Girl Advice..Cos' GD is Going to Help So Much

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  1. Ironhide1706

    Ironhide1706 Elessar Telcontar

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    I know everyone's tired of this stuff by now, but hey, I got some good advice last time.

    So here's my story. First day back at school, my first girlfriend dumps me with the ever classic "just want to be friends, but I need space for a few weeks". I'm fine with it, but she gets all annoyed at me for saying hello and the like when I see her in the halls. So I stopped, don't want to piss her off more than I have. It's been three weeks and we've both moved on, haven't spoken since the first week.

    But that's not the thing. I recently found out my ex's best friend has liked me for ages, and by like I don't mean like a crush, I mean serious. But I can't think of her on that way, obviously. So I tell her, I'm sorry but I don't like her like that.

    Now the girl I do have feelings for is a friend who is quite frankly a spectacular girl. Just when I think I might like her for sure, she starts hanging out with-guess who-my ex and her best friend. Now I'm cool with that, I know she isn't doing it to annoy me. But having the girl who likes me, the girl who used to like me and the girl I like who might like me as well in the same area frequently is kind of odd for me. No one knows I like this girl.

    So my question is, how do I go about all of this? I really like this girl, but the girl who likes me is a good friend and I don't want to hurt her more than I already have by going out with her friend. Then there's my ex as well. I should probably say, the girl I like is one of my better friends as well and I highly doubt I will be losing my feelings for her anytime soon.

    So yeah, I'm screwed. Sorry for the long post, some of it I needed to get out of my system as well. So rant/advice thread.
     
  2. JetFormers

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    Oh my that's like almost a love square going on right now. Listen man if you want to shoot the gun and do it all out I say go, and ask out the girl you really like. I mean it's a really blunt advice but you wont really know if the girl you like..Likes you catch my drift? Or you can go the easier but more dangerous route and ask the girl that has a crush on you to find out some info ya digg? I'm no love-wizzard but this is all I can think about...PS-Don't go all stalker mode on this girl you like. :thumbs2: 
     
  3. Atomsplitter

    Atomsplitter Needs a new title.

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    Do all 3 at once, duh.
     
  4. transtrekkie

    transtrekkie On the level.

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    Yay! I get to say it first: Stick it in their poopers.

    EDIT: And now for something that I hope is actually helpful. When I was in high school there was a girl that I liked. She liked me too but I didn't really know it. I did suspect it. Anyway, I spent two weeks working up the nerve to ask her out and someone else beat me to it. The moral of the story is this: Don't wait. Life is short, ask her out and find out what will be rather than what might have been. No guts, no glory.
     
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  5. Wolfguard

    Wolfguard Your own personal Jesus.

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    Get good grades and do your homework <--- that's what your number 1 priority should be. You'll have the rest of your life to deal with relationships and all the drama that comes with them once you've completed HS. Hope that helps.


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  6. Starscream600

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    Dump her. Just like I did. Move on with your life dude. Grades are much more important than girls.
     
  7. tikgnat

    tikgnat Baweepgranaweepninnybong. TFW2005 Supporter

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    I'm actually going to *shock* give out what I genuinely think is best to do.

    Go out on a date(s) with the girl who likes you and see how it goes. If it works out great, if not at least her and you had a shot. You never know, you might have lots in common than you thought.

    The girl you like, eh, its a teenage thing, plenty of fish in the sea and all that. Seriously, don't get caught up over this one girl.

    Your Ex, obviously her blanking you isn't a 'I want to be friends'. The whole 'I want to be friends' line was supposed to be an easy put down.

    Otherwise yes, fall back onto tried and tested TFW advice. Pooper.

    Edit
    Oh and one more thing, grades is the most important thing in HS, but here's the thing, after you leave full time Education the opportunity to meet new girls shrinks SIGNIFICANTLY. Don't ruin your School Work life chasing after girls, but on the other hand you'd be a fool not to sample the girl buffet presented before you everyday.

    Lastly.
    Pooper.
     
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  8. Ironhide1706

    Ironhide1706 Elessar Telcontar

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    Thanks everyone, much appreciated. I'll wait for some more response before commenting on everything individually.
     
  9. Ironhide1706

    Ironhide1706 Elessar Telcontar

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    Sorry to double post, but I just put this in the rant thread and thought posters here might like to know. Pretty much story of the break up with my ex.

    So school started again a few weeks ago after a two week holiday. My girlfriend and I had been keeping in touch all through that time. Ok so we both get back to school, she looks right at me, smiles, and says "I just want to be friends, and I need space for the next few weeks" very quickly. I was ok with it, no big deal it's only high school and all. But obviously my head took it harder than my heart did, because I came up with this idea that I had moved on from her long before she had dumped me. I told this to people two days after we broke up, and I eventually told my ex so she could hear it from me, not one of her friends or mine. So she says, over text, "I have no trust in you. Goodbye", obviously implying she doesn't want to talk to me. I understand, it was my own damn fault. Well then things got more interesting. The next day, she tells me to stop texting her. I comply gladly. Then the next week I say "hi" to her, she turns and walks the other way. Yeah, I know she wanted space but it can't hurt to say hi back. And then she texts me, asking why I was being a dick because I jokingly said to a mutual friend "I'm used to be ditched lately". The friend knew it was a joke, but my ex overheard it. Cue the name calling and "it's your fault" spiel. Then the next day I ask her to please delete my number so she won't text me after she asked me not to text her. Her response is "Don't tell me what to do, leave me alone. Bye." Ok...hypocritical much. Then I get some more random messages calling me stupid names and the like. Well I've moved on, like she asked me to. But she continues to bitch about me to her friends all the time and how none of it is her fault, blah blah blah. I'm not saying it isn't my fault at all, but it wasn't ALL my fault. So despite her "wish" to be friends, we aren't and likely never will be again. But oh well, girls will be girls. I've moved on from liking her to liking a girl who has consistently been there for me and makes me feel happy and complete like my ex never did.
     
  10. Alucard77

    Alucard77 Kaon Gladiator Champion

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    That seems like a bit of revisionist history. But let's go with it.

    OK, so let's rewind a bit here.... Hate to say it, but not sure how this really ends well.

    When something similar happen to me in HS, the girl who really liked me literally went up to my new girlfriend and told her that she would beat the shit out of her. I literally walked up to her and said, "listen, I know you like me and all, but that is not cool. So relax." When she replied with, "Fuck that bitch, she is going down." I replied with, "I know your fucking nuts, but do you really think so. I know so many girls in your school, that if you touch her, your not walking back into school, you fucking pyscho".

    Now the reason I share this story is because, girls are fucking nuts. End of story. Especially in HS. The fact that this new girl you like is hanging with your Ex, that bad mouths you left and right, cannot be good.

    So let's play this out a bit:

    Does this girl you like have other friends.
    If yes, then go for it. This is how it will play out.
    - she will like you back as much as you like her and hang out with you all the time. She will stop hanging with your ex, because that is weird, and your ex will get all pyscho, like she has already shown a tendancy to do. This may bring you guys a bit closer together, saying, wow, what a crazy bitch. So that could work out.

    If no, this is how it will play out.
    - If she likes you, you will have to date in secret, because she doesn't want to hurt your ex's feelings. Which right off the bat is doomed to fail. Unless of course you just want to "stick it in the pooper", then who cares, go for it.
    - She won't date you because of her loyalty to her new friend. I find this a lot more plausible with men then with women. Women say that they are loyal like that, but they are not. Especially in HS.
    - She will date you, but grow to hate you because she cannot hang out with any of her friends anymore. So she kinda loses the person she is.

    So in 1 out of the 4 scenerios you win, and there are factors involved.

    The bigger problem I see is what I see in all HS kids. This chick you like, you already like, and you haven't been really dating or anything. As they would say, "your putting the pussy on a pedestal". What you should do, if you think she is cool is just hang with her. No labels. Just chill. If you like spending time with her, and she likes spending time with you, then cool. You can even make a move. And if she gives you the whole Girlfriend thing, just say, I like hanging with you and think your hot. So what's the problem.

    You seem like you have decent starter game. So now you gotta start building pimp points. Girlfriend/Boyfriend is BS in HS. You know how many people I know that married their HS sweethearts? 0. I am 35 now. None, 0, zilch. You know how many people I know that said, "shit, why did I date her for 3 years in HS?" A LOT. So get that weak concept out of your head. You know what a girlfriend is. Some one you like hanging out with. You don't hang out with them for weeks after you stop liking to hang with them. Your not married and your young. Time for fun.

    So back to the point. Pimp points come from confidence and being able to say what I said above, but believing it for yourself and then being able to convince the girl of it too.

    Now, if you had major pimp points you would scheme to sleep with all 3. This is how I would play it.
    1- Go to your ex and say, "listen, I know your pissed at me and I am sorry if you think I said something or did something. That wasn't my intention. I know we don't like each other in that way any more, but I always thought you were a cool person, so I rather kill any bad blood between us. I am not saying we need to be friends, but just cool with each other. I am cool with you." Then just walk away. No conversation, no discussion. Just walk away before it turns to drama. Let the words sit with her for a bit. I am sure if she is not a fucking pyscho, she will be cool with that.

    Seed 1 planted.

    2- The girl that likes you. You need to flirt with her, here and there. Give her a glimmer of hope. Don't bring up girlfriend/boyfriend or anything else of the sort. Don't let her bring it up. You can even throw in, I love hanging with you girls. You are all cool as shit. She will take that to mean her. Just let that sit.

    Seed 2 planted.

    3- The girl you like. Well, that you think you like. Hang with her like normal, and play the whole, I like to chill with you angle. When your fooling around with her, throw out experimenting to feel out the waters. Keep pushing the experimenting angle and see if she takes the ball and runs with it. You'd be surprised. Just make sure she doesn't stick it in your pooper.

    Anyway, so play that angle for like a month or so. Then throw out the idea of threesome. She'll scoff and you can play it smooth and say, what, you never been curious? Then end it, if she keeps being pissy. But still bring it up over time.

    Seed 3 planted.

    4- This one is tricky. You gotta do something that makes you the man, and makes everyone not as cool as you. You gotta figure that out for yourself. For me, it was an epic house party I had, and the fact I use to get the best weed in school.

    So, in that moment, when all three are hanging out, what you do is start making out with the girl you like in front of you ex. If you catch your ex staring, then turn to her and kiss her too. If your new girl gets pissed, tell them they should make out with each other. If they go for it. Your golden.

    The girl which likes you, can join in at any time. She already wants to bang you, and there is all types of interesting shit going on. So she may do it.

    Now, if this all succeeds. Plan to never see this people ever again. Also, deny everything. If you go around saying, I banged all three it doesn't work well for you. If they say anything, they will say how big of a jerk you are, which gets other girls interested in you.

    Ah man, HS was so much fun.

    But in all honesty, the problem you HS kids have is that you think with your penis or your emotions. What you need to do is form a game plan for what you want and how you want to get it. When something goes wrong, you gotta improvise and think of alternate angles.

    This is true for everything in life. Learn those things, and your pimp points will be off the charts, plus you will be successful.
     
  11. tikgnat

    tikgnat Baweepgranaweepninnybong. TFW2005 Supporter

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    Quick question, why even say you had moved on long before she broke up with you?
     
  12. Team Jetfire

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    Stay single for a while. You just broke up with a girl, why jump into something again so quickly.

    Also, if all the girls are friends it could really turn out badly for you...seriously. You already have one girl not impressed with you; if you blow off the one that likes you, she will be mad and then they will convince the 3rd, who you like, to eventually not like you either. YOU WILL NOT WIN.

    Like they say, there are plenty other fish in the sea and even more porn on the internet...
     
  13. Aernaroth

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    Oh god, I had to read that like 6 times, my eyes just kept glazing over a line or two into this high school drama. Maybe if you wrote a little more clearly it'd be better, because between that and the amount of caffiene I've had, it's just blurring into a nearly unintelligible, literally sophomoric mass of text.


    So I'm just going to shoot from the hip here, for the above mentioned reasons. Your original now-ex, let's call her girl A (as in A for Algebra is the only way I can make sense of this bizzare love triangle thing you've got going on) seems to have broken up with you using the "let's be friends" cliche, which makes me think she didn't want to be in a relationship with you, but didn't want to hurt your feelings either. You make it sound like you and girl A are in the same social circle, so it's likely she would want to avoid creating animosity or an awkward situation with you, since she knew she'd have to be around you again. There's probably more to this you're not saying, especially since you say you were "fine with it" and paint her as aggressively reacting to simple greetings from you.

    Girl B (as in B for best friend of your ex) "likes" you, but its "not a crush" (whatever the hell that means, since she hasn't been dating you, and you were apparently completely oblivious to her feelings). I assume she's also part of this same social group if she's known you for a while. So she's interested in you, and it feels like a really awkward situation. Well yeah, no shit it's going to be awkward, she's basically just confessed her "not a crush" love to the person her best friend just broke up with a few weeks ago (I mean, shit moves quick in high school, but damn that's fast). So if you get with her, you're going to have to deal with the fact her best friend is the girl you just broke up with, since apparently your relationship ceasing hasn't affected theirs (why should it, I guess?). She sounds like a real winner, either completely oblivious or inconsiderate, frankly. Which is redundant, I suppose, since it sounds like you're not interested in her in the goddamn first place. And then there's a third girl, girl C (as in C for connected to A and B in a chain of drama), who YOU like, but you have no idea if she's even interested in you. Do you really think it's worth having to date someone who is connected to not only the girl you just broke up with AND the girl who's affections you'll be spurning in getting with girl C? Is she honestly worth that kind of hassle to you? Are these the only three girls in your entire town?

    You know what you should do? Date neither. Avoid what will most certainly turn into ridiculous high-school sitcom drama bullshit. Expand your social circle. If you must date, date someone who isn't emotionally attached to someone you've already unsuccessfully had romantic entanglements with. Or, go whole hog and date girl B while trying to get with girl C, then come back and update this thread when it inevitably turns into a catastrophe. I mean, I could suggest you try and make this into a triple (or a quadruple) rather than a couple, but the fact you're asking for love advice on a Transformers forum makes me pretty sure you aren't smooth enough to pull that off.
     
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  14. TheDemonDzko

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    Stick it in her sister's pooper.
     
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    There seems to be something missing from this story. But whatever it is, I'm just gonna say that this is a bunch of bullshit (with your ex) and you should really just let it go and move on the best you can. Ignore her, don't even talk to her or look at her. It seems that's what she wants, so let her have it.

    In the mean time, ask that other girl you like out. If that don't work out, there's always college. Who knows, that girl that really likes you.....you might change your mind about her one day. So many possibilities. Why let yourself get all hung up over one person?
     
  16. Moonscream

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    Because it amuses me to do so, I'm going to answer.

    Stay the hell away from all three of them. As long as they're friends, the girl you're interested in is going to be hearing ALLLL about you from someone who apparently hates you now and is 'warning' her new friend about you. Be smart and look elsewhere.

    --Moony
     
  17. toaster

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    Pardon my language, but don't give a shit. Having a woman isn't all it's cracked up to be. Especially in HS. You're still young, just have fun and really care about your school work because in the end, women are only good for 2 things.: bow chicka bow wow and sandwiches. Then again, I did get a unsettling letter from my therapist....
     
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    stick - in - poopers / end thread.
     
  19. TheDemonDzko

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    Just stay friends with the girl you like, and even the girl who likes you. Who knows? You may grow to have feelings for her in the future. Don't put titles in your friendship, don't try to "make a move", just stay cool. Trust me. :) 
     

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