we put the cat down...as if I needed more problems

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  1. MTME

    MTME Well-Known Member

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    Hi there,
    well as most of you know I have dealing with a lot in my life with health problmes, marriage problems, job problems (thank you Jesus the school year is over), and our cat Cinders had to be put down this morning.
    This is the first time I have had to do this. We have 3 cats total and Cinders was our first. She was 12 years old. We got her when she was a kitten, someone was giving out free kitties. My husband and I were just dating at the time and he got her for 'us' and joked it was like a practice kid. We had been dating for about 5 months at the time so I think it was through that cat that I realized this was a serious relationship and could go further.
    She is also the only one of our cats that will let our son, Tyler, pet her or touch her.
    About a month ago we noticed CInders looked like she was losing weight but it was hard to tell as she is partial Persian, furry, mostly white with brown and black spots. So last week we took her to the vet because she stopped eating. The vet did about $500 worth of bloodwork plus she was down to only three pounds! Her liver enzymes were off and she was severly anemic and dehydrated. They rehydrated her via an IV. We brought her home and she quickly got worse, she lost even more weight if that was possible, she stopped drinking water too and still not eating despite the medication and appetite stimulator that the vet perscribed her. The was drooling brown slime down the front of her and her eyes were getting really goopy and swelling shut. She also stopped cleaning herself and was walking like a drunk person. I wanted to put her down (not an easy decision but I knew it was what had to be done), my husband disagreed, he thought there was some sort of medication, she would get better etc. Cinders and my husband were really close.
    So yesterday we had a long conversation with the vet, she had said she consulted with some specialists and while there isn't a specific marker for cancer that she probably does have cancer. As for my husband the vet said "if there was some sort of medication that would make her better I would have given it to you." Later that night my husband went to pet her and she moved away not wanting to be touched. When he picked her up she fought to get down. That wasn't Cinders she ALWAYS wanted to be petted and held. Though it was difficult my husband finally agreed....she needed to be put down, she was suffering.
    So this morning we tried the best we could to explain to our six year old autistic son what was happening. He looked sad and we said goodbye to Cinders and told her that we loved her. My husband then took her to the vet while I stayed home with our son. I'm not sure I could emotionally handle being in the room while she passed and we didn't want our son to be in there witnessing that. My husband came home and went upstairs saying he wanted to be alone. I wasn't going to let that happen. I went upstairs and he was crying, he said it was so hard but it was just like she went to sleep. My husband never comforts me (some people know about how my health problems has caused problems in our marriage) but I comforted him. We've been together for 13 years and I have only see him cry once before and that was when we were dating and he was drunk, so really it was the alcohol crying.
    This is by far the hardest thing I think I've had to deal with, I just can't stop crying.
    Here are a couple pictures of our Cinders, may she rest in peace and she gave us a very happy 12 years.
    There is Cinders cuddled in the TMNT headrest (she loved that thing), and one with her sitting next to our son Tyler who was showing her how to play Super Hero Squad computer game.
     

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  2. eagc7

    eagc7 Well-Known Member

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    sorry to hear that
     
  3. daitarn red

    daitarn red bionic hero

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    be brave
     
  4. BooyakaDragon

    BooyakaDragon I Don't Even Know

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    Just hang in there, it will be alright. I lost a dog I knew my whole life, so I know how you feel..
     
  5. GreednGluttony

    GreednGluttony grumpy smurf

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    i feel your pain, ive had three cats die in my lifetime all of them dieing the hard way, each death got more and more painful emotionally to the p point were i'm over protective of my other cats. anyway sorry for your loss :( 
     
  6. Chaos Muffin

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    Sorry about your cat. Better to be in peace than to suffer.
     
  7. tikgnat

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    Sorry to hear about your cat. It was a tough decision, but was for the best.
     
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    RIP kitty :( .
     
  9. grimlock1972

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    I am sorry to hear of your beloved kitteh's passing, 12 years is a good run for a cat so rest assured you gave Cinders a long full life.
     
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    I know what you are going through. My family and I had to put our kitty down a few weeks ago. It was the hardest thing I had ever gone through, and our kitty was only ten years old too! It can be really painful, even if it is just emotionally. I hope things get better soon. Only time can heal these kinds of wounds.
     
  11. AnithaPrime

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    Sorry to hear :(  We had to do that with one of our cats, she never liked me and was a pain in the ass a lot, but in the end it was sad to see her go :( 
     
  12. Belgrath

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    That sucks. Had a cat (male) sine the middle of July of last year, vet said he had leukemia and they had to put him down (happened in March, got another one a week later, it's a female).

    Stay strong, things will be fine.
     
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    Sad. One of my own cats died of old age a couple of years ago. She may have been seventeen, but it was still sad.
     
  14. doomboy536

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    Sorry for your loss :( 
     
  15. Ranger Silver 6

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    I had to have my dog put down the other day so I know your pain. I have known her literally all my life, it was one of the hardest things I have had to do.
     
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    So sorry about that. That must be really hard. Looks like Cinders was a beautiful kitty.
     
  17. nobleboivin

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    you'll be sad for a while but you'll get better eventually. At least you got to say goodbye.
     
  18. 03Mach1

    03Mach1 Reason Has No Voice

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    I'm sad just reading that. Damn.
     
  19. JazzHunter83

    JazzHunter83 Mrs FatalT

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    I am so sorry! Pets are part of the family and it can be so, so painful to have to say goodbye - even when you know it's time to let them go because they're suffering.

    She sounds like she was an awesome addition to your family and I know that she felt loved right at the end :) 
     
  20. FatalT 71

    FatalT 71 Mr. JazzHunter

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    I am so sorry for your loss. It's never easy to have to do that to a friend :( 
     

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