My husband left

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  1. ILoveDinobot

    ILoveDinobot You can, you up. No can, no BB.

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    I mean I know it's a long thread, but I mentioned the lawyers in the reply he quoted. :lol 
     
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  2. WEEGEE

    WEEGEE Cringe memer

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    Yeah I was half asleep when I wrote that. Sorry, I'm embarrassed.
     
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  3. Rodimus74

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    You should take better protective measures than a self defense class if you feel he's capable of harming you.
     
  4. ILoveDinobot

    ILoveDinobot You can, you up. No can, no BB.

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    A moat, and a robot butler?
     
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    WEEGEE Cringe memer

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    Battle axe.
     
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  6. Rodimus74

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    For what it's worth, I sleep well at night with a Glock by my side and security cameras outside.
     
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  7. ILoveDinobot

    ILoveDinobot You can, you up. No can, no BB.

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    I knew what you meant, but I have hands the size of a 8 year old. Plus, he's a gun nut, I'm sure if I pulled out a gun, he'd pull out one faster. Self defense does teach you how to disarm someone. Not really wanting to argue if that will work in all situations or not. It's the best I can do, I might get pepper spray.
     
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    I hear ya. Well hopefully it never comes to that and things will work out amicably.
     
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  9. Edge

    Edge weapon of destruction

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    For what it's worth, most of the gun techniques I know of to disarm need to have the timing of nano seconds to pull off without getting hurt, it's a lot of practice and most self-defense courses are going to teach you how to deal with a person unarmed (which is more common than you might think.) Knowing the moves is by no means bad, and given the situation it is smart your doing this. I would say pepper spray or even a taser (I've seen some you can have laying about that look like a phone and you'd never know it was one) are also an option.
     
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  10. Moonscream

    Moonscream YES, We Exist, and We DON'T Want to Date You

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    So are those bills he didn't transfer to your name then? There should be cheap internet and phone options you can look up by way of low income assistance offices in your area, or state low income assistance websites. Also look into the Lifeline national phone program. And Cheap Internet Service: unlimited high-speed internet $5 - they have links to cheap internet programs available in each state, which also usually include phone programs as well.

    On the electronics you're really looking more for an estimate since your electronics are used goods, and you can get that via Amazon and/or eBay (that's actually how appraisers work nowadays - they look stuff up on eBay to get their values).

    You really don't need your ex as much as you think you do. Or that may have been drilled into your head by him and your parents. I know you're scared, but you can do this. We believe in you.

    One more thing: get bear spray, not regular pepper. Its stronger and has a greater range because its meant to drive off grizzlies!

    --Moony
     
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  11. Murasame

    Murasame 村雨

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    Sorry to hear this. You deserve better :( 
     
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  12. ILoveDinobot

    ILoveDinobot You can, you up. No can, no BB.

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    The bills are in my name and with my phone number, but he pays them. If I was cut off I wouldn't even get the text telling me I assume. And thanks.
     
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    I'm sorry to read about your situation with your husband and that's rough. Hopefully things do get better.
     
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  14. Sylent

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    It sounds as if you genuinely fear for your life, and from what you've said in this thread (and others) about your husband, he sounds quite volatile, irrational and ready to explode when things don't go his way. Has your counsel suggested applying for a restraining order? That will remove any temptation and deter him from showing up unannounced to harass you. Self-defense is great, but if he's a gun fanatic, all the martial arts training in the world won't stop a bullet. A restraining order will make him think twice and keep him far enough away from firing a bullet or doing anything else nefarious.
     
  15. ILoveDinobot

    ILoveDinobot You can, you up. No can, no BB.

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    Restraining order wouldn't really do anything anyway. But, I don't think I need that. For the most part, the separation agreement says he can't come by unannounced. Pretty much the same thing.
     
  16. Autobot Burnout

    Autobot Burnout ...and I'll whisper "No."

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    I would suggest notifying the neighborhood watch just to be on the safe side.
     
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  17. ILoveDinobot

    ILoveDinobot You can, you up. No can, no BB.

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    Yeah, I did that already. All my neighbor's are aware he shouldn't be here.
     
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  18. Moonscream

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    Then you can cancel them as soon as you get your own account elsewhere, so if/when he stops paying you won't get penalized.

    And you're welcome.

    --Moony
     
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  19. ILoveDinobot

    ILoveDinobot You can, you up. No can, no BB.

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    He told me just now he is going next month and will be away for 2 weeks and won't be able to visit our(my) child while he visits the girl. I'm just really hoping it goes awful for him. I'm so angry. So, so angry. It's still boggling my mind that this is a perfectly fine situation to this woman. It will be there 1st time meeting btw.
     
  20. Star Sabre James

    Star Sabre James The JUICE

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    Wait, what? How is that even remotely legal in this situation? He told you?!?
    No, that is not right. Get your lawyer on this ASAP!