So I am going to be a father in July of this year. This is great and all, but it has brought along with it the frustrating realization that people are unable to disassociate a name from where they have most commonly heard it. For example: I was on a kick of thinking up “older” names that you don’t really hear on babies/kids anymore, but that still sound like good names to me (at least in my head). I mentioned the name “Murray”, and my wife said “No, that’s a dog’s name”. I said “No, it’s a person’s name that could also be used for a dog, just like ANY OTHER NAME IN EXISTENCE.” She then related to me that it made her think of the dog in “Mad About You”. Sigh…..you’d think she would at least think of Murray from Flight of the Conchords considering we’ve been watching that recently, instead of a dog from a sitcom she probably hasn’t watched in over 10 years. So, we are pretty much stuck with either picking a name so common that you coudn't possibly associate it with any one person, fictional or otherwise, or we make up a brand new name (which I am fine with, but we haven't come up with anything my wife likes enough, at least not for a boy) Why can’t a name be judged on its own merits? My boss’s name is Lisa. Do I constantly think of Lisa from the Simpsons when I talk to her? This isn’t just a rant about my wife, as many other people I know will do this unnecessary association crap (almost her entire family also said “that’s the dog from Mad About You” when I mentioned Murray to them at a later date, though they are also Flight of the Conchords fans). It’s not like the child will never grow into the name and become a unique individual that people aren’t constantly comparing to a TV character in their head. Sometimes I think its just an excuse to not like a name without having to use the phrase "I don't like it", which would be much simpler and save me time ranting on internet forums. My wife likes the name "Milo", which of course makes many people think of "Milo & Otis". Not sure why that one doesn't bother her. Ok, rant over. Feel free to pick this apart in whatever way you see fit.
I went through the same thing. It's normal. You'll just have to keep throwing around names until both of you find one that has no negative connotations. And if you REALLY like one, but your SO hates it, learn to drop it and move on!
But...but...that's so simple and logical. I want a response that caters to my level of self-absorbed neurosis in both length and tone!
Are you trying to say that a baby name website is going to be more helpful than a Transformers forum? I like your style. Thanks, I actually sent my wife the link. I'm liking "Jory".
My wife just emailed me. It's pretty much confirmed that our top runners are "Leland" for a boy, and "Penella" for a girl.
It's a variation on Penelope. You could call her Pen, Penny, Nella, or Ella for short. I think it's a very versatile and fine name.
the wife has probably known the baby name she wanted since she was 11, just veto everything you don't like until she gets to the ones she really wants and hope you two agree. my daughters Name is the only one her mom and i could agree on. turns out she wanted that name in the first place but didn't tell me until later.
Ciel is a great name for either a boy or girl. But I think you have a clear winner with Murray.. that is just too awesome. Can't go wrong with Ebineezer or Eaustice either.
So what was the name? I like Enzo for a boy. Karma for a girl. Both names will be vetoed by my gf so it'll never be my kid's names, haha. I like Eaustice, like one of the supernovas in One piece.
