I don't know what to do.... Help me.

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  1. MaxLinden

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    I don't know what to do...To go to the hospital and see my grandma die or to stay here and be with my dad after he gets back...
    My dad said that she won't want to me to go.... And she is basically gone already and I will not even know its her.
    But I feel like I should but I don't know if I should.
    Please tell me what to do....
     
  2. Aernaroth

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    This is a deep, personal choice that YOU have to make, because if you don't, you could end up regretting it a long time, and even if you make it, there's no certainty you won't still have to come to terms with it. It is going to be a very hard decision to make.

    It is going to be incredibly difficult to watch your grandmother pass, but at the same time, it is a chance for you to say goodbye, a chance to stand beside your family and support eachother. A lot of people don't get that kind of a chance. Staying at home may seem like the safer option, but it's no less difficult.

    Growing up is about making difficult choices, and coming to terms with your own mortality and the mortality of those you care about. You've got my condolences in a tough time like this, but in the end, your decision has to come from you.
     
  3. Ace Convoy

    Ace Convoy Well-Known Member

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    What he said :thumbs2:  we're rootin for ya
     
  4. Darkravager

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    I think that this is the best advice you're gonna get, kid.
     
  5. Lock Cade

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    I agree with Aernaroth.
     
  6. MaxLinden

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    Thank you for your help.... I'm going to be there for my family.... I'm going...
     
  7. Omnius

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    I'm with Aernaroth on this, you really have to take on the responsibility of making this decision for yourself. Good luck with whatever you choose, but I will add this: if you decide to stay at home, do you think you might regret your choice afterward?

    EDIT: Looks like you decided while I was typing that - again, good luck.
     
  8. Tyrannosaur

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    Glad you made the right choice. Man, what I'd do just to spend even another minute with my grandmother or grandfather, it's sad.

    She lived a good life man, don't worry. Think about all the good times you spent with her and cherish them. It will help, trust me :) 
     
  9. moreprimeland

    moreprimeland Optimus told me to do it! Moderator TFW2005 Supporter

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    Same here, she may not know you were there, but you will.....

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, take care.
     
  10. MaxLinden

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    ... I'm happy, I got to see her one last time.
    I told her to just let go....
    She couldn't talk but she did make a sound.
     
  11. MaxLinden

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    She is finally at peace.
     
  12. Motor_Master

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    My condolences to you and your family. It's not an easy thing to witness the passing of a loved one.
     
  13. Fez Findie

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    My condolences to you and your family. I don't know what else to say but at least you did what you felt best.
     
  14. Ace Convoy

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    Wow my condolences also man.

    I've seen a few relatives of mine like that but you're lucky cause you actually have a relationship with yours.

    your family is in my Prayers as well
     
  15. Lance Halberd

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    My deepest sympathies on your loss.

    I was at my grandmother's bedside when she passed five years ago, and that experience profoundly influenced my outlook on life.
     
  16. Da_Last_2_Walk

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    You made the right choice.

    I'm glad I was able to be by my mom's side while she passed.

    It was hard for me to see her that way.....but I'm glad I had a chance to tell her my heart before she was gone.

    My condolences.
     
  17. megatronski

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    :(  Sorry to Hear that. my condolences.
     
  18. jorod74

    jorod74 Psycholagnist (Ret.)

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    I got a call one night in Tuscaloosa right before work and was told to get my ass home because my grandmother was fading.
    i drove from Tuscaloosa to Dothan as fast as i could, only slowing in city limits.

    she passed roughly 5 minutes before i got to the elevator there.
    Do i regret it? Not at all.
    I do wish I could have seen her one last time. The last time we ever spoke, (by phone) i couldn't hear her because she was using her pressure cooker and it drowned out her voice. the sound of those things now kills me.

    so you should be sad that she is gone, but rest easy that you had that moment with her.

    Trust me, i have never attended a funeral in all of my 35 years (and refuse to attend any in the future) but I have never hesitated to reach out while there was still time. that is what matters. my opinion may not be worth much, but you were there when she needed you and your family needed you. and i respect that.

    You are in my thoughts and prayers.
     
  19. ILoveDinobot

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    Hospitals are nasty, I wouldn't go if I was you. I have to go to my lectures in the clinical tower of the University hospital, it kind of worries me that in a few levels above they are conducting experiments with deadly diseases in attempts to find cures. >_>
     
  20. Draven

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    My condolences to you and yours, d00d.
    I didn't get the chance to say goodbye to my Dad when he died; there wasn't enough time for me to get dressed before my Mum had to dash off to the hospital. I won't ever have that closure.
    You made the right choice, believe me.
     

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