesn't have all possibilities planned out, she doesn't have a solution for every potential outcome, she's winging most of it- which is exactly what kids do.

    My wife and I have discussed this several times over the past several weeks, and I also pointed this out: Over the past 6 years I've noticed that she can't explain her claims. She just says things on impulse- like a child.

    Take this for example: We're at the park, she notices a man walking down the sidewalk, and says, "Look at that guy- he's creepy..."- (Looks at him) How is he "creepy"- I don't see it.

    "I dunno- he just is..."- That doesn't explain anything. That's not a valid argument. You have no evidence to support how or why he's creepy. JUST like a child says things without evidence to back it up. Hollow claims.

    SHE DOES THAT ALL THE TIME. SHE CAN'T EXPLAIN ANYTHING SHE SAYS- SHE JUST SAYS IT- she's 95% impulse VS 5% logic. It's astounding the way she interprets the world.

    Bottom line: This woman needs serious professional help. She's very very sick man...
     
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    Sounds like she's regressing. You say the husband is an @$$#0L3. I'm not excusing her, she clearly has serious/dangerous problems, but maybe the husband was downright horrible to her behind closed doors that you didn't see/hear. (It happens a LOT more than people realize.)

    With her own demons, his attitude, the new boyfriend, etc I'd say the regression is a coping mechanism but she's not finding a way out, so the regression will continue. It won't get better until it gets worse, something will have to happen before she even remotely snaps out of it. Or, she could end up even worse.

    Point is, do your best to try and reach her, but if it doesn't seem to be doing anything, distancing yourselves from her may be the only escape from such insanity. You can only do what you can only do and you have to preserve yourself from that craziness past a certain point.
     
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    That's actually my fear: That she's going to do all this (and she's already started), she's going to end up on her own in 2-6 months, have nowhere to go, show up at our door, and I'll have to say no. I won't let her manipulate us too.

    After knowing the father for 6 years now, I can certainly say he's an @$$#0l3.
    He doesn't want to go anywhere,
    he doesn't want to do anything,
    he doesn't want to make friends with anyone,
    and he doesn't want HER making friends with anyone- he's a very possessive and stick-in-the-mud man- not easy to live with.

    This is one of those marriages where both sides failed each other- it's a mutual failure. They never should've gotten married, and they should've gotten divorced at least 20 years ago.

    The difference between them at this point: She's lost her mind VS he's still just a dick. They both definitely require professional help, but she's far more damaged.

    My wife has personally reached her temper limit on the situation, "She's just going to stir up another load of drama and bullshit- and we're all going to get involved somehow- we don't need it."

    (Sips his coffee and looks at his wife) Now you know how I've felt since I joined your family several years ago. I knew something was deeply wrong with your parents- especially your mom- back then. I'm glad you've finally caught up with me- it only took 6 fucking years. LOL

    She's definitely in a regressed child-like state of mind- she's behaving directly on impulse and ignoring all potential consequences of her actions.
    She can't explain or defend her claims a majority of the time,
    She constantly plays victim,
    She never takes responsibility for anything she does,
    She doesn't care about who she hurts in the process,
    Anytime she's questioned about it: She just laughs. Like a child.
    She doesn't plan anything in advance,
    She's manipulative,

    She's never had to 100% live on her own, she's never had to 100% financially support herself, she's never had to carry the 100% responsibility of an adult- so she manipulates and leeches onto people to get by- that's what she's doing with this new guy.
    I'd place $1,000 on her being a sociopath. I really would. Both my wife and I would.

    This is a very very very mentally sick, childishly regressed, reckless, and irresponsible woman. She needs help.
     
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    I'm going to place more blame on the husband than I am her. From the sounds of it, he belittled and destroyed her while controlling her and breaking her down. Plus, if she had a horrible upbring or was abused in any manner, it shaped and molded her into what she is now. Could she be mentally ill? Sure. But it could actually be nurture rather than nature in this instance. And victims will rarely tell you what happened or how it happened, etc.

    I'm starting to think she's had a bad run of luck, mixed with a bad life, and it's all coming due on her psyche. I'm thinking she's embracing the current lifestyle because she's never gotten to experience it before. It's like taking someone who's been on crutches or a wheelchair all their lives and then finally getting the ability to walk for the first time in their lives. They're going to run, not walk, everywhere. They'll work harder, faster, stronger than they ever had before because they're going to get the full distance out of it come Hell or high water.

    Not all, but a good number of mental illnesses are genetic and might skip a generation so one or two people in a bloodline might be spared while others will follow down the same path. None of my business and you don't need to say publicly, but take a look at your wife, is she (or has she) exhibited ANY of the same behavior? Has she been diagnosed with an illness? Or another family member of hers? If you can say no to those, good news, it either skipped a few generations or there isn't an illness. If there isn't one, then it's specifically her mother and how she's been abused/damaged all of her life 'til now.

    Regardless, she needs help. Both therapeutic and medicinal. I'm normally not one to push for medications, either.

    I genuinely feel bad for this woman, I think there's a whole lot more going on than "Oh, she's an evil Sociopath who turns off her conscience."
     
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    She's adopted, so we have no way of knowing if anything runs in her biological bloodline- but I think it's a bad enough situation where it's obvious something's critically out of order.

    My wife has an anxiety disorder + depression,
    Her sister has anxiety + depression,
    The son has anger management problems- but not to the point where he can't walk down the street without punching somebody- he just has angry blow ups every once in a while, and it's usually with his wife. (Chances are he learned it by watching his parents when he was younger)

    I think the mom and dad's shitty marriage definitely negatively impacted their children, and now their children all have emotional disorders in one way or another, and it's the parent's fault. 100% their fault.

    Whether or not there's a genetic factor at play: I don't know, but from what I can tell, their childhood home life definitely molded their current disorders- not the best developmental environment.

    I agree completely with what you said about her embracing this new lifestyle, because that's exactly what I told my wife last night: She's been stuck and cooped up with the father for 37 years, and she's decided to exercise her freedom by cheating on him with this new guy, making friends with his friends, going out alone, and doing whatever she wants- she's decided to finally say "fuck it" and just do it. She doesn't care about any consequences it may have.

    She has issues with her siblings and dying mother as well- she's officially disowned and cut off contact with them. Basically this woman, aside from her children, has isolated herself from the rest of her family- her children are the only people she claims to care for anymore- them and her new boyfriend. (She might just be manipulating them all too- my wife even questioned that last night- we don't know what to believe when her mother speaks anymore)

    What concerns me is that she's placing herself in a corner, burning all these bridges, not planning ahead, and if things don't go the way she wants: She'll be stuck in the corner by herself, with no way to support herself, nobody to run to (except her children), and THEN what will she do? She's not thinking it completely through- she's running completely on emotion and impulse- like a child.

    She's very child-like, she doesn't fully think things through to the end, she never fully plans anything out- she just hops on impulse, and whatever happens: Happens, and when it blows up in her face- she plays "victim."
    That's how she manipulates people.
    No responsibility, maturity, structure, logic, empathy, guilt, or evidence to defend her claims- she thinks, talks, and acts like a child- because only a child works that way.

    I think her entire life has created her current sociopathy, and at this point her sociopathy is in full swing- it can't be shut down. She won't stop or listen to anyone.

    All my wife and I can really do is watch the destruction and bullshit unfold, like Godzilla stomping through a city.

    She's not a danger to herself or anyone around her, so legally there's nothing we can do.
     
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    You can do one thing. Don't watch the destruction unfold, don't watch it at all. Now, is the time to distance yourselves as much as possible. Don't be cruel (unless you're being cruel to be kind) but definitely walk away as much as you can. I keep saying she needs help, and she does, but it's not help you or your wife or her siblings can provide. Don't try, either. It will bring you nothing but misery. There are other avenues you can go down to help her, such as letting the court or doctor know just how off the rails she's gone when they finally need to take action (and they will). Don't do it to be vindictive, do it so the court knows the whole story.

    I think pity and structure are what she needs, I think distance is what you need. There's nothing wrong with self preservation after a certain point.
     
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    That's also what I said last night: If I were my wife...(throws his hands up and backs away)….that's why I'd do at this point.

    Just let her roll....because it's clear she won't listen to anyone who doesn't feed into her manipulation- if she can't twist and jerk them around: She doesn't need them anymore.

    It's like a child wanting something- so they go to 1 parent, and get "no"- but then they run to the 2nd parent, hoping to get a "yes."- that's exactly what she's doing. Manipulation.

    That's why she's spending so much time with this new boyfriend of hers, because he's the only one willing to say "yes" to her anymore- he's the only one willing to cater to her child-like ways- and nurture her.
    She'll take it from wherever/whoever she can find it- which again: DANGEROUS.

    For all we know: This new boyfriend of hers might see everything we see- and he might be using her child-like mind to cross-manipulate her. That's the dangerous possibility. She might end up in a ditch somewhere. Scary.

    I'd love to distance us from this- I'd love it if she didn't visit us for the remainder of the year honestly. LOL

    But in short:
    This woman didn't feel loved by her mother growing up.
    She didn't feel accepted by her siblings or extended relatives because of her adoption- she always felt they deliberately treated her differently.
    Didn't feel loved by her husband of 37 years- and now that's caused her to commit adultery.

    This woman is so deathly desperate for love and acceptance that she'll sacrifice whatever it takes to get it. That's where she's at. She's willing to place herself in potentially dangerous situations for it. She needs help.
     
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    I have anxiety and depression.

    Was verbally bullied throughout school.

    Repressed my negative emotions.

    Something in me broke after my mother died in 2007.

    My condition was left untreated.

    I slowly began to withdraw.

    My lowest point came in 2013.

    After three months living alone.

    My father was recovering from surgery in a nursing home.

    I had nothing.

    No money.

    No hope.

    I tried and failed suicide.

    Something I kept secret from my family until recently.

    My sister helped me sign up for assistance.

    Which lead to a psychological evaluation.

    I now had the means to see a doctor.

    Medication alone only did so much.

    Then in 2015 I started therapy with Stephen.

    By then my father's health declined (dimentia).

    He was a full time job.

    I had no experience.

    This lasted until his passing in 2017.

    Few months later my sister married and moved out.

    I again felt alone.

    The suicidal thoughts began creeping in.

    This time I spoke up.

    Was hospitalized for a week.

    Now I go to a day program called South Bay.

    It will be 2 years this September.

    I'm currently looking to volunteer.

    Maybe at the hospital where I was admitted.
     
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    I have disabilities and these days I wouldn't be surprised if I got diagnosed with Depression if I went to a Therapist.

    Living in a stressful situation and my short term memory doesn't help some days I got diagnosed with that Aspergers in Highschool when I went to a Rehab Facility and these days I can't tell what is driving me crazier the stress from this living situation or the quirks I have driving me nearly insane.

    So basically I work on keeping myself sane these days and try very hard to keep from grumbling about things since that's what makes things worse some days.

    I don't handle negative things very well and don't handle being angry or enraged very well since that wrecks me mentally.

    Maintaining mental control is what I focus on so much it's second nature to stay in control.


    I'm something of a Vulcan these days when it comes to emotional and mental stability since it's logical to stay in control and avoid being on the net when I have mood swings.


    Between Short Term Memory issues that annoy me, the crap that I deal with due to my disabilities since it's one of those things that sucks a lot when you have more than one issue causing you problems finding I'm managing to stay sane since most of my time is spent focusing on chilling out -if I didn't do that I'd Vesuvius everywhere and it wouldn't be pretty if I went off when I got mad about something.

    After being diagnosed with High Blood Pressure last year it's been very important to stay chilled out since it feels like there's not a lot of a limiter on me when I get angry due to things and feels like the main thing I know about the Aspergers is that it's like one doesn't have control or the needed levels of control to keep from going off.

    Thankfully my focus the past 20 years since High School which was hell was to focus all efforts on making sure I have control.

    It's a full time Job but worth it to stay in control.
     
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    My wife works in Healthcare. She sees people of all walks, but today shook her.

    A patient came in with Bipolar Disorder and he told her he was certifiable (his own words) and that he was diagnosed with homicidal tendencies but doesn't take his meds because he's worried it'll make him finally kill someone.

    He then went on a rant about how he was going to sue the doctor for not seeing him (mind you, he was coming in, next) and how he sued the last doctor, etc.

    One minute laughing and kind, next minute flying off the handle and threatening. Scared my wife to death.

    And she's seen a lot. This shook her. Bad.

    I understand he's ill, I know what it's like with OCD (and they're thinking ADHD as well, now) but take your meds. When you start scaring others, it's time.
     
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    I completely agree.

    I understand that mental illness can't place them directly or fully at fault for their behavior, but at some point their behavior accumulates and escalates to being 100% unacceptable, and SOMETHING has to be done- for legal and personal reasons:
    1) To protect them + everyone else around them.
    2) To get them off everyone else's backs- because let's be honest: At some point they frankly just become a GIANT f-ing pain in the ass. They really really do. A giant hassle that nobody wants to deal with.

    I've discussed the mental illness laws with my wife and her family several times, because from what we all know (and we COULD be wrong about this): It seems like protective laws and mental illness laws are only designed to become available and useful AFTER something bad happens.

    A good example of what we've discussed:
    We all can agree that Bertha, my wife's mother/my mother in-law, is absolutely 100% batshit CRAZY. We've ALL agreed on that. She's either Bipolar, manic depressive, or a full-blown sociopath- and she needs serious treatment.

    HOWEVER, those of us (mainly me) who would like to get restraining orders against her at this point (because her behavior's reached illegal levels now): We can't get any form of a restraining order against her because we need to prove that she's attempted to harm us, or harm herself- we need to prove that she's mentally unstable, mentally incompetent, or physically dangerous- we need to prove that or we can't do anything. Can't do ANYTHING.

    And that's bullshit! We shouldn't be forced to wait until something happens in order to separate/protect ourselves from somebody we, as a family, can agree is 100% legitimately crazy- that's not fair to US.

    So basically I have to wait until Bertha breaks into my house at 3 AM on a Tuesday, and tries to steal something- I have to wait for things to reach THAT level before I can do ANYTHING.

    Because I already spoke with my local police: They won't do shit.
    If I spoke with a lawyer right now: They wouldn't be able to do shit- because none of us have actual proof that she's crazy or dangerous.

    And that, to me, is one of the most asinine things I've dealt with in my entire 31 years on this earth- because we all KNOW she's crazy- we KNOW she is- but (points to the laws) they're useless until things turn critically dangerous. They're only designed to come into play AFTER the fact- which, in situations like this, where we ALL know she's nuts: Our hands are tied. Can't do anything. Not fair.

    Again, we might be 100% wrong. Maybe there IS something we can do right now- today- but at this current moment: We don't know what that is.
     
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    So I kinda had a major breakthrough in the last 6 hours that I think is going to make me feel a lot better by the end of the summer. I was attributing a lot of discomfort I was experiencing (chest pain, dizziness, muscle weakness) to my meds. They are partially to blame, but there is a really easy fix that I need my doctor to help me with. about 25% of people on daily chronic psychiatric medication wind up becoming anemic. It happened to me like 4 years ago and after I got some infusions, I was REALLY good mentally for like 4-6 months. I need to talk to my doctor about doing them again (which I am sure he will be cool with) and hopefully by the end of the summer, i'll feel like me again
     
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