ideas exchanged ideally

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  1. jorod74

    jorod74 Psycholagnist (Ret.)

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    i don't want to dip into politics, religion, or causes.
    i just wonder about people's behavior when confronted with an idea.

    like here in these boards, we share ideas and we have a little wiggle room to disagree- even kid each other.
    *you liked Bratz:The Movie???? OMG you are a dweeb!*

    ideas get tossed around all the time here.

    but outside the boundaries here, it sometimes seems like you can't do that.

    i think the strict no-no categories and the idea of being decent to each other makes this almost Utopian compared to the real world.

    still, i wonder, why is it so hard to exchange ideas out there?
    is it the idea of risking a loss of face- looking stupid to ask a stupid question to finally know?

    are we too afraid to impose?
    are we too confined by PC or a new world etiquette to bother?

    i remember as a kid being afraid to ask a handicapped person why they don't have a leg or why they had burns.
    (Kinda wish i asked about the leg...woulda worked harder to avoid diabetes.)

    i know i ramble and let my thoughts flow a bit freely as i try to wrap my head around new concepts, but i don't mind the risk of putting out a thought that is wrong, as long as someone says, "that's wrong" and offers me a a new tangent to follow.

    Why can't we think like kids?
    ask a kid to look at the sky and tell you what he sees.
    he sees a seahorse in the clouds.
    is he wrong? yep, he saw a cloud that looked like a seahorse.
    but is it wrong to say it? no.
    but in time, he will say, "I see a seahorse shaped cloud."

    i wonder, that's all. how can conversation get so complicated?

    as i said, this isn't politics or anything specific. just wondering about human behavior.

    any of you psych or sociology majors out there got a clue?
    thanks for letting me ponder.:inquisiti 
     
  2. OmegaVPrime

    OmegaVPrime Uhm, yea? So what?

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    Funny, I think that rule makes this place far less satisfying than it could be. "Nobody have a strong opinion about something important! Someone might get sand in their pants!" The boards were much better when we had the now banned discussion. I see the restriction of harmless discussion such as the no-no categorizes to be oppressive and unnecessary. Thanks to that the most interesting topics we have here are the one-sided (unless you are an internet cool guy) "torches and pitchforks" threads.


    That said, the mood here is set by a few community leaders, or posters who are good at bending and influencing attitudes of other posters. I feel that over time they have created a more hostile presence on these boards with respect to any form of disagreement. It didnt used to be like this; and I think its a shame that we have become so resentful of those who do not follow the will of the influential leaders here.

    The reason it is so hard to exchange ideas here is because we are too quick to impose our thoughts onto others. Hostility breeds more hostility until we have a thread get out of hand.... That and the whole hiding behind a keyboard thing. It makes for some stupid comments.
     
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    i wasn't talking about the forums here.
    i understand the rules and just pointed out it makes things simpler than how it is out in the world.

    look, i posted this because recently a friend burned me pretty hard because i asked her questions about something she knew more about than i did.
    she didn't see them as questions i suppose.

    so i was asking here, why can't people just talk without fighting?
    how can it be so hard?

    maybe i am a simpleton, but look at the movie theaters. 300 people go into a theater, and you know that somehow some will come out hating what they saw.
    but there's no fighting or violence over it.

    so why can't a conversation have that level of freedom?

    sorry, i took her anger hard.
     
  7. ErechOveraker

    ErechOveraker I'm with Plowking.

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    Just sounds like your friend is an asshole, dunno what else to tell you.
     

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