friend vs work; advice!

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Nerd Bomber, Apr 25, 2006.

  1. Nerd Bomber

    Nerd Bomber Consulting your needs

    Joined:
    Jul 16, 2002
    Posts:
    5,690
    Trophy Points:
    211
    Likes:
    +0
    So for the past few months I've been planning to move to the NYC area after graduation. I have a friend that I was going to room with (he's going to graduate school) and is a pretty close friend since back before high school. We had planned on getting an apartment together to split the cost so we can afford to live there. I've some potential job opportunities although nothing is for certain yet (still a couple more interviews to get through). Today though I received notice that the owners of a very good company in the area recommended me to the CIO of a company for a job offer (I know the CIO too) which is a great opportunity. I wanted to get out of the area (damn you new hampshire!) for some urban living. I feel little nerdy asking on a message board this sort of life altering decisions but...

    Do I take the offer here and potentially kill what has been a good friendship, and give up my desire to move out of the state, or do I go with a really good job opportunity and company?
     
  2. MegaMoonMan

    MegaMoonMan www.megamoonman.com TFW2005 Supporter

    Joined:
    Jul 13, 2004
    Posts:
    17,235
    News Credits:
    3
    Trophy Points:
    322
    Likes:
    +29
    Ebay:
    YouTube:
    Whatever makes you happiest, I'd say. I don't think anyone can answer that but you, everyone has slightly different priorities.
     
  3. KA

    KA PENIS GOES WHERE?!!

    Joined:
    Jul 23, 2003
    Posts:
    23,222
    News Credits:
    2
    Trophy Points:
    312
    Likes:
    +17
    you say you just graduated so i'm guessing youre less than 25.

    based on that, i'd recommend you go to NY. itll be great. new environment, new experience. itll expand your world.

    if the local job is REALLY good, that means youll be in it for the long run. at your age and level of experience, i'd say, give yourself 3-5 years to settle into a job/place that is more permanent.

    also, once youve expanded your world view, itll compliment your skills in the future, as opposed to being the guy who studied and immediately worked in the same place for years.
     
  4. MikeTSI

    MikeTSI The Reclaimer TFW2005 Supporter

    Joined:
    Jun 28, 2004
    Posts:
    1,948
    Trophy Points:
    191
    Likes:
    +0
    Ebay:
    If this person is a really good friend, they should understand your choice if you take the job. If not, that would be pretty selfish of them.
     
  5. Predaking

    Predaking Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Nov 29, 2002
    Posts:
    9,991
    Trophy Points:
    211
    Likes:
    +0
    Go with your heart, I say. If you don't think you can find a better job in the big city then go with this job. If you still rather live in NYC and experience the city life then go for it, you can find job anywhere you know.
     
  6. Random Autobot

    Random Autobot Soviet Kanukistani

    Joined:
    Sep 19, 2003
    Posts:
    6,608
    Trophy Points:
    211
    Likes:
    +0
    Go for the adventure and new experience, man. You're young, there's plenty of time to find work.
     
  7. Sonscreen

    Sonscreen Casual TF collector<br><b><font color=#FF0000>aksm TFW2005 Supporter

    Joined:
    Sep 15, 2004
    Posts:
    5,610
    Trophy Points:
    241
    Likes:
    +0
    This is my house. Stay the heck out. This city is crowded enough already.

    :)  Just kidding, jobs you can get anytime, good friends on the other hand are hard to come by. So come on over.
     
  8. Shipwreck

    Shipwreck Will smack your bitch

    Joined:
    Jan 10, 2003
    Posts:
    2,387
    Trophy Points:
    186
    Likes:
    +0
    I'd go with the job. In huggy bear fantasy land all bills are paid and friends frolock in fields. But this is the real world and a good job opp is always good. Like its been said. He is really is a good friend he'll understand and be your friend no matter what.
     
  9. Seth Buzzard

    Seth Buzzard R.I.P. Buzzbeak Content Contributor

    Joined:
    Jul 1, 2002
    Posts:
    15,168
    News Credits:
    3
    Trophy Points:
    282
    Likes:
    +4
    You can make new friends.
     
  10. KA

    KA PENIS GOES WHERE?!!

    Joined:
    Jul 23, 2003
    Posts:
    23,222
    News Credits:
    2
    Trophy Points:
    312
    Likes:
    +17
    it's frolic, you savage. frolic!

    *heavy breathing, heavy breathing*
     
  11. MegaMoonMan

    MegaMoonMan www.megamoonman.com TFW2005 Supporter

    Joined:
    Jul 13, 2004
    Posts:
    17,235
    News Credits:
    3
    Trophy Points:
    322
    Likes:
    +29
    Ebay:
    YouTube:
    Frylock? How did he get into this?
     
  12. misterd

    misterd Well-Known Member

    Joined:
    Aug 10, 2002
    Posts:
    3,700
    Trophy Points:
    186
    Likes:
    +0
    I really don't know you well enough to speak my mind, but that's never stopped me before.

    The move to NY sounds to me what your heart wants, the job what your head demands. Following your heart at this point is going to be more difficult, but may be the way to go.

    First, consider that as the newbie in NY, you get bumped down on the toy priority list, meaning you'll be the last person to get any new toys.

    Second, consider the cost of living in NY, which is abyssmal (my friend has an apartment in Yonkers, for which the rent costs more than what my wife and I pay for our Orange County mortgage). It is not a great place to go without having some form of employment set up. The last thing you want is to go to NY and have to run home after a few months for lack of funds.

    Still, if you are sure you have the financial means to stick it out in NYC even if these jobs don't work out, I would strongly suggest considering NY. Besides being a great place to live - great food, theater, porn, museums, and the omni-present terrorist threat - there are simply many more opportunities. If you are persistent, SOMETHING will break. Living on bread and water for a bit sucks, but it can make for great memories, especially when shared with a friend. And Ka is absolutely right when he says your experiences in NY will almost certainly make you more attractive to employers in the future.

    And I may add that NYC is loaded with single women (and if you're into guys, there's always Christopher St).

    The job at home sounds nice. It doesn't necessarily sound great, because you've left out many details. If its the job of your dreams, or a once in a lifetime opportunity, then forget what I said earlier and take it. Anything less, then I'm not sure what the benefit is besides quicker security. Besides, if things got bad, and you already have an in with this company, there's a good chance other offers could come down the road. I would suggest thanking them (personally if possible), and offering gratitude, but explain that you want to try something different (do not in anyway hint that you want to use them for a backup plan- that's just rude). You're young, and I'm sure they'll understand.

    As for your friend, so long as you don't dick him over at the last minute, he should understand it if you chose the great opportunity.

    So that's my advice. The final decision is yours. Only you truly know what is best for you.

    Good luck.
     
  13. Lance Halberd

    Lance Halberd oh hai

    Joined:
    Feb 17, 2003
    Posts:
    5,780
    News Credits:
    3
    Trophy Points:
    211
    Likes:
    +3
    Follow the money.
     
  14. KA

    KA PENIS GOES WHERE?!!

    Joined:
    Jul 23, 2003
    Posts:
    23,222
    News Credits:
    2
    Trophy Points:
    312
    Likes:
    +17
    dont follow the money!

    listen to your heart, when its calling for you.
     
  15. Chaos Muffin

    Chaos Muffin Misadventure Veteran

    Joined:
    Mar 26, 2004
    Posts:
    28,751
    Trophy Points:
    322
    Likes:
    +4
    Follow your compass, with the mighty umbrellica sword! !
     
  16. Foster

    Foster Super Mod

    Joined:
    Mar 26, 2003
    Posts:
    32,053
    News Credits:
    7
    Trophy Points:
    312
    Likes:
    +11
    I'd live with Frylock, but never Master Shake. Dude is the Antichrist. And Meatwad, I would cook and eat him with A.1 Steak Sauce if it came to it. That's how I choose roommates.
     
  17. MegaMoonMan

    MegaMoonMan www.megamoonman.com TFW2005 Supporter

    Joined:
    Jul 13, 2004
    Posts:
    17,235
    News Credits:
    3
    Trophy Points:
    322
    Likes:
    +29
    Ebay:
    YouTube:
    Eat him? He's all hairy from rolling around. Ick.
     
  18. Lance Halberd

    Lance Halberd oh hai

    Joined:
    Feb 17, 2003
    Posts:
    5,780
    News Credits:
    3
    Trophy Points:
    211
    Likes:
    +3
    You can put your heart in one hand and your paycheck in the other, and see which one keeps you sheltered, clothed, fed, and off the streets panhandling for spare change and giving bjs to truckers in exchange for a warm place to sleep at night.
     

Share This Page