Thoughts, opinions, advice...help.

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  1. Team Jetfire

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    Ok, so here is the situation.

    My Wife is adopted. She wants to meet her natural Mother. We have enough info to probably pay some one to find her, but I think I may have a good lead on my own.

    Question is: Do I try and contact this woman, stating who I am and my intentions in the hope that it is the right person and they are willing to talk with me? Or do I let my wife figure it out for herself?

    Also, if I contact this person, what should I say?

    It would be nice to give my wife some closer on this...she has wanted to meet this person since she found out that she was adopted.
     
  2. drippy

    drippy is a freethinker.

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    You tell your wife what you know and let your wife make her own decision.

    *edit*

    That's not to say that you should avoid giving her your opinion or advice...but ultimately it should be a decision that she makes and can live with regardless of outcome.
     
  3. pscoop

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    Gotta agree with drippy, tell her what you know and she can decide what she thinks is best.
     
  4. Joe Moore

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    Yeah, I also agree with drippy.

    I understand what you are trying to do, but first contact should definately come directly from your wife.
     
  5. smkspy

    smkspy is one nice fucking kitty

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    Yeah, tell your wife everything and let her make the decision since, well it is her possible family. Taking matters solely into your own hands might be thoughtful or thoughtless depending on the outcome.
     
  6. Prowl

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    yeah sounds like the right thing to do
     
  7. Autovolt 127

    Autovolt 127 Get In The Titan, Prime!

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    Supoort Her,You might find out her real mom may be nicer than your wifes adopted mom.
     
  8. Smasher

    Smasher HUNKY BEATS

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    I don't understand what you mean by this:
    "Question is: Do I try and contact this woman, stating who I am and my intentions in the hope that it is the right person and they are willing to talk with me? Or do I let my wife figure it out for herself?"

    I don't know how your wife would figure it out. Does she also know this person?
    Maybe I am getting caught up in the way you phrased it. At any rate, I would tell her what you know and let her initiate the contact.
     
  9. Team Jetfire

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    Sorry if I didn't explain it propery. My Wife wants to meet her mother. She doesn't know where to start. I may have found her mother (the internet is a beautiful thing), but was unsure on how to proceed. I was thinking of contacting this person myself, but think that the advice give her is spot on.

    I will give the info to my wife and when she is ready she can contact her.

    Thanks guys!
    :thumb 
     
  10. Lady_Prime

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    I PM'ed my response to you...

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  11. seeker311

    seeker311 The Collector

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    I too concur
     
  12. Bryan

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    Your wife was born to this woman and given up for adoption long before she met you, and as such, I think it's much more appropriate for her to contact her mother in her own way.

    Look at it this way: even since she found out she was adopted, she's probably been thinking about how the first encounter would go. Let her see it through on her own.
     

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