Ugh. Had a dream the straight guy I feel like I'm in love with told me that he realized he loved me too and we kissed. Hurt to wake up and realize that was a dream. A mutual friend thinks he feels that way about me too but is just confused about his sexuality, but I'm too anxious to try to push him, I don't want to make him uncomfortable if she's wrong about his sexuality.

 

A shoutout to any who may have joined our community recently and those who have been here all along. Just to tell you that you are valid, you are not alone, and we are a welcoming community to support you if you need us.

 

On this Trans Day of visibility i wanted to bump an oft overlooked thread and let those amongst us know they are seen and welcome.

 

It's such a relief to find this thread when most other discussions about LGBTQ topics on this website usually end up sliding into bigoted nonsense. This fandom has a serious problem.
Anyway - Hi, I'm Bee427, I'm queer and my pronouns are she/they. I'm always happy to talk about queer stuff and/or queer Transformers stuff with other people if anyone's interested  

 

Hells to the yeah, hard agree with you there. It's odd that a fandom that has such prominent queer characters often has bigoted fans. And hey, same pronouns here!

 

Hey Bee, nice to meet you!

Actually aiming to do my honours thesis on queer Transformers, so very down to talk about that. That and they helped get me where I am

 

Woah, nice! I actually wrote the first draft of my college essay about queer Transformers, but I ended up having to write a new one because it wasn't working out :'( The final draft was still about Transformers, though  

 

It's a franchise with broad appeal that nearly anybody can read themselves into, so it has fans of every stripe as far as social and political views. It has its roots in the '80s, so it's no surprise people whose attitudes are stuck in the '80s latch on to it. :\

Fans of a franchise all about change being themselves allergic to change is still ironic, of course. But it's been a common observation of the fandom since Beast Wars.

 

Guess it just goes to show, fans or no, some Transformers groupies just wouldn’t be good at actually....

...TRANSforming

*A pie is thrown at my face and I am swiftly and immediately dragged all the way offstage by an oversized shepherd’s-crook.*

 

Shame the first one didn't work out (although also normal for any first draft imo), but that's still a hell yeah  

 

Happy International Asexuality Day! Whether you're demisexual, gray-asexual, out, closeted, don't use labels, or anything in between, know that you're a wonderful and valid part of the LGBTQ community, and that you're seen and loved.

 

This was very touching. I don't usually consider myself anything but an ally to the LGBT community, but it's nice to see asexuality remembered.

 

I just love the positivity in this thread. I'm just here as an ally, so I don't post much, but still happy to see activity in this thread.

 

Thanks!   It's always important to celebrate every queer identity, and asexual people have unfortunately tended to be excluded in recent years (remember when "ace discourse" was a thing? That was a shitty time). Excluding people from the community never helps anyone, and defeats the purpose of there being a community in the first place - we're meant to support each other as a group, not argue over whether other people are "valid enough". We've got enough problems with hate coming from outside the community, we don't need infighting on top of that. We're always stronger together.

 

I know this is an old post, but in honor of International Ace Day I wanted to pop in and tell you that you're not just an honorary member, you are a member of the LGBTQ community! I don't know how you feel about your identity now (identities aren't set in stone and a lot can happen in 2-ish years), but if you still identify as asexual, just know that you're not "less LGBTQ" than anyone else. Aces have always been part of the community and always will be. You belong here just as much as any other queer person, and don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise.
...And if you already know that and this is redundant, sorry  

 

.....On the topic of something NOT related to onsite drama—

....Got flirted w/ hardcore and like. Mega unsubtly by some other girl at the store???

And at first she seemed nice, and was complimenting my skirt while clearly checking me out with all the subtlety of a nuclear missile with a clown horn on the tip of the warhead...

But then she goes “Do You....? *makes a limp wristed hand-gesture typically associated with gay MEN* and when I looked at her utterly perplexed, she, I kid you not, huffed at me, sneered “nevermind”, and stomped off.

Hope she doesn’t get a fucking date for the next decade. And to think I was almost fooled into thinking she was NICE. Ugh. And I was otherwise mostly having a good day.

 

Oh, yikes. I've never really been flirted with, but it must feel pretty shitty to be insta-dumped like that. What a jerk. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.  
...By "limp-wristed hand gesture", do you mean the Lil Nas X Spongebob tweet?   I definitely wouldn't blame you for associating that mainly with gay men instead of women.

 

Instadumped? That implies I’d of given someone so clearly base and immature a chance.

As far as I’m concerned, she slowed me down, undressed me with her eyes, wasted my time, and then had the audacity to treat me with verbal disrespect.

 

Only time I've ever been flirted with (I think it was flirting) by another guy was when I was ordering at Pita Pit on my college campus. I appreciated all the compliments, but I just wanted to order my wrap and move on. There's been plenty of guys and girls I've thought were attractive that I've checked out as a cashier at my job, but I feel like it's inappropriate and unprofessional to flirt with someone who's currently forced to interact with you.