Is it ok for men to cry?

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  1. ILoveDinobot

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    I don't mean at really emotional events. I mean like out of stress or frustration, or just in general. I just feel like it's more rare for a guy to cry than like when girls get upset, some girls it takes nothing to make them cry. But, like with guys, I never really seen a guy cry.

    So what do you guys think?
     
  2. Aernaroth

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    Yes. It is okay for men to cry. It is okay for them to express emotion and/or show that they are sad/hurt to the outside world. Doing so does not diminish them as a person or as a member of the male race.

    The reason men cry less, on average, is because they are told, explicitly and from a young age, not to cry. The commonality of this social expectation differs depending on region and cultural mores.
     
  3. GreednGluttony

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    i'm 17, so i don't think i qualifiy as a man yet, but i'm a very emotional fellow and i do cry often, but imo that doesn't make me any less of a "man"
     
  4. Karhukjnsi

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    Hell no.
     
  5. Gordon_4

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    Yes.

    EDIT:

    Allow me to expand on this. Repressing emotional responses is astonishingly shitty for your mental health. It builds stress and that can lead to anything from chronic headaches and migraines to really violent eruptions, mostly of anger, and worst case scenario you could end up in legal trouble.

    Now there's a big difference is not crying at all, and trying your hardest not to do so in public, which can be embarrassing for both men and women. If you prefer that grief is private then fair enough, and for fuck sake, if your husband/wife or boyfriend/girlfriend asks you what is wrong, be intelligent and tell the truth. They aren't asking to embarrass you or gain leverage over you (unless they're a sociopath or something), they're asking because they care.
     
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    There are only 3 instances where it's okay for a man to cry:

    1. When their favorite team gets eliminated from the playoffs.
    2. When a beer truck crashes and explodes.
    3. When Clint Eastwood dies.
     
  8. Aernaroth

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    Why?
     
  9. Team Jetfire

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    Yes of course.

    Why is it that over the years a woman's ability to "do" anything has been embraced (and rightly so) but if a man shows a simple emotion of sorrow he is still apparently a pussy?
     
  10. Wars

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    It's perfectly okay for men to cry. But as Aernaroth said, they just tend not to. I'm only fifteen, but I haven't cried in over two years.

    Yeah, like that's going to happen any time soon. :rolleyes2  :lol 
     
  11. opt1musaber

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    It's nonsense, everyone cries, men included. Of course, there's still that stereotype that guys are tough and don't cry and all, but that perception's changing. Showing that you care by your emotions, be it crying, hugging or whatever just shows that you're a normal caring human being. If you don't then you're socially disconnected, or you have no tear ducts.
     
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    It's harder for guys to cry,well for me cause as a Kid I was told to suck it up and get over it. (military brat)

    I get emotional, but personally I don't like crying.
     
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    Everyone should feel able to express themselves emotionally and if that includes crying then so be it.
     
  15. Metroplex79

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    I know I shed a tear, but not outright cry when:

    -I watch the 86 movie, and Optimus dies
    -I watch G1's "Dark Awakening", and Optimus dies
    -I watch BW "Code of Hero" and Dinobot dies
    -I watch 90s X-Men "Graduation", when Professor X gives his farewell speech

    I know I'll shed a tear or 2 when my mom dies...

    I don't think that makes me less of a man.

    But due to "stress or frustration"? So far nothing an hour blowing up bad guys in the gaming world won't fix.
     
  16. DethPike

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    Sure, it's ok to cry - IF YOU'RE A WOMAN.

    But if you're a MAN, you bottle that $hit up inside you and then one day you explode and go one a killing spree.

    That's how men handle "feelings".
     
  17. JazzHunter83

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    I certainly think it's ok!

    As previously stated, men don't not cry because they are physiologically less inclined, but because they are conditioned from a young age not to by being spoon fed the idea that 'real men don't cry'. To be a 'real man' and to fit into the narrow paradigms that society has constructed for masculinity they must not cry.

    Since gender is constructed as a relational concept, and since femininity is often described as emotional and sometimes even...hysterical, then masculinity obviously has to be constructed using the opposite traits (stoic, unemotional etc).

    These ideals and representations of 'masculinity' are man-made constructs, they aren't biological traits.

    In answer to your question: Men SHOULD be able to cry and show emotion...it SHOULD be ok...however, society has told us that it is NOT ok for men to cry......
     
  18. Starfire22

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    Unless you're kicked/punched in the balls.
     
  19. GreednGluttony

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    i never cry when i'm in phsical pain, only when i'm in emotional pain, i honestly never got how getting hit in the testicles would reduce someone to tears (i get hit there alot, and never once have i cried because of it)
     
  20. Starfire22

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    Eh, It depends on the person. Some people have a high tolerance of pain. (Unlike me)
     

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