Okay guys for stsarters, i'll get the necessary stuff out of the way. Yes, I know this is a message board for hobbyists of everything from Transformers to plastic animu PVCs. I also am not going to take anyone's answers as a solve/answer all for my problems. However, since you all are my peers, I wanted to get a general albeit wide set of opinions of people that probably have much more experience than I. Back in April, I lost a work-study position due to a very complicated situation. Less than a week afterwards, who I was with at the time (had been with her for over 2 years at that point) went into "You don't have a job, I don't think your life is going anywhere" mode. Naturally, I got angry because right now the most important thing to me is my education and I certainly didn't need her drama (it was effecting my emotional state, especially since I was depressed after losing my job, thus effecting my studies). So, despite it being insensitive and mostly because she couldn't possibly see my point of view, I dumped her. It also didn't help that I had become really sick and tired of her being a hypocrit. Right now, I just want to finish my college and yes, I do spend my summers with my folks. It's a mutually useful arrangement, and it's an agreement between them and I. I also work, besides giving them assistance which ranges everywhere from being a farm hand to computer repair. My ex however, yes she was in college and she had a job too. However, unlike I who spend at least more than half his year living on his own spent every day of her life living with her Mom; she moved with her to a new state for her to go to college. She spends her time when not working or school, cooking and cleaning for her Mom; as well as being a general maid. So you can imagine how I might get offended that someone who has NEVER lived on her own, says that MY LIFE is going nowhere; as if she has a right to talk. My biggest mistake was not completely cutting this girl out of my life after that, because unfortunately I did love her and saw past her flaws; love makes idiots out of us all ya know? Anyway, until July, the line hadn't been drawn where I cut her completely out of my life and you can only imagine how it complicated things. We spent a while being "more than friends, less than lovers" and it really dicked with my heart. It became a huge cause of depression for me, and even hurt so bad I had chest pains/tightness making it hard to breath. Well, it's been over a month now since things were finally at a close as far as i'm concerned. However, she keeps trying to get back into my life in little ways. She used a friend of mine, that she would NOT talk to otherwise, to gloat about how she went on a date and it was great; congratulations you did something that pretty much all of mankind has been doing since the understanding that you have to court the opposite side not just beat them over the head with a stick and drag them home. She's also been spying on my online activity, and harassing that friend of mine about various matters; like if i'm in a new relationship, not that it's ANY business of hers. Anyway, getting back on course, I just wanted to know when you guys thought it was too soon to move on and date another person; yes, I know it varies between each person. I've had people tell me that the best thing I could do, is just move on with someone new and that I have to expect to have my ex linger in my life/thoughts. However, and I really shouldn't doubt but I can't help but worry if I could end up hurting someone by having any excess baggage from my previous relationship. It doesn't help, that there is someone that has feelings for me and she's a really great girl in her own ways; like no others. She had feelings for me the entire time I was dating my ex, and actually had feelings for me before I started dating my ex; unfortunately, as she told me, she chose to let my ex have me back then. I do like this girl, she is a sweetheart and she even sent me a surprise "Feel better" care package once. I'm just not sure when i'd be ready to date again, and I hate feeling like i'm making someone wait on me; I told her that she shouldn't but I think she really has her heart set on me. To complicate matters, the feelings are mutual and I do like her quite a lot; I actually found myself starting to fall for her while my ex and I were "on again, off again". It's just a really terribly complex situation, but at least I know i've improved a LOT. I went through a bout of depression, tore myself down, and then rebuilt myself. I have a lot more confidence, and I can say i'm actually happy; more so then when I was with my ex. I've learned a lot from this experience, and i'm just wondering what I should really do. Part of me wants to throw myself back out there, but part of me wants to hold back; it's not like waiting and healing even more would be a bad thing right? If this girl really cares for me, and wants me she'd be understand and wait. I know on one hand, a lot of people would probably think that you shouldn't wait too long or else you might miss out on something good. Anyway, that enough of my rambling, I just want to know what you guys think. Criticism is welcome, and at least this isn't a "tranny" or other crazy story like certain threads that we've had in the past. It was just the story of one normal guy, one less than normal girl, and one other quirky but patient girl.