Girl help

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  1. Rattrap

    Rattrap Well-Known Member

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    Ok, long story short, my cousin hooked me up with her friend, and we get along great. I like her, and she likes me(my cousins friend, not my cousin) I showed her the TF movie trailer, and she said it was awesome. I asked her if she wanted to go to it with me on he 4th, and she said sure. This all took place over Yahoo IM. My cousin had told me that her friend liked me before I asked her to the movie, and her friend had asked me if I liked her, and I said yes. So, we figured that the TF movie isnt coming out for a few months yet, so we should get together before then. We agreed to 2 weeks from now, because I dont have to work then. We are planning on what to do, which is movie, skating, dinner, and Im getting her flowers. One problem with it will be that one of my cousins will probally have to take me there, so she will come along on the date, and my other cousin will come with, along with their friend, so it wont be like we are really alone at all. The only problem is, she lives 3 hours away from me and we havent met yet. I mean, I dont mind the distance, its just we wont see each other very often, and my cousin said that even though me and her didnt meet yet, her friend likes me alot. So, would you guys have any suggestions on waht to do on the first date? Im totally lost here, because she is my first potential GF, and Im really excited. I also know that women kill wallets, and Im prepared for it.
     
  2. Ravenxl7

    Ravenxl7 W.A.F.F.L.E.O.

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    I only have one question before I can think of some advice to give you. How old are you? and how old is she?

    Edit: Ok. Finally someone on here that is younger than me, but not by too much, lol. Umm, be yourslef, like OS said. Be honest about yourslef. I'm 18, and still don't have a gf, but then again, I'm not trying, and I don't really care all that much if I have one or not anymore. Good luck.
     
  3. Optimus Scourge

    Optimus Scourge Arcee's boy toy Veteran

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    just be yourself. It's easier said than done, but really, don't put on a false front. be the real you. And have fun!

    *buckles seat belt*
     
  4. Rattrap

    Rattrap Well-Known Member

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    Im 16, and shes 16
     
  5. ckhtiger

    ckhtiger old skool fool

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    just be cool and have confidence, but not be arrogant. women also like funny, but if she tries to sell you anything, DON'T SEND ANY MONEY!!! :p 
     
  6. Soundblaster1

    Soundblaster1 The Heisenberg of Toys

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    And be concerned if her name is Frieda.
     
  7. Optimus Scourge

    Optimus Scourge Arcee's boy toy Veteran

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    Oh, and I'd leave the Fred story for a later time...much later
     
  8. Dark_Convoy

    Dark_Convoy Old Bastard Veteran

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    You worry far too much.
     
  9. Laquah

    Laquah Wanna be a Canadian Idiot TFW2005 Supporter

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    First dates can be very tense for both parties so the first thing you have to do is relax!

    If you really want to get to know her then make sure you are doing something that allows you to talk (ergo: a movie is not an ideal first date). Skating and dinner are good ideas but how about a walk after dinner? Or dessert at a casual coffee shop?

    One tip: don't smother. Give her some space throughout the night to digest everything that's going on - it's also a good time for you to take a deep breath before you engage her in more conversation.
     
  10. Optimus Scourge

    Optimus Scourge Arcee's boy toy Veteran

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    Think Twice, Then Speak
     
  11. Dark_Convoy

    Dark_Convoy Old Bastard Veteran

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    See... That never worked for me. I would always end up over-thinking it.

    The best thing you can do is relax and be yourself, nothing is a bigger turn on than self assurance, not arrogance but self assurance.

    PS: and don't act all fucking goo goo gaa gaa on the first date either, it's creepy.
     
  12. KA

    KA PENIS GOES WHERE?!!

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    ask if she wants to see your trouser snake.
     
  13. Dark_Convoy

    Dark_Convoy Old Bastard Veteran

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    And if she says no slap her with it.
     
  14. Mr. Jiggles

    Mr. Jiggles loves your mother.

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    Make her a mixtape. Be sure to include the following songs:

    Is This Love - Whitesnake
    Everything I Do - Bryan Adams
    Love of a Lifetime - Firehouse
    Always - Bon Jovi
    Angel Eyes - Steelheart
    More than Words - Extreme
    Open Arms - Journey


    Holy, shit. I'm fuckin' old. Oh, well. It woulda worked in '93 or so.
     
  15. QuantumShock

    QuantumShock Stay for brunch ?

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    Psssss....add Joy Division's Love Will Tore Us Apart. :p 

    Anyway good luck with it, glad that it's your first date, enjoy it. :) 
     
  16. Dark_Convoy

    Dark_Convoy Old Bastard Veteran

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    and "Let's Get Drunk And Screw" by Jimmy Buffet.
     
  17. Mr. Jiggles

    Mr. Jiggles loves your mother.

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    And 'Me So Horny' - 2 Live Crew
     
  18. Boggs6ft7

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    two weeks eh?

    First, stop talking to her on yahoo or any IM. I really wouldn't talk to her anymore until the date. Keeps you from building someone up to something they aren't, and vice versa.

    Three hours is far for someone that is in the practice stages of relationships, don't expect much from this.

    If at any point she says, "Why can't I find a nice guy?" or something along those lines... cut off all communication with this girl. She is damaged goods. Do not think for one second that you are going to be the nice guy that turns this girl around, its not going to happen in your lifetime and really isn't worth your time.

    I agree that going to a movie is a horrible first date. Do something where you get to talk to each other and if you have stopped talking to her on IM, you'll have something to talk about.

    If the date goes well, make plans to see her again BEFORE the date is over. This is standard procedure. If the date does not go well or if something weird happens, don't worry, but DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT talk to her for at least two days afterward. It makes you look desperate. Kinda like when you get older and get a girls number, three days is generally the industry standard before you call, gives you more leverage.

    Be confident and have fun. Since you are on this board, you are a dork. Its ok, we're all dorks here. Confidence trumps dorkiness any day.
     
  19. Dreweido

    Dreweido Veteran TFW2005 Supporter

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    Just go for it... because trust me, 5 years later I have no memory of this 16 you speak of
     
  20. Jux

    Jux Please, call me Steve. Veteran

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    Agreed.

    Just be cool, be yourself, and have a good time. If it doesn't work for her, then F it. Not your fault.
     

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