Would you compromise your morals and principles for love?

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Would you?

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  1. Poho

    Poho That's MISTER Poho to you

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    I've been put in a situation where I have to choose between the girl I love and my principles and morals. What would you do?
     
  2. Nagaoka

    Nagaoka Well-Known Member

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    It's hard to say without knowing more details, but if being with a person I love means being someone I'm not, or doing something that will make me feel ashamed of myself, then I would think twice about it. Love isn't really built on that sort of thing. It goes double if this is the ultimatum that it sounds like.

    I would discuss it with the loved one at length though.
     
  3. Blitz.

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    I have to answer this with another question after that I think the answer should be clear...



    does she let you put in her pooper?
     
  4. AMG

    AMG Old School

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    I would never compromise myself.
     
  5. Digilaut

    Digilaut My name is Drift.

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    What kind of principles and morals are we talking about, here?

    And is she worth it?
     
  6. deltaprime

    deltaprime The Christian Transfan

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    It ain't worth it if she's making you feel like you have to do something you know is wrong.
     
  7. Razorclaw

    Razorclaw Are ya gonna draw pistols

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    We need details for a right answer (if there is one - such things can be a mess).

    All I can say now is that I would do anything for my family, because they love me, I love them, and what I do for them, I know they will do for me. It is a different thing with a girlfriend, do you realy love each other, what guaranty do you have that she will do the same for you? Reciprocity is the main question here.
     
  8. Deceptikitty

    Deceptikitty all about the hasubandos

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    I don't think so, I think you should be able to have a common ground with your significant other and understand your moral limits. If you keep having to question/feel that your morals/principles are threatened, then it's time to have a talk with your partner if they're the cause of the problem. Look for that common ground. Your moral standing shouldn't be 100% identical, but it should be close enough to prevent problems.
     
  9. Bumblethumper

    Bumblethumper old misery guts

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    What do you have to do...

    Steal for love?

    Kill for love?

    Sell drugs for love?

    Drown puppies for love?

    I would do anything for love.
     
  10. David

    David . TFW2005 Supporter

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    Sometimes love is more important then your own personal principles/ morals. It all depends on the situation. I believe (not to sounds like a hopeless romantic) Love is all we truly have in this world and if both of you really love each other, sometimes personal principles/morals have to be bent.
     
  11. red4

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    No, I wouldn't, for anyone, under any circumstance. I have indeed been in this situation, and although it was pure hell, it was worth getting away from her, because I knew that if I kept trying to make it work, I would end up extremely unhappy, and possibly depressed to the point of suicide. I've never been suicidal, and I intend to never be.
     
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    lars573 Well-Known Member

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    No. For money yes, but not for love.
     
  13. Chrono Grimlock

    Chrono Grimlock Perfect By Nature

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    Trim always wins.
     
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    even if you're not happy?
     
  15. Paladin

    Paladin Have Zord, Will Travel

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    I can't give an all-purpose answer to this type of question.
     
  16. Deceptikitty

    Deceptikitty all about the hasubandos

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    But can you stay in love with someone who you constantly disagree concerning what they're doing vs your morals? It seems to me like it'd be a gradual turn for the worse. It's not love if you're unhappy together. For instance, let's say your partner becomes heavily involved with drugs (nothing hard, let's use marijuana as an example).. something you yourself have a strong stance against. They have no motivation to change, and continue to do it even though you've made it clear you don't approve of it. You'll be in a constant struggle with this person, and it's only natural for hard feelings to develop. If they won't change, and you're unwilling to become more tolerant.. then the relationship isn't worth it.
     
  17. Poho

    Poho That's MISTER Poho to you

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    This is the exact situation I'm in, except include five months of her doing it behind my back
     
  18. Deceptikitty

    Deceptikitty all about the hasubandos

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    I'm really sorry, Poho. I'd say if you haven't talked to her about it, do it. If she's unwilling to change even though she knows it upsets you, then I'd consider if the relationship is really worth it. You may love her, but if she puts marijuana over your feelings, then something is really wrong.
     
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    Entering into a relationship with someone that doesn't agree with your principles/morals means starting the relationship unequally yolked. This means there is an imbalance between the two of you. Relationships are difficult enough when entered on even footing, but to start it off with difficulty is asking for trouble. So many people attribute love to a spark or a feeling. They say that feeling is strong and able to overcome many obstacles. Love is not a feeling, but an action. Never compromise your principles/morals for a feeling. Especially if its one that starts in the groin.
     
  20. kidnicky

    kidnicky Well-Known Member

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    That's what he's morally against.
    LULZ. I'm pretty sure noone INTENDS TO BECOME suicidal. It's not like "Oh,I think I'll become suicidal today!" It's not like you're the chick from "Do Androids Dream Of Electric Sheep?",trying to find a setting for despair on your mood organ.
     

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