No. You're doing the right thing. I see families torn apart by this all the time. It's always one or two terrible people that everyone somehow feels obligated to help (even when all they want to do is help themselves). I have relatives like this too. They're a mix of jealousy and greed; it's hard to watch them exist. All in all, just because someone is related to you by blood, doesn't make them family. This is a lesson people actively refuse to learn, but when they do learn it, they are much happier.

You can't fix those who choose to be broken. Especially with kind words and a helping hand. You're basically asking to be bitten.

 

Know what's more ridiculous?

After I refused, he eventually found himself somewhere that my mother could find him and take him home. All day she was pissed off at me for lacking compassion and being an asshole.

But guess what he did again? Ventured out for hours and hours, and had the gall to ask *again* for someone to play chauffeur. Like... What the fuck?

My old man wasn't having it. Told him get a taxi. Mother got annoyed too. The other night he was giving nonsense directions bso no one could find him on a map app anyway...

Still sucked though. After we refused, he kept bugging over the phone. "Help me find a taxi?" Problem was again, he had no idea where the fuck he wandered off to. He gave me addresses and directions they were an hour, half and hour, or 15 minutes away. I tell him share location on the phone but he's too dumb. I give him a taxi line and we tell him call and leave it there.

Nope. Some ten calls from like 10pm to 2am. Him saying he's one place or another and just walking around still.

He gets another sister to drive him home this morning at like 10am. Why did you not call a taxi... Seriously. Spend a few hours at a motel.

Oh and he broke my mom's cell phone. Hopefully this will help my mother fall into reason that he's nothing but trouble, promise or not, and has to be kept away.

What sucks though is that... This last stunt makes me believe he's mentally deranged. So he needs some help, but not our help. Don't know how to get him that help. Indifference turned to pity. Oi vey.

But seriously though, I work six days a week to help my immediate family, not dingbats like this guy... This is tiresome.

 

Yup. Some days it would be nice to reach into people's brains, flip a switch, and magically have them understand.

From just what you wrote, I suspect that any mental issues he has are from being stupid, bored, and anxious. It's why he wanders; he gets bored and because of all the pent-up energy he has, he has to move. Gets lost is a part of not paying attention to your surroundings and either diverting brain functions to other thoughts or turning off your brain entirely. And the fact that he can't ever seem to find his way home could be one of two things. One: he has spent so much time away from learning that he forgot how to memorize and learn the area, street names, or literally anything else. Two: he does know on some level where he is but still wants someone to rely on because he feels like he is deserving of pity. It could also be some combination of both as well. He basically feels like a guest in the house of humanity and that somehow being born entitles him to greatness. But since he has no greatness, it must be others holding him back because with all that no-effort he's putting into it, how could he not be great? He has basically made the same mistake a lot of people do and mistook "pity" for "respect".

This is all just surmise, and honestly, he could have something mentally wrong with him. However, any proof that he actually has some kind of mental illness may make him even more reliant on your mother and make her feel like she needs to take care of him for the rest of her life. So, that could be bad too. Wish I had a perfect solution up my sleeve but any betterment of him needs to come from himself or else it won't stick. What he really needs is a hobby that is low-cost and high-thinking to get him off his crazy-kick. But I think he's too busy focusing on how to get ahead by screwing anyone who he believes think they are better than him. It really just ends will all losers and no winners.

 

I think we've outstayed our welcome in the little podunk town we live in. An old lady stole my buggy from directly behind me the second i turned around to talk to a pharmacist at walmart. We asked for it back and she got really really defensive, saying that it could have been any ones (directly behind me, with me practically leaning on it, with no way for us to leave the kiosk without taking it with us). Then she demanded that we shouldn't treat Her like that, especially not TODAY (implying that jesus was her homie and that wronging her was going to result in a horribly angry jesus....by the way, She had just come from the entrance, where there were all kinds of buggies, just as good as mine...there was no reason to take mine, or to act so insane about it). then we told her that we could say what we wanted regardless of the day...she didn't like that.
She then angrily walked away...we thought it was over...we turned back to finish our business....then she came back...
She then said she was going to call the city police on us...I calmly asked her, "What for exactly? I really want to know?" She got mad and left to talk to a store manager...we finished shopping...I can't imagine what she told them. The store managers are used to us. we've been shopping there almost every day for five years...we've had arguments with people before, mostly old men who decide that because we wear comfortable clothes, we must be drug addicts or garbage people, leeching off society...anyway...time to move...we were planning on it anyway...

 

*sighs* Nothing like being told your department is being lazy because some took a picture of everyone trying to figure out the best positioning for their lunch times.

That and being told that "the store depends on you, you're the hardest working department" then right after "we need you to work harder than before". I can only work so hard with what little amount of carts the store has!!!

And on top of all that, we aren't allowed to store-use water anymore. "The water fountain is available". Well, you best be looking like paying for my replacement pants, because THAT water is diarrhea day guaranteed!

I swear this store is run by idiots. Can't wait to get a license and find a better job....

 

As much as some market wackos shriek that it's not a zero sum game, many market interactions actually are. Anybody telling you to do more with less is trying to set themselves up to do less for more.

 

I was going to edit my response yesterday to indicate he was wandering off again a third day in a row. This time he lashed out at my mother, and she told him to leave immediately.

Part of me is OK with him being gone, if only because he should have *never* been let back in here, no matter the circumstance that he drove himself into. Another part of me, seeing that he's definitely a few bits short of a byte now, makes me feel bad for being an asshole, warranted or not. I even told my mother yesterday that we need to get him real help, living here won't work out, but letting him off into the wild probably isn't a good idea either. She's got a short fuse, so she just threw him out. I really don't get it. First it was this stupid "oh, show some compassion!" play, then "never mind, I'm not letting this jackass stress me out again." I'll never understand people, least of all those I have to call family.

 

It's really up to you. If you feel your life is worth the sacrifice for his, then choose to help. And I don't mean sacrifice as in die, I mean using time, energy, money, etc. Things you could use to better your personal situation and the situations of people you enjoy being around. Obviously I fall into the leave him to his own devices category but I understand why you want to help. If you do wish to help, I recommend sorting out as much of your own life as you possibly can as quickly as you can. If you want to get him help, it should feel like it's a reward, not a knife slowly cutting you in half. If it costs money, make sure you can make the payments. If it requires you to spend more time with him, then make sure you are sane and patient enough to do so. You don't want to do a nice thing and have it detonate the entirety of your life. After all, if your life is falling apart, you will be no help to those who are also falling apart. Especially when helping another may have an impact on others who aren't you. People rarely think of anyone else but the person they are helping but you need to consider the impact of such an act on your friends, family, etc. They may not be as eager to have you help if your helping comes with consequences for them.

Basically, just make sure you are in the right mental, financial, and social state to help him. Once there, you'll be able to help appropriately; or you'll be able to find someone who can help. After all, you may not be who your uncle needs right now. It may be someone else. Sometimes a friend, sometimes a family member, sometimes a stranger. Whatever works.

 

I'm a firm believer that the planet's societies have gotten far too enablist while developing some bizarre aversion for institutionalizing people who REALLY need it. There are more than a few mental disorders that should require people to be placed in a home of some type, but these people are not only kept from this safe place, they are actively encouraged to live self sufficient lives that they are incapable of. Could you imagine how much better the world would be if the money spent to keep death row inmates alive and fed for over 20 years each was utilized to create a safe facility for people who are unable to function in society?

 

From reading everything you posted (prior posts too) I think the guy is mentaly sick and if anything you guys need to have him checked out. If he turns out ok....well he is just an asshole. But the wandering thing, is a huge tell sign of mental issues.


Anyway heres my life sucks woe: When you fall for the wrong person again and again.

Long story short: Hot girl at the office, everyone hits on her, I try to keep my distance cause I dont want to be another collateral, plus my policy of "dont interfere with another mans woman" (she has a boyfriend) despite the fact that she was nice and upbeat with me. Fast-forward almost a year, and I think I couldnt stop myself from falling for her either.....We dont talk much outside of work stuff, plus she has everyone running besides her like an idiot. Still I believe I should do nothing and let it pass, but its annoying.....

 

Kinda trying to find a new job. They are building a new Costco in town and were starting at $15 an hour. I thought "Hey that is only .20 less than what i am doing now, but i would be days and a lot closer to home." So Tuesday night i apply for 6-7 positions that sound best. Things like inventory clerk, reciving (log in new shipments), claims (damaged/stolen/returned goods), stocker, optician, etc. All stuff i have experience around or with. I get a call to set up an interview. I just called back. They only hire people in as part time to start, they consider full time a promotion. I thanked them and declined. Screw that. I need full time. I want out of my current 3rd shift job. I want days. Ugh. Back to the search next day off.

 

You did right. Walk away.
There are lots of companies that have figured out if we just don't have full-time employees, we don't need to do all that stuff required by law. Y'know, like health care, breaks, overtime pay, actual wages. Or better yet, just have a bunch of contractors, then they aren't even your employees (I'm looking at you, the WWE) and you can treat them as shitty as you like.
And screw every single one of those companies.

 

So with that jerk of an uncle out of the house finally... (No idea where he vanished. It's probably messed up, but I'm kind of apathetic to it anyway...)

I thought things would be nice and calm. Nope. Barely lasted a fucking week.

My mother is finally entitled to social security payments. It's a modest boost of income, but no where near enough for her to ever self-sustain, and she's too dense to understand this. Got her first check today. Acted like she won the lottery... and bought herself a car. She consulted no one on it, and was conned into this ludicrous high-interest finance that almost doubles the damn MSRP.

Why can't I catch a damn break... this caused this giant fight because my old man and I were reasonably frustrated with this. The money she'd receive would have been a nice cushion for the hard times we've had to deal with... but she pissed it away immediately. But we're assholes for even having the gall to look at her funny over this idiocy. My old man is justifiably pissed, I'd argue, because he's on the verge of retirement, and we *cannot* afford to pile debts. But this one can't grasp basic math, and is infuriated when people talk to her about finances. It frustrates me that someone so willfully ignorant and proud cannot accept help with anything until shit is fucked up. Over. And Over. And Over again.

What's worse is my credit is actually pretty good. While I wasn't intent on getting a car in the near future (certainly not a new one either), if I signed up for a loan, I'm eligible for no interest payments. But of course... why should I bury myself into more debt? The only reason I even have debts is to dig my family out of holes left and right. I already did this extensively last year. I'm working six days a week currently and barely have money in the bank, despite not spending on myself. I'd love to hit up the 3rd Party TF scene again, or even buy Siege figures... but I fucking can't. I'd love a new PC, as this one chokes on 1080p video, and is on Win7 still. Nope. Can't.

I'd love to distance myself from all this... and a new job or salary bump would help. I could use a new job, but I'm so damn depressed I can't focus enough to pick up new skills. The current job had promise, but nope. My boss's boss took a liking to me, but resigned a month after I joined. My boss, the man who hired me, was let go three months ago. I was dangled two opportunities due to sudden resignations from two others... and then denied. I'm so tired of this.................

 

I am having issues with my wisdom teeth. They frequently get sore and swollen, and they tend to rub against my gums. At the moment, the left one is tender and painful. I actually have great teeth with few (if any) problems but these wisdom teeth are a pain in the butt.

The big problem is that I have a dental phobia. It's gotten better over the years but the thought of having teeth extracted terrifies me.

Anyone else who has wisdom teeth removed- is it worth it in the long run? Mine are nothing but little stumps but they are pushing up against my other teeth. I am going to the dentist on Monday, and I am strongly considering asking for an extraction. I know it will be painful but I have a feeling I will be better off in the long run.

I get free dental care because I have a disability, which is one less thing to worry about.

 

Not sure if they are worth it in the long run, I had maybe 3 of 4 removed? I had the removal done when I was young, before I knew much...like FDA and Big Pharma shaking hands and in the pockets of each other...that extends to all types of medical professions like doctors and fentanyl, etc...dentists and you should do this and that and convincing you, you need deep cleaning. So, I have had this one "baby" wisdom tooth that is there...and it hasn't fallen out as they all say because the opposing tooth that would abut against it is no longer there. They try to subtly convince to have it removed because it will slowly descend and cause me issues.

BUT!...if you do do it, here is what I remember, anesthesia, being awake...being 99% numb and hearing your teeth being pulled out and a tearing/ripping sound. Not terrifying at all.  

 

Had all 4 of them done at the same time. They just numb my mouth. I didn't want to be knock out. So glad that I had it done. No more pain.

 

Learned in Portuguese class that I'd been making an oopsie for the past year. Thank you is "Obrigada."

I felt like shortening it, because saying "Obrigada" every time felt like a lot. We shorten "thank you" to "thanks" in English, right? So I started saying "'brigada."

Turns out "Brigada" means "bratty." So..how these conversations have gone has been somehting like "How are you?" "I'm fine, brat!"

 

Say you need a kettle to boil the water prior to use, after all this is a health issue. Obtain one.

You work out how much it costs to boil each kettle's worth of water (wattage of the kettle multiplied by the seconds it takes to boil equals the amount of joules used) and calculate that figure against the kilowatt/hour the company pays, working out exactly how much it'll cost to boil every kettles worth of water.

Then show how much cheaper using the store use water would be. And there's no way they should stop you using a kettle, because if they do, and you DO somehow develop the shits after informing them about the risks... well. That's negligence and makes them liable for damages.

 

As much as I'd love to do this, I just decided to bring 1 or 2 Gallon jugs of house-filtered water with me instead. At my current point in life, it's best to just roll with it. Besides this Walmart never learns from mistakes anymore anyway.

People tripping on potholes outside? constantly.
Employees getting hurt via negligence of many manners? Yup.
Roaches? That's why I don't hang my jacket in the back.
Any awareness of just how bad everything really is? "Cover it up when the Big Wigs get here".

It's inconceivable that this was once the #1 Walmart supercenter for 5 years in a row once... now we mostly likely aren't in the top 2000. If they were shut down tomorrow morning due to health hazards or for that ONE person to actually sue for the big money, I wouldn't be surprised in the least....

 

Wow. Taxes have been horrific this year. I finished transitioning to a different inventory model and started aggressive BOGO sales to clear out dead stock. The result was 3 times the paperwork and a 42% drop in revenue. Even without confirming non-inventory costs, it looks like I'm underwater already. The last time I had such a drop, it was followed by another the following year. Not looking forward to 2019 taxes. eBay has been a trickle and the local comic show was a bust. With eBay poised to kick me off for not handing over bank access for them to leak to hackers, it's going to take a miracle to avoid the predicted crash.