Ok, so here is the situation. My Wife is adopted. She wants to meet her natural Mother. We have enough info to probably pay some one to find her, but I think I may have a good lead on my own. Question is: Do I try and contact this woman, stating who I am and my intentions in the hope that it is the right person and they are willing to talk with me? Or do I let my wife figure it out for herself? Also, if I contact this person, what should I say? It would be nice to give my wife some closer on this...she has wanted to meet this person since she found out that she was adopted.