Yup, this is a learning experience. You got a bit more confidence in the "talking to girls" area, and found out what happens when you wait forever.
You need to ask another girl out -now. Now one ever counts the misses ;the only record that counts is the hits. You say you are in college? There is no better place to be to ask chicks out. Plus, being her friend may introduce you to other chicks.
If you're in college I know it sounds stupid but still talk to her. When you go out to the bars you might run into her and her friends, she'll introduce you and boom you bang one of her friends. Even if she's an ugly girl, ugly girls have hot friends. Then on top of you still talking to her one night she might get into a fight or break up with her boyfriend and boom she calls you. Maybe she tries to get you into bed, maybe she doesn't. Just use her to meet her hot friends.
Damn I totally forgot about the fact that she may have hot single friends. She could be the window to "Hot Chick Nirvana"
ROFL Welcome to my boat! The S.S. "I'm Sick of Their Bullshit" That being said. Sorry. But shes probably an ass anyway. "thinking" about giving a number??! That smells like horse shit a mile away. And I wouldnt try the being friends thing with her. Its just going to dig the knife even deeper under your skin. And then when you finally shake her off of your mind, you'll wonder what the hell you were thinking. I would know. Happens to me ALL the time. good luck.
You guys are great, this is the greatest thread. I am on my lunch break at work and I swear I gotta stop from laughing too loudly. My advice is, watch out for that pedastel you are putting her on, as mentioned in 40 year old virgin, and yes, girls who want new male friends despite having a boyfriend, have some secret motives, so there may be something in it for you yet.
The knife even deeper under your skin? He asked a chick out and she said 'no, but we can be friends'. That's digging a knife under his skin? Finally shake her off of your mind? All he did was ask her out. You, sir, are scaring me. My advice to Frognal is to be her friend, meet her friends if you can. If you see another girl you are attracted to, talk to her straight away. You have already been through the worst thing that can happen -she said no. It never gets any worse than that, but it gets a lot better.
damn my figurative language! Im trying to say it was really deceptive on her part. It sounds like he gave a nice honest try to ask her out. But she decided to wait and tell him that she was already taken. Just getting a straight and nice "no" would be no problem. However, it sounds like this chick decided to take him onto an emotional roller coaster of sorts and lead him on. After that kinda stuff happens to me, I usually do feel down for a little while. And its also in my experience that chicks like to dig deeper under your skin after they do this sort of stuff. They will approach you and automatically spew the words "my boyfriend" out as much as they can. They will then proceed to ask you to do things/hang out with them, hence making you the third-wheel. This happens to me an amazing amount of the time with me. I always distance myself after that. In summation: Just move on.
I'm leaning towards calling her to get together and study for the final. Just to see if we can be friends (hell, it's better than what I've got now, which is jack shit). And I don't see that as excluding me from finding someone else. If it gets weird I'll move on.
Every free moment you spend with her going to Starbucks or talking on the phone or going to the mall or whatever is a moment that you could be out looking for another gal.
Unless he spends those moments actually looking for another girl. What if he takes her to Starbucks and she runs into three of her hot nymphomaniac friends?
Hell, that could only be an improvement on my girl finding quest. Currently I'm a social recluse who does fuck all most of the time.
Oh. Well in that case, good luck! I personally have wasted too much time over the years being the friend and having it go no where. The only time being a friend first ever worked out for me was when I was upfront with the gal after a couple of months of friendship. I literally told her that we shouldn't spend so much time hanging out and doing stuff together because that's not what friends do. The next day we were in a relationship. It lasted almost three years, I had a ton of fun and learned quite a number of life lessons. But the whole thing was the exception to the rule about what normally happens in these types of situations. One of the most important lessons finally drilled into my head was bypass the whole friend thing!
I don't trust anything Gigatron_2005 says about women. That dude's been traumatized hardcore or something, because he hates anything with a vagina.
Nah. I dont hate. Im just a dude with problems getting a date who happens to be a loudmouth jackass who jokes around too much. you gave me a good lol there man!
