The question to end all questions.

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  1. eyeballkid

    eyeballkid Old

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    How do you ask out a married woman that wants a divorce, that likes you, and you work with them. (and they are a bit younger then you)

    ???????
     
  2. CZ Hazard

    CZ Hazard Sons of Unicron PTT

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    Ooh, I'm not touching that one *walks away*
     
  3. Creepybaldguy

    Creepybaldguy Well-Known Member

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    Kill her husband.
     
  4. Soundblaster1

    Soundblaster1 The Heisenberg of Toys

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    Put a condom in her inbox with a post-it note "with love, [your name]"
     
  5. Nachtsider

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    The answer to end all answers: forty-two.

    Seriously, though, check out the reasons behind her seeking the divorce first. If the reasons are her fault, you might want to think things over - in time, it might be you on the receiving end of some divorce papers. If they're not, then see what state the marriage is exactly in. If the husband is practically estranged from her, then go for it. Just walk right up to her and ask her sincerely. If not, then wait up.
     
  6. Moonscream

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    You don't.

    She could potentially get screwed over in the divorce if it looks like she was cheating, and she needs a chance to work out her issues with regards to the divorce anyway.

    Besides, WANTING a divorce and actually GETTING one are two different things. It may be all talk, and if she's got a kid or two, she may end up staying 'for the kids' or for other reasons.

    --Moony
     
  7. Ravenxl7

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    Stick it in her pooper?

    Though seriously, I'm not sure what advice I could give you about this. I personally have never been in a situation anything like this one, though I do know someone who, last time I checked, was in a somewhat similar situation. To put it simply, he's not in what I would call a good place (but then again, his entire life is pretty much a series of white trash novels).

    What Nachtsider said makes sense. Depending on the more specific details of the situation, it may or may not be worth the attempt.
     
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    /\This
     
  9. eyeballkid

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    No kids, the guy kinda changed after serving in the Iraqi war. She feels like a prisoner, not a wife.
     
  10. Valkysas

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    mail him photos of his wife with hearts drawn around her face with a crayon.

    He'll happily step aside and let you take over.
     
  11. Nachtsider

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    He's a vet who saw combat? Unless you're one too, or can otherwise handle yourself well in a physical confrontation, I'd be wary of a potential ass-kicking. Looks like he's pretty possessive of her.
     
  12. eyeballkid

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    Thank you! We are friends first, and I don't want to get in the way. I just want her to be happy, and she is happy around me. We haven't had the time to talk about it on a serious level because work has been busy...
     
  13. eyeballkid

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    THAT is what I'm worried about.
     
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    A: You wait till after the divorce is final.
     
  15. eyeballkid

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    True, but she might move away to her home state to figure it out, leaving me.
     
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    Just take it slow, wait for the divorce to play out, then ask her out.
     
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    This is "the question to end all questions?"

    Okay. GD officially sucks.
     
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    So are you most concerned with HER being happy, as you said above, or with YOU being happy? You have to accept that they may not be the same thing.

    Agreed with the others. Don't to a damn thing until it's final. If you really care about her, be her friend. She'll need one, probably for longer than she thinks. After papers are filed, make you interest known, but ALSO that you want her to heal first.

    I went through a similar situation. Liked a girl in a military, abusive marriage. She wanted out. She got out, I helped her as a friend, because I cared about her, not just about making "us" happen. Told her I was interested. Later we dated. Now we're married, just had our 4 year anniversary and are expecting our first rug-rat. She still remembers that I wanted her healed before sweeping in like a predator.

    If she's any mature or decent person at all, she'll appreciate and respect that you know she needs to heal from a divorce before moving on. Because she does, even if it's a bad marriage. Most women come out feeling like they've failed in a relationship, which is fundamental to female psychology, no matter how bad the marriage was. Not to mention that something like 90% of relationships formed within 6 months of a divorce fail.
     
  19. thenatureboywoo

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    I mean no offense, but why is it when a woman talks to a guy, he thinks she's automatically interested in a relationship? Women love to talk to people about how they feel. She's probably doing it at home and it's falling of deaf ears. So she talks to you because you listen, because you have other motives.

    But if you feel she and you have nothing to lose, just ask her. Don't ask a bunch of teenagers on a forum. lulz.
     
  20. Lance Halberd

    Lance Halberd oh hai

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    Ask Dan Savage. He'll tell you what to do.
     

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