girl question

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  1. eyeballkid

    eyeballkid Old

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    I used to work with someone. She quit about a week and a half ago. I told her that I have a crush on her, and she recently broke up with her boyfriend. She said at first that she would like to be friends and actually hang out. Well, since then we have been emailing each other alot, and we have told each other multiple times that we have A LOT in common. Could she be changing her mind about the friend thing?

    She has been sick the whole time, so we havent actually hung out yet. I was her boss at work, so after she quit I was much more open about myself, as was she.
     
  2. Lumpy

    Lumpy Taylor Swift Actionmaster Super Mod

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    she could be...i say do it...make a move...worst that can happen is you dont get her...but thats also what happens if you dont try...
     
  3. eyeballkid

    eyeballkid Old

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    I dont want to make a move. She is in a educational situation that I was once in. Exact major, exact situation. I want to take it slow, because she is young. I made a wrong choice at that time in my life, and I would hate to see her do the same thing I did. I.E. switch majors.

    I feel like her mentor at this point, but this could really turn into a really good relationship. I dont wanna screw this up. Im just getting mixed signals.
     
  4. tikgnat

    tikgnat Baweepgranaweepninnybong. TFW2005 Supporter

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    Why would her Major affect your potential relationship with her? The fact you know what it is and respect her commitment to it means you'd probably make a better partner than most.

    Don't use her education status as an excuse not to date her.

    The question you should be asking is, 'do I really like this girl?'
     
  5. Prowl_Delta_31

    Prowl_Delta_31 Eating your donuts

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    Blahhhhhhhhhhhh thats an excuse................................
    Do you really want to live your life having "WHAT IF's"
     
  6. FreshDebesh

    FreshDebesh <b><font color=brickred>oye chak de phatte!</font> Veteran

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    I'm gonna quote myself from another thread:

     
  7. eyeballkid

    eyeballkid Old

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    She is a following a graphic design major, as I was when I was her age. Its a tough major! I quit and resented to photography. Very easy!...but no jobs...

    Yeah I like her..Shes gotta great ass!
     
  8. tikgnat

    tikgnat Baweepgranaweepninnybong. TFW2005 Supporter

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    Gor for it. Graphic design is no harder than Architecture, or Medicine, and yet people in those courses have partners.

    Hell, you can help her on her work (my now wife helped me ink in black tiles and brickwork on my Architecture drawings) and that will make your bond stronger.

    If you don't go for it, and she finds/is found by someone else, you have no one else to blame.
     
  9. Prowl_Delta_31

    Prowl_Delta_31 Eating your donuts

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    That should settle it then.
     
  10. llamatron

    llamatron Shut up, Nigel. TFW2005 Supporter

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    Nice, although it is missing one thing. YOUR DICK. See what I did there?

    Try and do the hanging out thing, see how that goes and then hopefully push it forward. But don't act too quickly or too slowly.
     
  11. Prowl_Delta_31

    Prowl_Delta_31 Eating your donuts

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    Yeah I wasnt going to go that far.
     
  12. jorod74

    jorod74 Psycholagnist (Ret.)

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    Just talk to her. you act weird around her and can't explain it, she's gonna bail on you.

    something i have noticed in my years is my attitude with girls- if i don't perceive a threat or a sexual opportunity, i am as cool as a cucumber and can get away with tons of things best seen late at night on Skinemax.

    but the instant i even ponder a what if with a certain girl, everything changes and odds are, the girl gets weirded out because she can tell what's up.
    and things end badly and all i am left with is a missed opportunity.
    so talk to the girl, darn it. take the what if factor out, chill and enjoy yourself. it's worth it.
     
  13. theLostSeeker

    theLostSeeker Well-Known Member

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    Make a move, but do it smooth. You don't want to just be her "rebound" guy.
     
  14. nkelsch

    nkelsch Do you know this Icon? TFW2005 Supporter

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    I am convinced that women cannot keep lifelong friends, male or female. They shed *ALL* their friends every time they enter a new stage of life. Which usually means Gal Pals while single will shed those friends when they become engaged/married and find all new friends.

    Girls:
    *Go to college, all new friends hate their HS friends
    *Graduate from college, all new friends hate their college friends
    *Get married, all new friends hate their single friends
    *Have kids, all new friends hate their friends without kids


    Guys:
    *Go to college, all new friends keep in touch with their HS friends
    *Graduate from college, all new friends and keep in touch with their College friends
    *Get married, all new friends, keep in touch with the single friends
    *Have kids, all new friends keep in touch with their friends without kids

    Every girl will shed a lot of their GAL pals and ALL of their GUY PALS when they move on. So shit or get off the pot because while maintaining a friendship is noble, that friendship is temporary... And if you are valuable enough for it not to be temporary, then there is probably a relationship there.
     
  15. Dark_Convoy

    Dark_Convoy Old Bastard Veteran

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    Don't get stuck in the friend zone, the last thing you want to be is her emotional blanket.
     
  16. ckhtiger

    ckhtiger old skool fool

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    listen to him, this man speaks the truth.
     
  17. TILALLR1

    TILALLR1 'Til All Are One

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    Here is a question ...

    If she started dating someone else, how would you feel about it?

    Being a friend and all is cool as long as it works for you. But if you answered that you would be pissed about her dating someone else, then either make your move NOW or move on before she does. Its not a question of if but when.
     
  18. jourdo

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    Go for it! It is not worth always wondering about the "what if".
     
  19. lars573

    lars573 Well-Known Member

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    Complete and utter horseshit. Because you implied it's true for all women. :wink: 
     
  20. pscoop

    pscoop Dead inside

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    Hey we can always count on llamatron. :lol 


    EBK, don't be a puss, go for it. I regretted not going for it too many times, so when I met my wife, I made DAMN sure she knew I meant business.
     

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