Just lost my Dad tonight

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  1. bellpeppers

    bellpeppers A Meat Popsicle

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    What a year. Back in April I laid my mother to rest. In September my 1st grandchild was born. And then tonight- I get a rather unexpected call from the home that he had passed during dinner.
    Now after mom left he did pretty good. However over the last month I've seen decline. Heck, I've been wondering how much time he has left. But I was thinking of the next year, not the next couple days.
    At least he had a chance to meet his great grandson.
    And we were going to take some new pictures up to hang in his room. Tomorrow. And my aunt / his sister was gonna visit him tomorrow as well.
    Handling my moms funeral is still pretty fresh in my mind so this one should go smoother.

    It's weird tho- I feel both their deaths differently. There has been bitterness and frustration associated with my mom's passing. But my dad- just hurt.
    I know he's no longer hurting or uncomfortable, and he's no longer in that place but I'm not ready for him to go.
    It just plain sucks.

    Thank you all for indulging me.
     
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  2. prfctcellrulz

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    Condolences.
     
  3. JaZzPrImE74

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    That sucks man. I'm sorry for your loss. Stay strong
     
  4. Ninja 4 Hire

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    I know I just joined and that I'm a complete stranger to you, but I'm sorry for your loss. Losing a loved one is never easy.

    About six years ago, my favorite uncle passed away unexpectedly. He was kind of like a father to me, and definitely closer to me than my actual father is. If I had a problem he would always lend his ear. He could listen to what you said and actually try to help without judging you. He actually took me and my siblings out to do stuff, like movies and arcades and go kart tracks, while our actual father couldn't even tell someone how old we were. We never saw his death coming. He died before I could even get to the hospital. My own child, who my wife was pregnant with at the time, never got to meet him. Even six years later, sometimes its still hard to believe he's gone. Him passing away, the death of the family dog (my parents got her right after I graduated from high school and she lived for years after I had moved out), the death of one of my favorite musicians from when I was a kid, and the birth of my own child, in a weird way was all sort of a sign to me. All four happened in the same year, and it signified to me that my own childhood was truly over.

    I wish you and your family peace during this time. Stay strong.
     
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  5. Galvatross

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    I am sorry to hear that bellpeppers. I am glad that he was able to meet his great grandson before passing. It's a gift to be alive, to think, and to feel.

    Maybe I'm in a philosophical mood, but we are all Transformers fans here, so we are all fans of a brand of fiction meant to sell toys of alien, transforming robots that are sentient, sapient beings. Some times I think we need to remember that there are billions of sentient, sapient human beings that share this planet with us, and each one of us is unique. Whether we live for many decades as humans typically do or many millennia like Cybertronians freedom is the right of all sentient beings, so we should all use our freedom to treasure the time we spend with our family and friends and be kind to those around us.

    I wish you and your family members the best at this time bellpeppers.
     
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  6. Belgrath

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    My deepest sympathies :( 
     
  7. SHINOBI03

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    Sorry to hear this.
     
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    Sorry man.
     
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    Hang in there man. I'm sorry for your loss and also wish you the best of luck
     
  10. grimlock1972

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    you and your family have my most heart felt condolences, I know how it is as i losts my mom in July.
     
  11. plowking

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    So sorry to hear this. My condolences to you and the family.
     
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    :hug: I'm sorry for your loss.
     
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    I'm very sorry to hear that...my sincere condolences.
     
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    Sorry!
     
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    So very sorry to hear about your loss, our deepest condolences.
     
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    so sorry for your loss brother. my door is always open if you need to talk about anything.
     
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    My deepest sympathies on your loss
     
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    I'm sorry for your loss.
     
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    We've had our arguments in the past but just know that you've got nothing but love from me, man. I'm so sorry to hear it.
     
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    seali_me RIP January 2018

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    My condolences to you and the family.