Hello all. As the title says, I have some questions for parents with joint custody. Some of these question have to do with visitations, child support, etc. First off, I'll explain the situation. My ex and I broke up in July. Immediately following the breakup, we both met with an attorney to file a joint custody and visitation agreement for our Daughter. I even helped her pay for the attorney and insisted on paying child support. The said agreement was made official a month later (September) once the judge signed off on it. My visitation with my Daughter is every other weekend overnight, I'm supposed to pick her up 10am on Saturday and have her home at 6pm on Sunday. I'm also supposed to get her for four hours (3pm to 7pm) every other Monday and Thursday as well. And of course I get her for four hours on her birthday and holidays as well. Now to make a long story short, I'll go on to say that the Mother has not been very cooperative in keeping up with her end of the agreement. The first time I started picking up my Daughter, she would cry at first when I took her to the car. After she was in and we were on our way, she would be fine. And of course, she would be fine while staying with me and playing with my friend's kids, etc. I made sure she had her meals, gave her baths, made sure her diapers were changed, had her to bed at 9pm, up at 9am, had her naps, etc. I take her home on Sunday and everything seems fine. Did the same thing on my next weekend with her. All the same things happened, and things went the same as before. I took her home and everything once again seemed fine. However, the next day I get a phone call from her Mother. She immediately has an attitude and is very condescending towards me. She says our Daughter's visits with me is messing up her routine, and she says being without for two days is too hard. Then she goes on to say that my visits could traumatize our Daughter because "her Mom isn't around." Of course, I tried to explain that our Daughter does fine when she's with me, but she cut me off saying, "You're just a stupid man. You have no idea what she's feeling, and what's going on in her head! I'm her Mother and I know her a whole lot better than you do!" Then she goes on to say, "You're just going have to do your visit at my house." At her house. With her and her new boyfriend! I ask her why, and she says, "It's fair for our Daughter." I asked how is this fair for our Daughter? Her answer was, "It just is." I told her I just honestly couldn't agree to that, and I'm sure all of you can understand why. I even asked her if it would help her and our Daughter if she brought her over to my place, and I would bring her home. She said, "No! It would cost me too much in gas!" We only live 10 to 15 minutes apart! So my questions are, is she really considering our Daughter's best interests? Or is the Mother doing all this to be convenient for her? Or is she just doing this to make me miserable? That last one was something I'd never thought she'd do, to be so low as to damage my relationship with my Daughter. But now I'm starting to think she's that low. Does any of this seem fair? I don't think any of you or anybody would do anything like this to your ex spouse would you? Next questions. My Child Support in our custody agreement is required to cover our Daughter's needs. Also I'm required to pay the copayments for doctor visits, and medications separately. Well recently she's been talking about putting our Daughter in day care and that I need to help her pay it. I explained to her that's what the child support is for. She says it's not. I believe it is. Am I correct on this? I believe I am. Anyway, that it. Right now I'm considering taking this back to court to to put a stop to her behavior once and for all. To do that, I'm going to go through Legal Aid and hope I qualify.