Wow, I'm surprised at the answers. I have 3 older brothers and a dad who I have lived with and I never seen any of them cry ever. So, I was wondering if what is typically socially ingrained in a lot of things, like gender normative that guys don't cry in public was really behind guys not crying in public, or did they just not cry.
When all the men around you never cry, when your friends, parents, and pretty much every other peer or role model implies that crying is unacceptable behavior that makes you appear weak, immature, or an abberation among your gender, that's a pretty strong disincentive for someone to avoid crying (especially in view of others). There are people of both genders who are genuinely pretty stoic by nature, but that's not everybody. People are different, and men and women both run the gamut in terms of emotional personalities. And additonally, they may purposefully attempt to hide or alter parts of those personalities to better fit what they think they are required to be like.
Simple answer: guys don't cry in public because they are told they should not. I also question the people who seriously don't think men should cry; I wonder if they ever have lost a loved one, experienced a personal tragedy or on the brighter side, held their son/daughter on the day of his/her birth.
Aside from when family members have died, I haven't cried in years. It was never ingrained into me that crying was bad, I just don't see the point in it.
I've lost loved ones - I often find them again shortly in the candy section. Personal tragedy? Nothing worth crying about. When my daughter was born I held her but I didn't cry - I was HAPPY about that. Geez. She's awesome - I love my kid - why would I cry over such a happy event?
emotions are like burps and farts, better out than in. If you try and hold any of them in they will only come out more violently at more socially inconvenient times.
I'm not saying that men should or feel obligated to cry, I'm just mearly giving reasons for why a human male may cry and that's a-ok. Besides, you are clearly a emotionless robot and do not count.
I wouldn't go that far. People are wired differently emotionally. Not everyone is going to react to things the exact same way, no matter how joyous or sorrowful the cirumstances.
Oh definitely! Although, I don't cry out of physical pain, but I also have a really high tolerance, so that's probably different from other people.
I think there are things that bring tears to your eyes, but it's not the same as proper crying. And nobody wants to leave an emotional skidmark on the gusset of their life. *sniff sniff* Did someone just emote in here?
It's okay for men to cry, but as many have pointed out, we rarely do it. Heck, I don't even cry when i loose a loved one such as one of my grandparents or oldest aunts, mainly because i know that they're in a better place. If anything were to happen to my twin sister, however, I would melt into a puddle of just tears and sadness. What I find kinda cool is that physical pain never really makes one cry once they're mature enough to handle it.
yeah. however it does depend on the circumstances. i realize some are more sensitive to physical and/or emotional pain than others but unless you break multiple bones simultaneously or something more severe, it's not worth crying over. as for emotional pain, it's perfectly okay for a man to let it out when he feels like life is nothing but shit and nothing's going his way and looks like it's gonna be that way for a while. but like i said, it all depends on the circumstances and what makes each man feel obligated to cry unless the fans destroy the stadium
