i am so scared

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  1. optimus major

    optimus major Banned

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    i plan to ask this girl i REALLY like out tomarrow, but i am really terrified, because everytime i ask someone i like out, i get rejected. i see her eyes in my general direction a lot (but there are guys around me in class so she could be looking at them). i just need some tips or something to calm my nerves and go for it

    ps. no post about "dude, why are you asking people on the internet for tips on how to ask a chick out" or shit like that
     
  2. a person

    a person Is not amused.

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    Worst that could happen is that she says no. If it wasn't meant to be, it just wasn't meant to be.
     
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    Remember, if she says no, she's automatically a slut/whore/broad/etc.
     
  4. optimus major

    optimus major Banned

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    :lolol  man, but i really like her too much to call her any names, in fact i can't call any woman names....damn the gentleman in me
     
  5. Lance Halberd

    Lance Halberd oh hai

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    Take a deep breath, go up to her, say hi, and start talking. Don't practice in the mirror, don't rehearse lines in your head, and don't think things out to the smallest detail. Just ... go and talk to her. Be yourself. That's the best way to do it.
     
  6. Soundblaster1

    Soundblaster1 The Heisenberg of Toys

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    You and me both, bud. Best thing I can say is act confidentbut not overly confident and listen to whatever OWAT says if he pops in. And remember... Saying something is better than saying nothing at all. I'd say a ciggy would be good for calming your nerves and whatnot, but I'd guess they don't allow those in schools (they don't around here, anyway.)... Just take a deep breath and go for it.

    For the record, I need to take my own advice (and apparently what Lance just said, too, because that made a lot more sense than what people have been telling me).
     
  7. Kenny278

    Kenny278 Fort Max fan

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    just go for it man. just try get her alone, nothing worse than being shotdown with witnesses. just casually ask her out. if she says no, just say cool no problem could have been fun..

    good luck!
     
  8. optimus major

    optimus major Banned

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    thanks, man you all are a big help to me, just goes to show that the transformers community has eachother's backs


    i hope it goes okay, will let you know details if i succeed
     
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    CdnShockwave The Prince of Poses TFW2005 Supporter

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    If you haven't been rejected as many times as me then there's still hope.
     
  10. Soundblaster1

    Soundblaster1 The Heisenberg of Toys

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    On Valentine's day, OWAT posted a thread about how to do things like this successfully. Go forth and find that thread. Read it, and do as it says.

    If you don't succeed, don't go all emo, either. Move on and remember that you're better off without her. /preparing for failure
     
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    *plays Incredible Hulk sad-walking-away music*
     
  12. Dusty

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    Ever hear the phrase "nice guys finish last"? Yeah....it's true. If you like her, then ask her out. If she says no, then shrug it off (visibly) right in front of her and literally never think about her again.

    I can't tell you how many times in highschool and college I fucked up by fawning over someone for months when it just wasn't meant to be. Once I realized that I had NOTHING to lose and that there was plenty of fish in the sea, I won!

    And now I'm married to her. :D 

    -D
     
  13. Schide

    Schide Buyer of Too Much

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    Ah, to be young and in such a quandary...unfortunately I never had the guts to do anything and am now older and have absolutely nothing to show for it.

    So yeah, best of luck to ya, bud.
     
  14. Liege Prime

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    Here's a small tip- you can be happy without her. Remember that. If she says no, there is only some hurt feelings but everything you have that makes you happy now will still be there afterwards.

    Also, nice guys might finish last, but a lot of times they finish the best. Just not until the girls you like get a little more mature. Who knows- maybe your a jerk anyways and you'll get lucky. :thumb 
     
  15. Necrophon

    Necrophon Speaker of Death TFW2005 Supporter

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    I know it's easy for others to say don't sweat it, and they're right. It's my advise as well. But I can feel for you, when I was in school I was extremely awkward with girls.
    The thing is, you HAVE to be yourself. If you are trying too hard to act "cool" then your going to come off as fake and possibly needy. Not too many people find that attractive.
    Just chill and be yourself, most girls are so used to guys putting up a false front that they're likely to be impressed by your genuineness. (Besides you want her to like you for who you are anyways.)
    And listen to Liege Prime, he's so right about your being able to be happy without her, and nice guys finishing best.
    Let us know how things turn out dude, best of luck!
     
  16. ckhtiger

    ckhtiger old skool fool

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    I'd suggest not posing it as "do you wanna go out with me/do you want to be my girlfriend?" but more as "what are you doing at x-time, how'd you like to go out for dinner?" or that sort of thing. then you can play it by ear and you have her attention and can pick up on body language/signals, etc.

    word of warning:

    DON'T ENTER THE FRIENDSHIP ZONE!!!
     
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    Yah something like...."I wanna go see this movie...but I don't want to go by myself...do you have plans ?"
    Good luck, but move on if things aren't clicking.
     
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    someone once told me " Girls are a dime a dozen"

    If she says no..then you could go find another one.
     
  19. optimus major

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    lol i always act like myself, or else i wouldn't have the nickname "transformers" in school

    thanks everyone, today is the day, lets see what happens
     
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    If she starts talking about her boyfriend yell "FUCK YOU!" and kick her dog
     

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