Trying to keep this gender neutral. If person A earn's X and able to cover all the family's finances, and lets factor in a decent contribution towards children's college fund and retirement fund. Person A, also does not have any vices, (Alcohol, cigarettes, gambling, etc) would that person's mate be irrateded/ become upset if person A spends Y amount every month on toys (be it transformers, star wars, etc)? Also, what if person A and his/her mate were not married and have no children. Also, what if Person A and mate had to combine both of these incomes to cover there financial needs, but had a generous remaining balance. Lastly, if couple C and D were covering there financial needs jointly, and had some extra money every month, would the non-collector mate, have issues of there other spend a substantial amount every month or two?
This sounds like a math problem. Seriously, though, we're talking about people and relationships, not robots following a program. Everybody's different, but generally speaking the key point is that this is a hobby. That means that if you have other priorities you need to take care of and money's too tight to be blowing $250 on MP Dinobot then maybe you gotta go without MP Dinobot. On the other hand, if you do have the money and this is a hobby that's important to you then a good partner will accept that within reason (for example, you and your partner agree on a budget).
My wife thinks I spend too much on these robots, heck I think I spend too much on them and am equally irritated but it's my only vice at the moment and we have funds left but that will change soon. I think the real issue is these things are really pricey and they don't need to be. There are always better uses of funds than these things, can't argue with that but it's collecting, part fun part sickness. Enjoy!
If it's your money and you've been responsible, you have the right to spend X percent on it on yourself. It's your money after all. The thing is for most people no matter how much they are socking away right now, it won't be enough. Most people in America barely have any money in their 401K or even savings account. That does not mean you have to live like a monk, but have a budget and be flexible down i.e. if you are falling behind in your contribution, then give up a month's purchase or something.
If the person that you're with doesn't embrace or support your collecting habits- there are potentially several problems there you may need to discuss. While you could be quite financially responsible, however they do not see the value in your toys. To your partner, toys, are probably little more than juvenile nonsense and nothing more than a complete waste of money. Maybe toy collecting carries some stigma in their social circles, or with their immediate family. "Oh, is that man that you live with still buying toys like a child? I hope he grows up some day honey! Remember when I made YOU grow up and throw away all your stupid toys!?" They may even place more value is other arguably more potentially destructive or reckless vices (drinking expensive alcohol, smoking, skydiving, etc.) because these habits are socially acceptable. When I was younger and partying until 6AM I'd have a few drinks- never enough to get disgustingly fowl, black out or obnoxiously drunk (because I'm a mature awesome person) but enough to dance a little sillier, maybe have the inhibitions to flirt with some gorgeous hunk, or become a an reprehensible hooligan and spray paint a silver penis on a road cone. Alcohol has no value to me anymore- I'd rather take that $50, enjoy a sober Friday, and buy a Takara KO- All couples disagree over finances- but if you feel like your passion has become an issue, use open communication. Do not share it here- share it with them. Have a mature discussion and good luck working it out.
boy am i glad my girlfriend also likes TFs. generally tho- keep real life a priority, make sure you and your partner both understand and respect each others' hobbies, the usual. that should just be a given for relationships tbh
Then I guess your avatar is forever in conflict with itself- I wish you victory in the coming battles.
You are, of course, free to use whatever color you like but blue is the agreed-upon color of choice on this forum to indicate sarcasm. Choosing to use it as "the color of truth" when everybody else recognizes it as sarcasm just means that you are making your communication less effective than it could be. It's like if you decided that "toilet brush" was what you're going to call cheeseburgers from now on. You're free to do it but nobody is going to know what you mean when you go into McDonald's and try to order a toilet brush.
I think train A would have to leave Chicago at 3 to meet train B at the halfway point at 5. That's the right answer unless I misread the question.
I've always hated the blue as sarcastic thing. Just use a smiley or something and if you still don't get it then tough.
That's one way to look at it- another way is that anyone who takes issue with my words (because they see only color and not content) can have whatever reaction they want. Hey man, wanna go out for toilet brushes sometime and talk Fish Crackers? Some people seem to confuse Transformers and fish crackers all the time! At least on EBAY anyway- PS: I'm going to challenge you and order a toilet brush with extra sauce the next time I'm at McDonalds and see what happens!
So you're trolling then? Trying to create tension by deliberately flouting the custom? That's fine, but don't expect anybody to buy that pretentious "see only color and not content" nonsense. A large portion of communication is unspoken - tone of voice and body language. Since that is impossible in a text medium, the people on this site have largely agreed to use blue text to indicate sarcasm. I've seen other sites use a /s at the end of a statement to indicate sarcasm but for whatever reason, blue text is what was agreed upon here. Words are for communication and what you're communicating is that you don't care about custom and that you don't care if your posts confuse and/or irritate. Whether or not that's your intent is irrelevant - that's what's being communicated. I realize that what I'm communicating is that I'm a pompous ass and I apologize for that. If I could find a more tactful way to make my point, I would. I also realize I'm making a much bigger deal of this than is needed but sometimes I use a lot more words than are necessary in an effort to make sure I can't be misunderstood. I wouldn't want my posts to be as confusing as yours.
