Is it a bad thing to become MORE introverted?

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  1. matrixprime

    matrixprime AJ's Toy Chest Owner

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    Just wanted to throw this out there and hear people's opinions. I finally nailed a full time position at my job and started making big bucks. However now I only seem to be content when I'm working. In my personal life I've become something of a recluse. I recently shut down my match.com profile and service as well as all social media sites. I was even thinking of logging off TFW as well. I just seem to be more and more distant when it comes to actual interaction outside of a work setting. Do you guys think this is a bad thing?

    Also after seeing threads like these I think we should have an advice thread stickied. Just saying it would be nice.
     
  2. RHansen

    RHansen Sir. Ranbotnic Veteran

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    Yes.


    It may seem great and a good idea now, but it will bite you in the ass one day when you are comfortable at work and want more, and realize you've closed all those doors.
     
  3. Alucard77

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    I think personal interaction are important, so if you keep those going you will be fine. Internet interactions don't mean anything at all. Just a secondary item for people to see what is going on. That is why I have no social media page myself. You wanna know what's going on, we'll get a beer and I will let you know.
     
  4. doomboy536

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    Yes, it's a stupid idea to cut yourself off from everyone.
     
  5. Aernaroth

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    Yes, becoming a recluse will have massive negative consequences on your life in the long term.
     
  6. rxlthunder

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    Yes, yes it is.
     
  7. Cal

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    Funny, I was lying wide awake in bed from anxiety, pondering this exact same question, and suddenly this topic pops up. You people get out of my head!
     
  8. exclusacon

    exclusacon Expert with the Scopes!

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    Why are you becoming more recluse?
     
  9. Surge

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    Maybe he has social anxiety, who knows. I have a severe case of it. So bad to the point where I almost fear even leaving my house to pick up cigarettes. Believe me, I want to get better and have a social life but it seems like no medications are working at the moment. I've tried contacting my only remaining two friends from high school for a few months now but they keep ignoring me. I really wish there was a TFW meet-up here in ND though. I don't have much of a problem talking to people I actually know, even if I don't know them very well. Maybe that'd boost my confidence a bit.
     
  10. Moonscream

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    Shutting down Internet interactions doesn't mean you're becoming a recluse...just that you're turning off the Internet. Now if it was your ONLY human interaction outside of work, then it could be argued that you are. Are you going out and doing things instead, or sitting on your couch watching TV and playing video games all night?

    --Moony
     
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    Hmmnm this thread got me thinking... I've become more reclusive these days. I only communicate with a few people IRL, and aside from a few relatives and my gf, and my TF-related contacts (friends, sellers and some in between). I only speak with my officemates as needed, but that's another story...
     
  12. Inikalord

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    Yes, very.

    There is a difference between being introverted and social discomfort.

    My suggestion? Take some time to look for real people with similar interests that you have. Join a club and become a member perhaps. Surely Transformers isn't the ONLY thing you like?
     
  13. Gingerchris

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    I've got that to a degree. I'm not fond of going into town because of all the people. I used to go out boozing a lot but I gave it up because the noisy crowds were getting to me. But then on the flip-side I'll go to car boot sales where there's loads of people and I have to interact with them if I want to barter and/or buy. And I'll do car boot stalls of my own when I know people will come up to me and haggle over my wares or just want to chat.

    Maybe it's more that I just want peace and quiet in my personal life so these days I don't bother putting myself in many situations where I'm gonna be stuck with a lot of people. I used to socialise a lot but it got tiresome with so many people taking up my spare time. I'd just happily be sitting down with a book or a movie and plans for a quiet day or evening or whatever and someone would phone or drop by and want me to go out or they'd want to come over and hang.

    I'm perfectly happy to not get as involved with people now. I've still got my network of close friends and they understand when I'm not up for doing something. I dunno if that counts as me being more introverted or just me wanting more 'me time' and also not having to deal with a load of people (strangers or otherwise) I have no interest encountering or interacting with or I'm just not in the mood.
    The internet is great because I can hop into a thread, make a post and then leave without anyone feeling they've been interrupted and then abandoned. Can't really do that in 'real' life.

    I'm not some basement-dweller. I could pick up the phone right now and arrange to meet some pals for a drink or a wander around the shops or something, but most of the time I'm not in the mood for those things much.
    Maybe I'm just turning into a miserable old git like my father was. But even then he'd go out and about with his mates so that's not so bad a life either.

    I think the thing is you have to keep your options open. Touch base with your friends on a regular basis, even if it's not every day. You don't want to turn around one day and find you're all alone and you've closed yourself off to everyone and they've moved on without you.
     
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    Yes.,

    In Fact I was reclusive in my younger teen years but now I'm a lot more social and for the most part I'm loving it.
     
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    Depends on how extroverted you are to begin with. If you go around and tell everyone your poop habits like I do then a little bit of introvercy (is that even a word?) isn't a bad thing.

    But yes, cutting yourself off from everyone to concentrate solely on work will lead you to an early grave from all the work related stress, and people when only find you when your corpse starts to stink.
     
  16. MetalRyde

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    dude, don't do it.
     
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    As long as you don't end up like these clowns...

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    ... you should be fine.
     
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  19. matrixprime

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    I just find myself not wanting to interact with friends and family. I don't see the point in dating so I gave up in that. I'm more content when I'm by myself that around people.
     
  20. Matty

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    Shutting off the internet isn't a bad thing, but if you find yourself going to work everyday and then coming straight home ... yeah that's bad.
     

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