Relationship problem

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  1. IhsantheCursed

    IhsantheCursed Banned

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    Im haveing a difficult time right now, and im up and bored at 5:30 in the morning. So I figured I would ask a bunch of complete strangers what they think of my situation (hey..at least were all Transfans).

    I have a female friend. She's been a good friend for awhile now. Recently, we both admitted to haveing feelings for the other. We went out. We enjoyed our times together. Then her grandmother passed away. She was VERY close to her. It was two weeks ago. She told me after that happend that she "wasnt ready for a relationship, but I(she) (does) still have feelings for you(me)". Now ... today we are supposed to meet for lunch at a local place. Just as friends. The problem is...I think im in love with her.

    My heart speeds up, I become jealous, nervous, and joyfull all at once when she is near. I think of her quite often. When I think about loseing her, I get...very sad. Normally I do not react emotionally when it comes to the opposite sex, as Ive been hurt before, and choose not to get too attached. Its too late for that now though.

    Any advice? Comments?
     
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    Kill her and wear her skin.
     
  3. IhsantheCursed

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    I'll try and keep that in mind.
     
  4. Creaky

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    Just wait, if you care that much for her then waiting till she's in a better state won't be a problem. :) 

    Just make sure you're there for her and can help her through this tough time, and when she comes out of it, if the feelings are still there then everything will work out for you.
     
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    Yeah. Kinda what ive been doing man. Hope your right. Thanks.
     
  6. MetroBub

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    Give her some time to get past this bad exp. of losing a loved one man.

    Remember: If you love it let it go. If it comes back it was meant to be.

    Or u can just kill her and say it was for love........ Just joking...

    Anyways, Hey did you know your icon guy is from MTG ?
     
  7. TERR0RC0N

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  8. IhsantheCursed

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    Thank you for your advice. I will also keep that in mind.

    Yes, Ihsan's Shade is a "Magic:the Gathering" card from the "Legends" expansion. My moniker is based off of him. I have played that game from 97-07. I dont play anymore due to a lack of sportsmanship in the professional events.
     
  9. MetroBub

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    My fav. was Dakkon Blackblade :thumbs2: 
     
  10. Robogeek28

    Robogeek28 Who're you calling a geek?

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    Kind of an ironic post right there.:rolleyes: 


    Your best bet is to just stay friends like she wishes and try not to push it right now. Trust me pushing a situation like this can only lead to her not even wanting to be around you. Just wait awhile and see what happens, she may come around or she may not.
     
  11. Riltht

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    Couldn't have said it better myself.
     
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    No man don't wait. You never know when she'll find a prince from Scotland and become engaged. Then she'll ask you to be the maid of honor, and you'll spend the whole time trying to break them up. You won't succeed at first, but then she'll realize she has feelings for you until she see's her best friend on top of you in your bed. Then the only way to get her back is to ride a horse into the ceremony and tell her you love her, and her fiance punches you in the face because he knows that he isn't the man of her dreams. Then you live happily ever after.
     
  13. Sideswipe1954

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    Someone's been watching PPV again, haven't they :lolol 
     
  14. Predaking

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    I got out of the game back in 2004 or 2005.. after I have acquired a full set of Dual Lands, the expansion at the time was Storm-something. I only completed in two tournaments but I faced Mark Rosewater in one of them and beaten him using a Rack deck with Necropotence.. but I wasn't smart enough to just go with Necro until much later. Anyways back to your girl dilemma, I think the best thing to do is not to fall into the "friend" trap. Right now she's still in mourning and while you can offer a shoulder for her to cry on, remember not to only be that or she'll find another guy if she's looking for love. Be supportive and perk up her spirit from time to time, but still look for opportunity to hang out with her and do things together.
     
  15. Goaliebot

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    Give her some time, be supportive, but also watch for when she appears to be getting over things and find the right time to try to re-start the romantic relationship (slowly).

    The trick is to be a friend right now while she mourns, but transition into more-than-friend as she gets over the mourning period.

    Try to be more-than-a-friend too quickly, while she's still mourning and coping, and you may push her away. BUT, stay in the "friend zone" too long as she gets over things and you may get stuck there.

    Good luck!
     
  16. TheIncredibleHulk

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    You'll always be close to her this way.
     
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    Give her time to grieve for her loss, but also be close to her to let her unload on how much her life sucks.
     
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    yeah, I would just consider the possibility that timing has ruined your chances. I would not have any expectations if I were you. she might feel like you still expect something out of her and that might push her away. Play the good friend that's there if she needs you but otherwise, start to temporarily pull away. Give her some space but try to stay relevant. in a few weeks, let her know that you still care for her but that you also care for her friendship. see what happens then.

    Or just wait a week and go out drinking together and whatever happens, happens.
     
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    Give her space. She needs a friend right now. Your insecurities (jealousy) will only cause problems and ruin things. You're in lust, in love with love, you don't decide or think you love her, when you do you'll just realize it one day.
     
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    Support her, but give her space.
     
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