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  1. axl6533

    axl6533 the party is over. a new era has begun.

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    hey everyone i need some advice my girlfriend of 9 months broke up with me 4 weeks ago and i cant get her out of my head i tried not thinking about her but it just makes it worse i all most wanted to kill myself but i talked my self out of it if anyone can give me some advice i would appreciate it all of y'all been there before so please help me out here
     
  2. TrueNomadSkies

    TrueNomadSkies Airachnid's ratservant

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    Internet porn > suicide


    Believe me, this is true is pretty much every sense of the bird. Then when you're thinking straight again, you'll be able to move on with your life much smoother. :) 
     
  3. Fallout

    Fallout Well-Known Member

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    wow man, that really sucks :/ sorry to hear that happened.

    if you don't mind, mind elaborating what she broke up with you for? it's cool if you don't but it may help in giving advice a bit more.
     
  4. axl6533

    axl6533 the party is over. a new era has begun.

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    well she broke up with me coz she said i wasint taking to her much but we texted alot so idk what else to say its not like i could read her mind and talk about something on her mind and when ever i talked about something like mass effect or something i like she tells me can we talk about something else idk what your talking about but i dont blame her
     
  5. lildevilchick

    lildevilchick what the doctor ordered

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    Sweetie, if you entertained serious thoughts of killing yourself, you need to talk to someone outside of the internet. If you're really that depressed, this is not the place to come. I know how depressing break-ups can be. I've been there. But it's never worth contemplating taking your own life for.

    Talk to family or friends and if that doesn't help, please seek out a therapist.
     
  6. Fallout

    Fallout Well-Known Member

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    well texting isn't necessarily the only way of communication. did you ever go out on any dates? how was your communication in real life? about not reading her mind, look at her. study her face when she's sad, the look in her eyes. don't always talk about your boytoys and stuff, remember the relationship isn't all you. pay attention to her too.
     
  7. HeavyArms

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    Bro texting isn't going to cut it most of the time. A relationship needs to involve more face to face interactions, especially romantic ones. And I know it's depressing but eventually you will get over my dude believe every person goes through it. & having suicidal thoughts is harsh talk to close friends or family members please.
     
  8. axl6533

    axl6533 the party is over. a new era has begun.

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    i know that but talking to her well she had a bad stroke when she was born and she cant barely talk its not bad but she can talk and yes we went on at lest 4 or 5 dates i tolled her i take her out for valentines day but its just dust in the wind for that
     
  9. seali_me

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    I went through this when I was younger.

    Think of ways to improve yourself to get other ladies.

    - Get even better grades in school.
    - Improve work ethic and resume
    - Get even better clothes
    - Get a new haircut
    - Be more active, I took up so many sports at the time and my body showed it off.
    - Get a new hobby (At the time, it was photography for me.)
    - Do overtime and save up for a (new) car

    Needless to say you'll be very busy and the ladies will see improvement. You'll forget that chick. The ladies will be lining up in no time.
     
  10. Fallout

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    nine months and four dates? jesus man, that's not really a lot. that's.. that's pretty terrible actually.
     
  11. Nachtsider

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    Frankly? I don't blame her, either.

    There's always an alternative to mind reading, namely asking the other person what they'd like to talk about. Your self-centered ways were what cost you. Let that go to your head.
     
  12. lildevilchick

    lildevilchick what the doctor ordered

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    I'm not even seriously dating my current guy yet and we go out once a week. 4 dates in 9 months is...not good. D:
     
  13. axl6533

    axl6533 the party is over. a new era has begun.

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    not really we dint have alot of time to be together coz her parents are divorced and she has to be with her mom if we were going on are dates her dad lives in another state and her mom lives here in my state plus she has medical condition
     
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    I second this. I remember with my last gf we went out about four dates a week.
     
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    I think most if not all of us went through this when we were younger. I promise you'll move on. The reality is, many people will come and go in your life. That's just the way it is. People change and feelings change. Like seali said, take time to make improvements in those parts of your life that may need it. It's gonna hurt bad for a bit but as you jump into a new daily grind, you'll move on and meet many other girlfriends.
     
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    MisterFanwank Toy Industry Analyst

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    You're four weeks out of the relationship, if you cry, smack yourself. HARD. Your allotted "mourning period" ran out three weeks and six days ago.

    That is all.
     
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    Friggin shotgun a 12pk and move on.
     
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    this...please this
     
  19. TrueNomadSkies

    TrueNomadSkies Airachnid's ratservant

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    Exactly.

    Also if I actually tried to use texting for anything other than joke material, I'd probably break up with myself too, and wtf is up with this 4 dates in a year stuff? Like, unless you live far away from each other, that pretty much just sounds like the OP & his girlfriend weren't even really dating, but just not dating anyone else until recently which meant that they were fasely together by default or something.

    I'm sorry if saying this stuff makes me feel like a jerk, but yeah... he's just gonna have to get over it like everyone else does when their relationshits make good on their namesake.
     
  20. Pepsiman98

    Pepsiman98 Consulting Criminal

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    Yes, relationships mean a lot, but not enough to contemplate suicide over. Believe me, I know that they mean so much to you, but in the end you just have to accept it and move on. There's always someone else out there for you. And this is coming from someone who got "let's just be friends."-ed out of a three year relationship today.
     

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