My mom's been unhappy with my wife for some time now (right after our wedding in fact.. about 3 years ago) and it's gotten to a point where my mom flat out told me (in front of me and my sister's family no less), that my wife is selfish and bad tempered. There's obviously a lot of misunderstanding between them but I am at a loss what to do. My wife recently took my son back to taiwan with her and left her with my mom where there is a nanny to care for him so she can work full time. After only a week my mom is already voicing her displeasure to me for my son for hitting her dog, and my wife told me over the phone that my mom yelled at my son in front of my wife and my mom's buddies (who were there for dinner) on two occassions. Shocking everybody there and made my son cried each time. I am very surprised because my mom has always been very generous and kind to her grandchildren and even chantised my sister for doing exactly the same thing to her daughter. I wonder if it has something to do with her issues with my wife. FYI for people who want to know just what triggered the conflict between both of them in a nutshell: her family was here for the wedding and for convenience sake decided to cram everybody in my car so they can go sightseeing, which can seat 5 people but there was 6 people in all. My mom later found out and believed her family is uneducated and made very bad judgement that could have gotten me a ticket, and blaming my wife for convincing me to do this (tho she never admit it), then proceeded to not only chewed me out in front of everybody include her family, but forbidding them to stay in the same house as us when they come over. It's not a big deal to me, but from that day on there's always tension between both families. The dilemma I am facing right now is, my wife would like to work in taiwan in a job she loves, and with me still living in the States it's making hard for me to decide where I want to live. I want to live with my family but that would mean moving to a foreign country (although I have lived there til I was 9) and starting over. For her to come back to the States we will have to move out of a house that my mom bought for us because she hates having to answer to my mom and live under her rules (for which she has problem with). Their conflict will eventually come to a head I am afraid it's just a matter of when. My mom don't like my wife's attitude and thinks my son is out of control (but he's only two for crying out loud) and believes that it's our fault for not controlling his behavior. My wife thinks my mom is always second guessing her and saying things behind her back. Not allowing her parents to live with us when they come visit is a big sore point with her as well. I want everybody to come clean in a open conversation but that may lead to even more problems because my wife can be hot tempered and agitated and my mom already has prejudice against her so it'll just make matters worse. I just want to know if it's you would you try to 1) be a mediator and try to appease each side when they complain about the other one, 2) tell them to talk to each other and leave yourself out of it, and 3) move out of the house, create a new life with my wife without the influence of my mom (which will create tension between me and her for sure). I am sorry if everything comes out fragmented but there's a lot of things to cover and it's not easy to make them comprehensive. I welcome anybody who wants to give me their $0.02. Otherwise thanks for reading. I just want to get them off my chest.