How old were you when you had your first kid?

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  1. xion14

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    Simple question I had. What do you think is a good age?
     
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    I was 21. It was a little difficult because we were still finishing up school.

    I suggest waiting at least until you're finished with school and have steady income.
     
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    A "good age" or "right age" is completely dependent on the 2 people making the decision. I know 21 year olds who are excellent parents and I know 37 year olds who would make (or are being)*terrible* parents.

    Being a parent is a tremendous amount of self-sacrifice and commitment. You need to be ready to give up most of your freedom, partying, spending, and free time. Not all of it, but most of it.

    I became a dad at 22, about a year after we married. We now have 3 kids and its 14 years later and we're doing well, but it has been a struggle at times. Lots of stress.

    If you want to know any specifics, ask away!
     
  4. turboedguy

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    I just turned 38 Nov 1st and my wife and I are talking about having a kid before I get too old. But I was 19 and unemployed when I had my first kid with my exgirlfriend, as of last week my daughter is now 17.

    I don't recommend parenthood that young to anyone.
     
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    I was 24 going on 25.
     
  6. deathsheadII

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    was a month after my 29th birthday when my bundle of joy was born :D  she's 9 next year! how time fly's!
     
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    Tru dat.

    I was 32. Had been married for 7 but put it off due to career. No regrets putting it off but in hindsight having kids was not a deterent to career betterment, might have even improved it.
     
  8. slugslinger2004

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    I had just turned 22, and I have to echo the comments about finishing school (if you decided to go) before having your first child. My wife (then girlfriend) and I had to push back our graduations to allow for us to work and have time to spend with our daughter. Daycare is expensive :( 
     
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    20. I don't think there is ever a "right" time to have a kid. It changes a lot of things. When I found out I was having a kid I knew it wasn't a good time, but that doesn't matter. I needed to commit myself to being a responsible and loving father. She'll be going on 3 years old when I graduate this May. She's a happy kid; all of my sacrifice is worth it every time I see her smile.
     
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    I have to say, being 25, the thought of my having own kids scares the shit out of me. I like to think I'm good with kids and all, having been a camp counselor for several years, but whoa, that's a completely different level of responsibility.
     
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    27 when I got pregnant 28 when I had him
     
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    28 with my first, 31 with my second :) 
     
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    I don't plan to have children but my sister is 24 and it seem like alot of the females in our family seem to have them about 24 or 25.
     
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    31.
     
  16. tomagnus

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    33, am 34 now and my son will be 4 months on Christmas eve.
     
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    Right before I turned 30....

    The wife and I just decided it was time. That's really the best way to do it. Wait until BOTH of you feel the time is right. No matter what you think, you will never really be ready, so just find the time you two think is right.
     
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    I was 20 but turned 21 seven days after my first daughter was born now I am 34 and she is 14 and scares the crap out of me on a daily basis.............
     
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    Kids frighten me. The time hasn't come for me to bless this planet with Dran0n J. Yorvit Jr.



    Yet.
     
  20. Robogeek28

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    I was 21 when my oldest was born. Now she's 16 and I feel really damn old.:lol 
     

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