The 3rd person really isn’t the one to blame in any of this, if the other person in your relationship is a cheater it doesn’t make them any the less a cheater if there is no one to cheat with. They are still basically scum that will screw you over, they just don’t have any one to do it with, that doesn’t make them any better a person. I would say if we look at it like this the 1st person: the one that is being cheated on, the second person: the one that’s doing the cheating and the 3rd person: the one that the second person is cheating on the 1st person with. I would then assign the blame like this 1st person 20% of the blame, the 1st person is failing to keep the second person happy and for filled or the second person is some what selfish or a slut and the 1st person instead of calling them on it or ending the relationship has put up with it, they are the two basic ways this happens and the first person has 20% of the over all blame because of this. 2nd person 60% of the blame, 2nd person is either bored in the relationship or greedy and cannot control them selves, instead of doing the decent things of either ending the relationship or accepting there lust but not letting them selves be controlled by it they are being selfish and using other people, they get so I work that out as 60% of the problem. 3rd person is at most 20% to blame as long as they are single [if not they aren’t really a 3rd person but more the 2nd person b, crap this is getting over complex], the 3rd person is being offered the chance to have sex with some one they like, now sex is something we are designed for and we want to have a lot so they are following there natural instincts and they really owe the 1st person nothing, sorry but every one in this world is basically looking out for them selves, if your not your going to get screwed over a hell of lot. 3rd person is just taking an opportunity at worst and at best they think a relationship will come of this, if it does they usually fail cos the people involved lives change so much, so really it ends up being the worst for them. Hell the 3rd person can end up getting hurt as bad or some times ever worse than the 1st person. So an opportunist or a fool who doesn’t get that if the second person was really interested they would leave the 1st person before moving on to them, so I put that at 20% of the blame. Now the 3rd and 1st person knowing each other, it doesn’t change that much, sure they could know what a good person the 1st might be, or what a fool they are, or they might know all the crap stuff the 1st person has done to the 2nd and see that as a even better reason for cheating with the 2nd. In the end to me it makes little difference, if the 2nd person is looking to cheat that’s the problem, the 3rd person is irrelevant, weather the second person cheats or not is irrelevant, its fact they want to that’s the problem, if they can’t over come that then nothing will save the 1st and 2nd persons relationship. Well that’s about as logically as I can look at that, I know logic doesn’t really come in to how the first person is going to feel but it would be better for them to just accept there part of the blame, and that people fail and move on with there lives and try to be free of the 2nd person and the problems they have made. I know it was the only thing that really helped when it happened to me cos revenge sure didn’t.
Quoted for truth, end of discussion... ... and if anyone actually disputes this, well... maybe you're harboring cruel intentions yourselves, no?
THANK YOU. QFT!!!!!!! and to everyone. I totally respect other peoples relationships, and I would never go out of my way to break one up.. I was just joking with my earlier post.