Pee in her butt and see how she reacts before you make any decisions.

 

I have never personally met a bisexual who was not also a slut.

If you have found one then I am very happy for you, I wish you many years of happiness.

 

R Kelly?  

 

Then you've had some shitty luck, and I hope it changes.

Thank you.

 

This. I've dated a number of bisexual women. Those who like to 'play' with other women, while with you are to be avoided. They like to think it's super sexy and use it as a crutch for actual compatibility, mutual respect, and relationship building.

Bottom line: If you're going to move somewhere for someone, then it's for a serious relationship. If it's a serious relationship, 3+ is a crowd. Just doing it for the sexual possibilities is a pretty stupid reason to uproot yourself.

 

So then Draven knows what he's talking about. Get advice from him.

 

Lots and lots of booze.

 

I've read some interesting remarks. Let's clear some stuff up.

A. She is bi, not kinda interested in kissing girls, but bi. She has been since high school.

B. I have zero interest in a threesome.

C. I hate Indiana, and love Arizona.

D. She spends a lot of time alone, and is not currently in a relationship. We usually talk at night until one of us falls asleep.

 

Okay, calling BS of that view though.

I've known people who have been bi for upwards of 20 years. They're not just shopping around at that point.

Bi means literally just that, "sexually attracted to both genders".

That's all it means, behaviors are always up to individuals.

- Coeloptera

 

With (D.) it sounds like you are half-way there.

The thing is this: If you want to be with this person and she wants to be with you, you should probably at least try it. If you don't try it, you will more likely than not regret it. If you want to move back to Arizona, then, again, you should probably do that too.

So, my advise is simple: Move to Arizona and give it a try. If things don't succeed with you and this young woman then at least you'd have tried it and at least you will back in the place that you love.

If the "problem" (and the inverted commas are deliberate as I truly don't believe that it is a problem) is that she is bisexual, all it means is that she has sexual interest in her own gender as well as the opposite one. It does not mean that she will want to go around sleeping with women as well as you. Bisexuality and exclusive relationships are not mutually exclusive.

If you are able to accept her bisexual nature, then you can date her as you would any other lady. You may even end up very happy and want to get married like Draven and his good lady.

 

I agree. It sounds like the most important parts are you'd prefer to be in AZ, and that you already get on well with her. So if you can find work and a good place to live and everything there, then it is worth a try.

At the very least, you're moving nearer to a place you enjoy being and a good friend with the possibility of going further.

 

Thanks to the both of you! I have a good job here, but I'm not happy here. Maybe I could transfer, but that might take a year, and she knows that I signed a lease for another year.  

 

But how can any Bi-sexual individual remain in a monogamous relationship and stay satisfied or happy? If you, as a male individual, are dating a girl who likes your penis, but also likes a vagina, how are you going to help her with the vagina part? You can't; you just have to deal with the fact that you will never be what all this girl desires, only half.
Of course that is if they are trying to sustain a monogamous relationship.

This paints a typical relationship that is soley based only on sex, but in the end, sex it really what defines your friends from lovers...

 

Neither one of us are interested in marriage, or having kids. We are both alcoholics, and do not wish to pass on those genes. She also has an eating disorder, but she is getting help for that.

 

Perhaps then you a have an answer. Wait the year, perhaps travel out for vacation/holidays, and see where it goes. If she goes back to her ex, you'll have your answer. If she waits for you, you'll have your answer.

Her sexuality doesn't factor into it. If she is committed to you, it doesn't matter who else she finds attractive. I'd be more concerned that she is looking to you to replace her other addictions. It could be that you're the perfect obsession because she knows you're not available.

Whatever you decide, please be careful and take it one step at a time.

 

Hmm... good thoughts! She is in an AA meeting right now, but we'll talk tonight. I was in the program, but relapsed, and she knows that.

 

I love fucked up chics. Soo fun.

But I sure as hell wouldnt move for one. Theyre only good for a couple of things.

 

Ask Dirge121.

 

So that's Dirge121 and Draven. Two guys with bi fiancees. I'd say they have some experience in this field.

 

Who dat?