The Official TFW Heartbreak Hotel/Forever Alone/Relationship Advice Thread

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Nachtsider, May 9, 2012.

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  1. TFXProtector

    TFXProtector TFW2005 Supporter

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    ^ This.

    WTF has this thread become? No offense, but if you have to ask that question to someone on a message board like this, then something's not right in your life. Just saying.
     
  2. Wolfguard

    Wolfguard Your own personal Jesus.

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    Exactly my reference. Lead singer's a mutant.

    :p 
     
  3. SkywarpsNipples

    SkywarpsNipples ホンマおもろい人やね〜

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    You're gonna find my cat on google? You don't even know his name :lol 
     
  4. JazzHunter83

    JazzHunter83 Mrs FatalT

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    Well, they say nurses see more peen than prostitutes so I might be able to help.
     
  5. Haloid1177

    Haloid1177 Hey, That's Pretty Good

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    What the fuck I don't even ILD GTFO...
     
  6. TrueNomadSkies

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    In other (non cock related) news, I always find it interesting how different of a reception I'll get based on how I feel & generally how I look, especially from women. Like, I'm not a really good looking guy or anything, but I cleaned up my beard & went out wearing non work/dirty from work clothes for the first time in almost a week, and the difference was pretty astonishing. Coincidentally, its the first time in at least that long that I haven't felt like complete garbage, and I know that played just as large of a role in how I was perceived, if not a larger one than looking presentable.

    Aka, to all the people in here looking to find someone, taking a little time every day not to look like crap goes a good way, and so does making an effort to enjoy your free time instead of just carrying around a bullshit negative outlook on life or spending it behind a computer.
     
  7. Haloid1177

    Haloid1177 Hey, That's Pretty Good

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    Meh, no interest then.
     
  8. JazzHunter83

    JazzHunter83 Mrs FatalT

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    Quoted for truth!

    It'll get largely ignored though, due to lack of genital references ;) 
     
  9. JazzHunter83

    JazzHunter83 Mrs FatalT

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    Also, can I just say that I'm a little curious as to how people would react if a guy came onto a message board and asked women to PM him so he could ask personal questions about their boobs or vagina?

    The guy would be in deep shit, he would no doubt be slammed mercilessly for being a creeper and probably banned for being a troll. Double standards kinda shit me a little.....
     
  10. TrueNomadSkies

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    Yeah, if I ever had one of those questions, I'd just ask a female friend, or at least one of those people wearing a "I'm not a Gynecologist, but I'll take a look" shirts. There's no way I could get away with asking it on a message board predominantly frequented by females. Probably this one tho.
     
  11. grayfox

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    What about guys with no female friends? Who can they ask if not try their luck on a message board?
     
  12. JazzHunter83

    JazzHunter83 Mrs FatalT

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    Yeah, or consult a textbook.

    The most concerning thing for me would be how the hell do you confirm someone's age on an anonymous message board?

    However, if it's a genuine question then I am quite happy to offer my opinion/advice and I know I'm a 30 year old female.
     
  13. JazzHunter83

    JazzHunter83 Mrs FatalT

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    If you had no female friends, I would suggest a textbook?

    I can't imagine that a message board will contain information that can't be found on google.

    If a guy posted on a female dominated board asking females to PM him because he had some personal questions to ask about their vagina or boobs, it would make my skin crawl.

    We just don't know their true agenda and we can't confirm anyone's age on here.

    The whole thing just makes me feel a little uneasy. I wouldn't want my son discussing his penis to some random woman on the internet anymore than I would want my daughter discussing her vagina to some random man on the internet.
     
  14. grayfox

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    Agreed. I imagine one can always ask when seeing the doctor or something?

    Some people really are with limited resources.. No female friends, no cooperation from female message boards (with good reason) and no answers from google. Few options remain unfortunately.

    Not talking about me here, but just an observation.

    JazzHunter, where do babies come from? :p 
     
  15. JazzHunter83

    JazzHunter83 Mrs FatalT

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    Lol. Well, see I can talk about where babies come from because it's not sexual - although arguably it's part of the sexual continuum.

    I understand that most people are probably genuine, I'm not even suggesting that ILD is not genuine. I'm just a little surprised at how people are reacting to her post, where I'm pretty sure that if it was a man, he would find himself on the end of some serious lashing.

    Something about posting asking for the opposite gender to PM them regarding answering intimate questions about their genitals just seems wrong to me. Why not PM males who you know to be of age directly?

    If it's regarding something physiological to do with a mans penis, why not just ask here? In the open to keep things transparent and somewhat innocent. The whole invitation to PM is ringing alarm bells in my head, especially as we know that boys as young as 13 frequent this forum.....

    It's not just the seeking of information, it's the fact that it's information that needs to be given via PM, which would indicate it's not ok for the general public and the request for over 18 only suggests that it might be rather sexual in nature and that coupled with the fact that we can't verify ages on here....ugh!
     
  16. GFH

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    The double standard exists because of sexism. Because media/society portrays women as only having value for sex, but males are valued for other things that don't boil down to whether or not you seem fuckable. It's a power balance thing I guess.

    Also ILD -who is a pretty reputable member- specifically sought out a consenting person of legal age to have that conversation with away from anyone who might not be comfortable or old enough to see it. She chose to discuss it with Aernaroth, also a reputable member. Seems fairly responsible to me.

    I mean of all the sketch things I've seen happen on these boards this is like 0.5/5 sketch.
     
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  17. JazzHunter83

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    But we can't verify that the person is of legal age. I would have zero problem with a request being made in person to people who are clearly over 18. I would be far too concerned that some 13 year old would send a PM and I feel responsible for what I may inadvertently expose a child too. I do find it irresponsible.

    Maybe it's because I'm a mother, but it doesn't sit well with me at all. My son is six, but I know he's going to be a teenager eventually. My brother is 15 and lies about his age all the time and he would be all over that offer of a PM conversation - he regularly signs up for sites using a fake age - he's 22 according to Facebook. It's really not difficult. Doesn't negate our responsibility as adults to keep them safe. If he ended up in a compromising situation, the fact that he lied about his age won't exonerate ILD from the legal ramifications if she does cross the line in a PM.

    I'm just as concerned about preserving ILD integrity as I am about underage people. It's too easy to get into trouble when you expose yourself to that risk. If the question is innocent, then it could be posted here. If not, there is a veil of secrecy and all it takes is one underage member (or their parent) to point the finger and everything turns to shit.

    By all means have the conversation, but sending out an invitation to anyone who can take up the offer is not wise in my opinion. If I had a question, I would initiate that conversation directly with someone I was well acquainted with.

    I know all about sexism, and gender bias. Doesn't mean I don't feel disgusted when I see it. I certainly don't sit back and accept it because that would make me part of the problem.
     
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    Well, ILD is getting married and has a masters degree (two?), so I think she's an adult. And Aernaroth looks to have joined in 2004, 10 years ago. He would have had to have been less than eight to be underage now. It just doesn't seem likely either of them are minors.
     
  19. Aernaroth

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    I've said it before, I'll say it again, the FW in TFW2005 does not stand for First Aid and Wellness. They should ask on a relevant message board if that's the course of action they simply must take. And even then, you should be very aware of the credibility of the people you're getting your information from.
     
  20. JazzHunter83

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    Huh? My comments have nothing to do with Aernaroth? It's great that he offered to help and I hope he satisfies her curiousity.

    Doesn't change the fact that we have no clue who else may have sent a PM or what that entailed.

    Yes, she's an adult, which places to onus of responsibility on her. It means that if some underage child sends her a PM that results in inappropriate exposure and mummy or daddy find out and decide to get a hair up their butt....ILD has no recourse just because she states "oh he lied about his age". Whether a minor lies or not, the adult is still 100% responsible legally. Who wants to carry around a child offense conviction for the rest of their lives?

    If ILD wants to expose herself to that risk, that is up to her. I am hoping she thinks a little bit about what the possible repercussions may be. I also hope that TFW think about the possible repercussions may be if something innappropriate does occur and angry and vindictive parents get on the scene. The fact is, she invited people to PM her discussing goodness knows what (but something that sounds sexual or personal) and adding a disclaimer "over 18" isn't necessarily going to afford protection to her. Just like nudie mags still get in big trouble if they feature minors, even if the minor lies about their age.

    It's a can of worms that should just stay closed.

    I still stand by my comment that the gender bias annoys the fuck out of me.
     
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