The Life Sucks thread

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  1. DocSeth81

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  2. Tekkaman Blade

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    Your old medicine worked better? Then drop the study and get back on it. You won't get paid but you'll feel better. They aren't always right about how a medication will affect you and if you have a really stupid doctor you may have gotten a placebo. Money is important, but it won't help you if your symptoms get worse. If I was in the same situation, I'd get off the new medicine go back to what worked and look for another source of income. Your mental health is the most important thing.
     
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  3. Moonscream

    Moonscream YES, We Exist, and We DON'T Want to Date You

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    All my life I was taught that other people's feelings matter more than mine, and that mine were embarrassing and should be hidden, and I've been fighting that programming for a very long time. It made me tamp my emotions down to near numbness...and come out as passive aggressive (or outright aggressive).

    Then menopause hits a week or so ago and like a switch was flipped I suddenly just Absolutely Don't Give a Shit. Like there's a Give-a-Shit hormone that just shuts off at a certain age that I just hit. Just - No Shits. Which has been happily liberating! I do still have to remind myself to use the soft punch on idiots, tho. :p 

    --Moony
     
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  4. MetalRyde

    MetalRyde is an a-hole with a heart. RIP Spike and Mojo.

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    My bitch of a sister has been constantly been criticizing me for years now on pretty much everything I do.

    It was only recently that she accepted that I have mental problems but gives bullshit advises. "Just stop thinking about it". That's not how it works, asshole.

    Since my car crash, I have continuous pain in my lower back and pelvic bone. It has been really painful for the last couple of months to the point I have to use my walker. Yesterday my sister came over to do her laundry, my dad was n the bathroom and I had to open the door with her banging the door. I opened the door and her first response was "What took you so long?!" Can't you see that I'm in pain?! "Whatever." It's just her way of saying "fuck you". As I turn to go back to my room, my right leg gave in and I fell and her response was "Whats the matter with you? Get up, fool."
    I was so enraged I just yelled "Get the fuck out of my house!" I quickly got up, grabbed her laundry and threw it and her out of my home while screaming in pain.

    Afterwards my dad helped me to my bed while I was crying and some how fell asleep. She came back to apologise to my dad but not to me.
     
  5. Blunderzag

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    I got rejected by a friend I went out with a few times this semester and while we remained friends and she’s genuinely a good person, I’m breaking things off with her for good. I had really bad anxiety and it made me mentally and emotionally exhausted over time just from worrying about all the stuff that could happen in between and that’s probably why I got rejected in the first place, cause I was too timid when my nerves got to me.

    Anyways I got progressively weak and stopped being myself and have been miserable for months. I was disgusted that I allowed myself to get to such a pathetic low point way so the only way anything can improve is if I cut certain people, even good people, out of my life. It’s a hard decision but the hardest decisions require the strongest wills after all. Choose how much you really want to suffer.
    If you guys have similar problems, study ancient stoic philosophy. It always comes in handy. Momento Mori.
     
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  6. Capirus

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    I'm come to a point where I decided to not be nice to people anymore. Well, that's a misnomer. Really what I'm going to do is ignore more people. Make no effort to help but at the time, no effort to hinder. It's actually exceptionally cruel but most people have no inkling of the destructive nature of apathy. However, my life must come first. It didn't before, for about ten years, but enough is enough. The ties that bind us the most are the ones we tend to tie ourselves, and I have no intention of hanging myself with them.

    I doubt anyone will notice the difference honestly as my attitude isn't changing, just my action center. But I will be much happier. Life is extremely long, and rather than wait for the slow crawl of death or run out the clock by ignoring responsibilities, I got to get back on the train. I like where it's going, and I'm kind of annoyed I waited this long to re-board.

    Ten years is not a short wait.
     
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  7. G1Prowl

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    Back in 2002 I mentally drew a line 5 feet directly in front of me, and then mentally swept it around my body 360 degrees. I can still picture that circle in my head. If it doesn't happen in that circle, I refuse to let it affect my life in any way.
     
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  8. Nemesis Otaku

    Nemesis Otaku Why did I un-ironically call myself an otaku?

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    One of my best friends just broke up with her boyfriend after about a year and over. What’s worse is what he was saying and doing behind her back. Not gonna describe anything for private reasons, but it sucks what happened to her.

    Thankfully, another friend and I were able to make her laugh online for a bit.
     
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    This is not at all the level of some peoples shitty experiences but ive been having a really bad month or so.
    Just to preface, me and my brother have always been close, I moved out of my parents place a couple years ago but I'm still in the same city, and we still hung out a couple times a week, we would work out then hang at either our parents place or my apt for a few hours. We made silly movies together, we drew silly comics together, we did a lot of fun stuff (we're well into our twenties lmao). He tells me one day that he's been accepted to grad school!! Which is awesome!! But hes going to a college three hours south. I say ok, we gotta write and film a bunch of silly stuff and go to all our favorite places to eat and to hike before he leaves, cause he'll be down there for two years. He's decently close still, but it won't be three times a week that we hang, its like, maybe once a month or something. But before we could do anything we talked about, he realizes he has to move down a lot sooner than he thought. Four days after he announced he was moving out he was gone, and I find myself wanting to do all the stuff we used to. I get it, lives move on, people move on. It still sucks though
    Within a week of this happening my best friend in the world gets an internship at Disney and leaves too. It happened so fast and, besides my boyfriend, these are the people I spent all my time with. I'll find myself driving around town and getting close to my best friends house and I remember she's not coming back for a whole year.
    I have days where i just sit in bed. Autopilot thru work, get home, and just...sit. Sometimes there's crying. When I get to hang with my boyfriend it takes my mind off of it, and I still skype with my friend and text my brkther every day, but it still sucks. Sorry for the wall of text, i just haven't really talked about it much and it eats away at me every day.
     
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    Hot weather sucks hairy balls. I can already feel it and I can't stand it.
     
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    I was walking in from outside just now and a bug flew into my mouth. There's a list of minor stuff that should never happen because it's just too gross, and that's on the list.
     
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  12. Tyjos

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    A Life sucks thread?

    Well I don't have a social life or even have a lot of interaction with folks these days, I'm pretty much socially ostracized or exiled or just written off and these days it's not that fun to hang around forums like I used too, even Social Media hasn't been Social Facebook was a failure of an attempt to Socialize and since that place messed with my head had to unplug at least in the terms of life sucking being stuck in the same thing all the time to the point one can say it's terminal sameness that can drive one crazy and social isolation driving one psycho sometimes.


    But at least Transformers keeps me sane as of late and in the larger view of things I'm glad that going back to collecting Transformers has helped to preserve some happiness and enjoyment of things just would be nice if the social side of things were better and I didn't have to think about things like Suicide or decide it's a good idea to snarl and spit at people cause they deserve it.

    Good thing that I've kept my cool and haven't turned psycho over the past 13 years and managing to survive madness and being surrounded by old people where I live makes me annoyed at old folks so these days my focus is staying chilled out and after I was diagnosed with High Blood Pressure last year [This home isn't that happy and it's stressful some days] primary goal for life has been to stay chilled out in relaxed.

    So in the larger view of all this being able to enjoy Transformers has helped to keep me from going off the deep end [plus continual rewatches of Trek and Scifi!]

    What can I say?

    Surviving the days the best I can without going off on someone and managing to stay chilled out daily

    Living best life?

    Just trying to live and avoid going off the deep end so yeah life sucks but hey when a Hobby does it's job of keeping one Sane it's not that bad.
     
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  13. Rusty24

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  14. RKillian

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    I miss my mother from before she went into management.

    I feel like I can't even talk to her if I have a problem because if I have two options, act or don't act, I'm wrong no matter what. I've had a rough 6 years with jobs. Long story short, I wasn't allowed to perform and when I tuned out so we could all fail as a "team" like they wanted I caught the blame every time. (which is why, @Capirus, you may move on from apathy sooner than you think)

    So now I have this job where, let me try to explain it. The CIO bought into a nebulous buzzword and terrible software with no consideration for anybody else. My job is to pretend to care what rank and file thinks but write policy that ultimately says "though shalt do what the CIO wants, whether it fits your department's needs or not, lest ye be excommunicated." I spent a few days changing a few words in the boilerplate. That was three months ago. I have had no work to do since.

    I took this job because my last one was so terrible. I was basically putting out fires for a pyromanic that somebody kept supplying gasoline and matches to because they knew everything. I would've taken any job to get out. My mother bitched at me not quitting and then bitched at me when I quit.

    From the start of this job, I was bored and worried about being fired for being bored. In the past when I was bored, I naively asked for stuff to do and got fired. Of course, it's my fault that I'm not up my boss's ass repeating "are we there yet? are we there yet? are we there yet?" like a parrot on crack. It's not so much my boss as it's a crappy position we're both stuck in.

    I get told I don't confront people and then when I think about doing so I get shamed/scared out of it by the same person that tells me to confront people.

    When I started looking for another job, my mother complained at me for not giving this one a chance. Because it's impossible to know a well is dark until you've fallen halfway down it. Now she tells me she thinks my hair is thinning because I'm stressed and I should've been looking before I was this miserable. When I finally find something else and quit, she'll give me a hard time for that too.

    Don't even get me started on the side business I've been trying to wind down. I both spend too much time on it and don't work hard enough at it.

    It's to the point where I'm ready to fake my death and get a taxi license a few states away.
     
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    Trying flying in your nose.
     
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    Yeah, the ever perpetual, "You're doing wrong," speech. I've seen people crushed by it before (even when they knew better). Honestly, I would say the best thing to do is selective apathy. You decide what you want to care about and how much you want to care about it. I mean, it's not like you'll see someone drowning and shrug your shoulders; we all have instincts to protect ourselves and others to a certain personal degree. It's a balancing act. Basically what I'm trying to do is when I realize someone is crappy, I will no effort to make them less crappy. They can keep being them, stuck in an infinite loop, wondering why people keep passing them, then getting angry that people do. If I find someone with potential, I'd rather not see it go to waste so that's when I step in to help (assuming of course it's my help that is truly needed). Of course I talk about it like it's easy but it's actually insanely hard. Though I do like a challenge (just not an impossible one).

    I'd offer you a job if I could ('cause I think you've suffered enough), but we're just not ready yet (and if things go horrifically wrong, we never will be). Though it'd mainly be programming for a game engine (likely C++ or C#) so I'm not sure if it's in your wheelhouse or personal preference anyway.
     
  17. Belgrath

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  18. Tyjos

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    Another night of not sleeping, and it's the usual thing of Suicide related thoughts popping in my head after running the usual reasons for that sort of thing and I then spend a few hours taking care of cyber security tasks that have to be tended to and just one of those nights that I wish I could sleep without my mind wanting to drive me psycho by telling me the way people are and things like that.
    -no I'm not going to off myself folks it's just that lousy stinking thought that gets stuck in the brain because of many different things usually happens after a lousy day.


    After having a moody day which I am having more of as of late it's driving me crazy sometimes but thankfully I can still chill out and at least Fed Ex isn't flying overhead now that's another reason why I can't sleep that well is due to the flights overhead since I live under the glide path of the Memphis International Airport so that's a nightly thing to deal with normally I have headphones to block it out but tonight haven't used them.


    4:30am and I need to sleep...at least I can sleep now that the thoughts aren't bouncing around in my head again.


    Things right now would really suck if things didn't start working again, one of the main sports channels I watch was messed up and that was a headache and nearly got me screaming at Comcast and glad that the channel is back working in time for Baseball games today so that usually chills me out.

    At least it's very quiet now and I can chill out relax that's usually when I get to sleep and some nights 5am is when I finally fall asleep.
     
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    I know C# really well (C/C++ is rusty) but I've never been able to make game development work outside of projects structured like Ultima Online.

    I've gone some projects in the works though and maybe one will go somewhere if I can find enough uninterrupted time to put into it.

    And I asked my brothers to help me rewrite my resume. One of them saw some comment I made about managing expectations with overseas developers. I know it's not happy fun time <legomovie>everything is awesome</legomovie> but it's not some of the stuff I read from developers on Twitter. Holy cow. Hyper political antagonism dialed to 11. I also caught flak for using color on my resume. I don't understand. I'm not supposed to stand out in any way? Can't have an opinion, can't do better work, can't use a bold blue header font, can't can't can't.
     
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  20. Star Sabre James

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    In Minnesota we have a Work Force Center, which is a place that helps people work on their job skills, including resume help. Do you have something like that where you live?

    If so, you might want to look into it.
     
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