No matter the opposition in life, regardless of how much, always remember that you have to stay determined. Many people want you to fail, and are dying to see the moment you do. Don't give them that moment. Try harder.
If a family breaks up because of drinking and the person is still drinking after the breakup, it was the person. If the person drinking stops and gets sober, it was the marriage.
The idea that one must like a person in order to support them and their position is highly narcissistic. Everyone has had a boss, teacher, or leader they dislike. But how you personally feel about them is your own issue. "Is that person doing things which are producing good results for you and others?" That is the question one must ask.
Offense is a human reaction. It is to be expected. I'm saying this as an author, that no matter what you do you will run into dissent. Just don't try to sow dissent and do your best, things should work out. Also, write for pleasure instead of fame. A tight knit group of people you know and love alongside the feeling of accomplishment are magical. Why am I here again? Car accidents are really traumatic. Would not recommend them.
Really cool thread and here are some I've learned on my own and from others: -"Don't be a prisoner in your own prison." -"Don't worry about others and worry about your own ass.!.!" (Old Boss/Supervisor told me that and it always stuck with me @ any job) -"Look back to learn,Look forward to succeed." And my personal favorite (Viewer Discretion is advise) -"Life is like a D#ck,When it's hard F#CK IT.!.!!"
"Man is not a rational creature; he is a rationalizing creature." I think I stole that from an old Robert Heinlein short story.
People who drop friends behind their backs have no right to complain about how hard it is to make friends in their 30's.
Oh my god, this applies SO much to the “MUH RATION AND LOGIC” keyboard warriors who claim they’re never biased or subjective, and smarter than everyone else they speak to.
very true about being your own prisoner and worrying about others. I had a smiliar experience with one of my old bosses who taught me I’m not responsible for how other people feel! Learned this the hard way...
I'm always wary of anyone who claims they're working from a non-biased perspective. You can attempt to be non-biased, but there will always be small biases that sneak in based on various life factors and experiences to each individual. Problem is many people simply aren't self-aware enough to realize their biases are coming through and what those biases are. I guarantee you that if you asked someone to describe their biases they'd probably claim they have none, but if you were to exam them you could find at least a handful easily. Actually I saw a fun little social experiment on this when I was taking journalism courses and it was very educational.
When learning a language, people can usually understand FAR more than they can speak. Never assume the inability to speak means they can't understand everything you're saying. It's true! I'm learning Portuguese, and I can write and listen well enough, but I can hardly speak. So always, always, always talk about a person respectfully as though they can understand you. I haven't had anybody be rude to me. This isn't a passive-aggressive post. But I hope people realize this! It was something I didn't know until I started learning a language!
I don't think anyone is really making that complaint. I personally speak three languages and I understand Spanish and Japanese better than I can speak both languages. That said I wouldn't try to get a job helping people over the phone with important problems either. Problems that usually portend to important things like finances. It's very frustrating when they're trying to explain things to you about your inquiries when you can't understand them very well because they don't speak the language well. That's really the complaint I'm seeing here.
Sorry lazer- optimus but I think you misunderstood my post. It's the drop-wisdom thread. I am living in Brazil and learning Portuguese. I can understand it alright but cant speak well. I notice others assume if you can't speak, you can't understand. Nobody has been rude, but it's made me wonder how often people may say things they regret, falsely assuming the person can't understand. It's good wisdom - don't assume the immigrant who can't speak can't understand what you're saying.
