Not many here know this, but my wife is in the navy and is stationed in Atsugi Japan. She's been there since May 9th of this year, and we've always been very close, one of those "everything in common" types of relationships. We love everything the other loves, make the same dumb jokes, we're endlessly entertained by one another, and since only a few weeks after I met her (while I was dating another woman), I knew her and i would get married. It's just been that great. But she left for Japan, and I haven't seen her since. We talk on AIM, an email here or there, once in a great while she'll find time to call me (this is getting more and more rare), and for the most part, we've kept optimistic. A few weeks ago, I decided I'd be moving to Japan with her, get off-base housing with her, we'd make it the rest of her station together, because we've both been so sick and lonely. I fly out to be with her December 9th, touching down early on the 11th. But slowly, more and more I've noticed her changing. She's been lonely, and I know that she's never taken to that well. But now she's been getting to the point where she makes me feel like I'm just there, and not her husband. We set aside a full day, scheduled off work and everything, to just sit and talk, and halfway through, she decided to join her friends for a movie, and spent most of the conversation preoccupied with an online RPG. Needless to say, I was hurt by her lack of enthusiasm for talking with me. She still loves me, and tells me such, even going on to thank me profusely for not giving up on her all the while she's been there away from me. She says married coupled will fight, but she's admittedly changed a lot. And I'm finding it hard to love her for it. I can't find the words to say this to her though. What the hell should I do? I'm at my rope's end, and I feel like I'm about to give up. I'd hate doing it but i'm so beat up about all of this, I don't know what to do anymore.