Help a Socially Inept Teenager!

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  1. Autobot_Wall-E

    Autobot_Wall-E The Musical

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    Is inept the right word?

    Anyway, I have a problem. I was recently invited to a sweet 16 birthday party for this girl in my youth group. I am somewhat of a social outcast in my school (I have friends but collectively we are considered unpopular). I have never been to anything non-school related that involved social activities other than youth group. I have a bit of a predicament.

    Since I have never been to, or observed a sweet 16, I don't know what to do. I am very appreciative that this girl invited me (I think she was just being nice and invited me when everyone else was as well) and I can't turn her down. But I need to know

    - What does "Semi Formal, Black attire" mean?

    - What kind of present do I bring?

    - What do I do at the party?

    - Should I have a date?

    - How do I make conversation/get involved without seeming creepy?

    - What should I bring with me?

    The party is exactly a month from today. I'm sure someone here has been to a sweet 16/is cooler than me so could you please help? Thanks.
     
  2. ninety

    ninety NERDS!!

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    You thought asking here would be a good idea?

    Batten down the hatches man, INCOMING!!


    - Off to bed soon.
     
  3. shibamura_prime

    shibamura_prime Jumpin' Jellyfish! Super Mod

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    The best advice you can get in this thread? Never check it again.
     
  4. firehawc_69

    firehawc_69 cloppers = ignore list

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    - What does "Semi Formal, Black attire" mean? Suit and tie (as opposed to a tux).

    - What kind of present do I bring? Gift card to Old Navy or something trendy

    - What do I do at the party? Nothing, it's all about her. Just hang out.

    - Should I have a date? Yes, the more people there for her, the more she'll feel loved/important...but ask first, there may be a head count.

    - How do I make conversation/get involved without seeming creepy? Wait till someone talks to you, or join in, only if you know what you're talking about. Don't try to bullshit.

    - What should I bring with me? The gift card.
     
  5. MegaMoonMan

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    - What does "Semi Formal, Black attire" mean? - Black lacy underwear, nothing but.

    - What kind of present do I bring? - Something to with 16, perhaps a nice 16-year-old scotch.

    - What do I do at the party? - Stand in the corner and mumble and/or dance by yourself even if there's no music.

    - Should I have a date? - Yes. Bring two.

    - How do I make conversation/get involved without seeming creepy? - See #3, coversation won't be an issue.

    - What should I bring with me? - Dip.
     
  6. JetRaid

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    First I'm warning you: If you are considered un-popular, the girl hosting the party may be setting you up for something, its happened before and it isn't very nice, now:
    1. Wear something nice, but not something you would go to a wedding in, and I'm guessing it has to be black clothes?

    2. Money.

    3. Talk up hot chicks

    4. No because its not a formal, its a party.

    5. Start off with "Enjoying the party?" and just agree and laugh with what ever she/he says.

    6. Don't bring anything just have fun...

    And most likely there will be drinks, don't drink because you might do something you will regret. Other than getting laid :lol 
     
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  7. blumpy2000

    blumpy2000 PENGUINS CAN'T FLY!!!

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    Don't go, problem solved.
     
  8. mineraljane

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    Ah, I don't envy that age at all nor this thread as it will more than likely be met with useless contributions. Anyhow...

    - What does "Semi Formal, Black attire" mean?

    For guys, semi-formal means a dark suit. Apparently, there is a preference for black at this event, but it's strange that they didn't just make it easier and formal then.

    - What kind of present do I bring?

    Obviously nothing Transformers related. Do you know this girl at all? You should definitely attempt to tailor the gift to the individual while working to make it as unique as possible.

    - What do I do at the party?

    Socialize with your peers. (Dancing, too.)

    - Should I have a date?

    Do you want a date? If you don't, you don't need one. You're a teenager; do what makes you feel comfortable here.

    - How do I make conversation/get involved without seeming creepy?

    Well, don't speak about Transformers. Do you feel more comfortable in small groups or in one-on-one situations? If the former, join in when you have something funny or informative to add; the latter, try to listen to the other person and allow that to move the conversation forward.

    - What should I bring with me?

    Whatever is asked. Don't bring baked goods or anything of the sort, but simply what is requested. You're a guest and not responsible for making the event perfect.
     
  9. jonatron26

    jonatron26 Well-Known Member

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    what a coincidence, i just went to a sweet 16 for the first time last saturday.
    semi formal is like a button shirt/tie, and khakis or dress pants,
    for a present, a card with 20 bucks will do.
    show up, party/dance/eat/etc.
    you don't have to have a date.
    I'm not sure about the conversation starting though...
     
  10. smkspy

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    - What does "Semi Formal, Black attire" mean? It means dress nice: dress pants, button shirt, and a tie if you feel like it.

    - What kind of present do I bring? Mall gift card. Put it in a card.

    - What do I do at the party? Get drunk, make an ass of yourself.

    - Should I have a date? Not really, but its even better if you hook up with someone at the party.

    - How do I make conversation/get involved without seeming creepy? Begin every conversation with "Hi, I'm a registered sex offender and I collect Transformers."

    - What should I bring with me? Change for a payphone, mace, and condoms.
     
  11. JetRaid

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    This, you never know whats going to go down...and if you have a good conversation with a girl, get her drunk and you might get a treat :lol 
     
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    I agree with the above post. Just try to have fun. That's what you do at parties.
     
  13. jonatron26

    jonatron26 Well-Known Member

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    Is the party at her house or what?
     
  14. Autobot_Wall-E

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    Ok 1) Reason I'm talking about this here is there is no where else that it's comfortable to do it. DEFINITELY not talking to my parents about it, I'm not going with what the stuck up preps at my school have to say, and there is no where else on the Internet I frequent that is forum like. I figured I'd get a few serious answers and a few laughs and it looks like that is what I'm getting so far.

    I've known her for a while but I have one person I talk to mostly at group. The rest I occasionally say something to. I like them don't get me wrong, but I am lacking on conversation skills. I doubt that she would set me up for something mean, she doesn't strike me as that kind of person. And I HIGHLY doubt that there will be anything alchoholic at the party. HIGHLY doubt it. And if there is, I'll stick to soda or water if there is any. And if not, then I won't drink anything at all.

    EDIT: This is at a hotel ballroom and her mom will be present. That's all I know. And does suit mean a dress jacket and the dress shoes?
     
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    Ahh, she likes a schmoke then?
     
  16. MetalRyde

    MetalRyde is an a-hole with a heart.

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    wing it, son.
     
  17. jonatron26

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    Yes, wear dress shoes (with black socks.) Forget the jacket.
     
  18. thenatureboywoo

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    Doooode, ask her mom to be your date. Bag a cougar! You will be the coolest kid at your school afterwards. You might even get a slow clap as you enter the lunch room the first school day afterwards.
     
  19. SPLIT LIP

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  20. MegaMoonMan

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    I really can't stress booze enough for socially inept people. It worked for me, I was a socially inept teenager as well, until I started going to the "bad" parties.

    Now I'm a slightly less socially inept adult with a pocket full of SHAZAMM.
     

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