I just can´t f***ing win! (another relationship thread yay!)

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  1. General Magnus

    General Magnus Da Custodes of the Emprah

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    Meh, I just need to vent for a while....

    I´m a 20 year guy, who´s pissed off with my lovelife (more exactly lack of said lovelife). Every fucking time I get interested in someone that person is a) commited, or b) not interested, or even c) single but still in love with her asswhole ex. I mean come on! It´s not one or twice this happens, it´s every time. What the F*** is wrong with me?? I don´t even try to hit model like girls, even the average girl still shot´s me down like a Zero on the Pacific. Am I too much of a traiwreck? Not in chance. Am I a bad person? Hell NO!

    Not to mention the 12 or was it 14 time I got rejected...Honestly i lost cout around the 12th time....

    This has been getting on my nerves recently. 20 years old and still single and a virgin... go ahed and laught, It´s normal....

    This has changed me alot. Before I was a normal dude, who was happy to help others. Now I´m just a cynic, pessimistc and often pissed off indivdual who has reached to the level of getting happy and feeling joy when other people break up (specially friends), in my twisted subconsicence sometimes I think "they deserve that. what are they more than me to get more luck at love?". Honestly that dark side of me scares me and the more frustated i get, the more desilusions I suffer, my dark side takes over. It´s like I need other people to feel as miserable in their love life just like i feel...

    I´m sick and tired of getting shot down while assholes manage to get and often ruin wonderfull girls. The only option I have is wachting and only thinking "wow, she would be better of with me".

    *le sight*

    Maybe my problem is being the type of boyfriend a girl can introduce to their parents. Maybe it´s wanting to treat my probable other half in a good way. Maybe those are the problems. Maybe if I was a major prick and treated women like trash, like many guys do, then maybe someone would notice me. Being the nice guy that I am (bear in mind I´m not a pushover, there is a diference between being too good and gulable, wich I´m not, luckly, and being just you know...nice), no one notices me. Maybe i just need to become some major asshole and then maybe I can get some attention.

    I must have done some pretty awfull stuf in my other life...

    (end vent)
     
  2. FreshDebesh

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    No offense, but dude, you're only 20. Come back and be pissed off when you're 30 and jaded, like me :) 

    But to contribute in this thread, I'd say that girls around your age...or any age for that matter, really don't go for nice guys. A nice guy to them is a standby, in case they're lonely and need someone to tell them they're pretty or make them feel better about themselves. My advice is go for whatever chicks you like, but don't get too emotionally attached to anyone. If shit happens, you move on to the next. It's like waiting for the bus or train. You may miss one, but there's another coming a little bit later.
     
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  3. Soundblaster1

    Soundblaster1 The Heisenberg of Toys

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    Just forget about it. Keep yourself busy with other stuff. Things will happen when they happen, and no sooner.

    In the mean time, I suggest you look at porn and/or read some erotic literature. (porno picture book gets double points)
     
  4. RabidYak

    RabidYak Go Ninja Go Ninja Go

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    Buy the next bint you like some chinese-made toys as a novelty gift, that should give you a head start on the whole getting laid thing.
     
  5. Super_Megatron

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    We should get take all the single jadded guys on the boards, take them to Vegas and get them laid.
     
  6. Bryan

    Bryan ΜΟΛΩΝ ΛΑΒΕ

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    Oh, yeah. In 3-5 years, when you're all private practice and shit, you'll have hooker nurses hanging onto each arm.

    Oh, sorry, Magnus. Yeah, my advice to you is the same advice I give to anyone who feels like they can't get anywhere with women. Stop thinking about getting laid now, and start working on getting more play than you can handle five years from now. Work out, focus on your future and career, learn how to dress, get involved in some things you can meet women at--not necessarily now, but later. It'll pay off. Or it won't, in which case, thanks for not being competition down the road.
     
  7. Lord Of Tetris

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    General Magnus, I used to be like you. I'm not going to say something patronizing like, "Just be patient, and the right girl will come along." Because while that might happen, it's an empty remark that doesn't cheer you up.

    I'll tell you this, though. I stopped being like you when I realized I am not some girl-reppellant weirdo. The most important thing for you right now is to realize YOU are a good person and YOU deserve respect. The first person that needs to respect you...is you. If you keep saying things like "My dark side takes over" or "I might need to become a major asshole," people will see it. If you don't even like yourself, how can you possibly expect anyone to like you?

    To be honest, my love life now isn't much better than it was when I was 20...or 15...or 5...but I'm a lot happier now. I used to be just like you, I promise, but it never bothered me again once I stopped treating myself like shit. I believe in myself, I know I'm a good person, and really, that's all you can ever do for yourself. If someone rejects you, ever stop to think it might be doing you a favor? Better you get rejected immediately than to be with someone who never liked you in the first place. And believe me, that shit hurts. Also, better to have someone say no now, than to date a bitch. If someone says you aren't her type, well, chances are that she probably wasn't going to be good for you anyway.

    First thing you need to do is to start respecting yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. If you believe you have some kind of personality defect, then it's as hideous to the girls as missing your nose. Just be polite, be a gentleman, be a person you'd like to date, and believe in your own worth. Things will fall into place after that. And if not, well, I can't see how added confidence is a bad thing.
     
  8. Dark_Convoy

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    It sounds to me like you are attracted to unattainable women. If you get rejected outright it's probably less painful than if you got your heart broken later, so you become attracted girls that you are not able to hook up with. This way you stay ing the "pining and wanting" stage but never get to a point where you can be seriously hurt emotionally. You are probably doing this on a subconscious level and without ever even realizing it.

    My advice is to stop worrying about it, just be cool hang out and talk to people. Girls can pick up on desperation, even if you are trying hard to cover it up.
     
  9. Jeremy.B

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    Well, I get all the hot chicks and I am married................................................................................crickets............................................anyone?...............

    Just kidding. Sounds like it may be a lack of confidence? I don't know you, but I kinda get that vibe, like you are so frustrated you have given up before you have a chance. Again, I could be wrong...just MO. I hope you find someone, as I hate anyone to be alone. I was kinda shy, until I finally said one day a while back, screw it. I am still a gentleman, and not a prick, but very confident and slightly arrogant. Trust me, looks don't matter, it is how you present yourself.
     
  10. Poho

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    girls who let assholes ruin them and use them are not the kind of girl you want, trust me. don't worry about it my man, you are only 20, and you have lots of life ahead of you. but if you want to meet some chicks, just change up your attitude a bit. negativity draws attention to you in a negative way. draw attention to yourself, but on your own terms. saddle up and hit some bars or clubs with some friends, just have a good ime and try to interact with some girls.

    i know the exact problem you're having though. girls want to "date" bad-boys, and want to bring home guys like you and I. all through high-school i was looking fora long term relationship and someone i could settle with for a while. it scared most girls off, but when i did manage to find the right person, i was all ready for her.

    and it was her that i lost my virginity to, which brings me to my next tip:
    have no fear of being a virgin. i think it's disgusting that the average age of first intercourse is 15. disgusting. the age of consent in a lot of places is 14. it sick. people think that because they can, they should. No. your life doesn't change at all after you have sex; losing your virginity (or keeping it) is not a big deal at all. do what i did, wait for someone you really care about.

    that is all.
     
  11. FreshDebesh

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    You know I'm gonna milk that shit for all its worth for everything I've had to go through during med school. With interest.
     
  12. Gears

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    A lot of the guys you see walking with the "perfect" girl, had to ask out 1000 girls before he found her. Being rejected 14 times is nothing.
     
  13. theLostSeeker

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    Be yourself, be confident and don't look for anything.
    Generic comment? Yes. But maybe you should rework your approach, or learn to read the signs (good or bad).
    Don't make "looking for a mate" the center of your universe. I'm not saying you are, just don't give it much importance.
    I don't claim to know everything about women, but I have put my hands on a lot of bumper. Girls never go for guys that are too eager. Also, try to be smooth. Don't "ask" them out, just let things unfold naturally. Now that doesn't mean you can't grab the bull by the horns from time to time, that's where being able to read the signs comes in handy.
    And do not change just to get a girl, EVER!
     
  14. Soundblaster1

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    To keep going along with my un-related post: Have you tried online dating services?
     
  15. Lance Halberd

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    Aww, why such the long face?

    It'll get better, just don't dwell on it. That's the worst thing to do. Just put it in the back of your mind, focus on other things, things that make you happy, and just take this whole love life thing on the chin.
     
  16. Jeremy.B

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    You talking to Animated Prowl?
     
  17. Lance Halberd

    Lance Halberd oh hai

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    Surprisingly, I find myself not often talking to toys.
     
  18. General Magnus

    General Magnus Da Custodes of the Emprah

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    Nope. It´s like going to a hore house to loose my virginity. I never know what I might get stuck with.

    And belive me. Many people don´t know that I´m a virgin. I often lie, because I know people are going to label me a looser. From 90% of my friends, i´m one of the last 3 who hasn´t got a gf or even got laid.

    Let´s just say that those statisc aren´t good for my self esteem...
     
  19. Jeremy.B

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    I hope not...
     
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    Dude, who cares what people label you as? If they call you a loser, well, screw them. YOu gotta have confidence and not worry too much what other people say.
     

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