I have this weird problem where people think i am funny because i tell lots of joke but when they actually talk to me, i dont know what to say. Its so weird. I wonder if anyone else has gone through this, and if they can give me some advice. Thank you

 

I... Um.... You're gonna have to elaborate on that.

 

puberty. it's puberty.

 

Yeah, it might be

 

Develop an unmistakable sense of sarcasm and you can hold a conversation with anyone.

 

please...

this.

no duh, bruh.

And with that, this thread is done.

 

Ok sarcasm it is. Thank You

 

Hahahaha this thread is awesome. Figures that the one time a teen takes advice it's the sarcastic advice.

 

sounds like you're saying you use humour as a crutch, but are unable to shift gears and be real with people.

That's not unusual, and not just a teen problem. If you want to develop conversational skills you're going to have to work on it.

 

Thank you bumblethumper, thats exactly what i meant to say

 

Conversation is give and take. LISTEN to what they have to say, internalize it, THINK about how it makes you feel, or what your opinions are, or whether you have additional or related information about that topic, and then RESPOND in a way that keeps the conversation going. Repeat as necessary, and practice, practice, PRACTICE.

 

Smokey Robinson did songs about this sorta thing.

Smokey Robinson & The Miracles - Tracks Of My Tears - YouTube

One thing I've observed, is that when people think you're a comedian, they expect everything you say is a joke. So then you tell them your dad just died, and they're waiting for the punchline. Of course if they think you're more serious, they don't even notice the jokes. It seems to be a natural thing we all do to pigeonhole people into different personality types, which can become difficult for them to break out of.

 

I always end up being known as the joker and then people stop taking me seriously. I sometimes find it hard to find a nice middle ground as if I'm not making a joke I'm usually pretty dark and depressing.
I'm not a terrible conversationalist, but if I do run dry of things to say I might turn to the strange comedy in desperation without thinking and weird people out. Thankfully my girlfriend finds that strangely appealing about me.

It depends; sometimes I can talk for England like it's second nature, and other times I've sat in a pub with a pal in almost total and painful silence. But then surely my pal should try and get a conversational subject up and running. It's odd because I almost always seem to the the driver of conversation while the other person contributes very little and makes me feel the onus is on me to keep the chat flowing. I will regularly mentally collate a series of potential stuff to talk about prior to meeting up with friends. Is that normal?

And yet, knowing all this about myself, I will still strike up a conversation on the bus with a complete stranger. I'm a fool to myself.

So, yes, anyway, it should come with practice, but I'm forty and it still regularly foxes me.

 

it's okay to be a man of a few words. We all talk to darn much anyways. And a lot of what we say is becoming just mean and nasty.

 

Or babble and bullshit.

 

  So much similar.

 

I find that there isn't very much I'm able to talk to other people that isn't within my hobbies.

 

Talk about Transformers. That'll make you a real hit.

 

People love to talk about themselves. Just ask them questions about themselves and be a good listener - people will love you.

Also, as others have said, practice and learn. Make sure you can talk about things that most people care about or at least be informed on current events, not pop culture - real news. Granted, real news is hard to find in the U.S. so you'll have to dig for it on the Internet.